Alexia: Technically it's called polyandry;
a woman with two husbands who kind of like each other.
Libby: Alexia, Doug and Jacob's relationship is not the norm.
Jacob: It's not boring, that's for sure.
Alexia: A lot of males when they find out that I have two husbands, they always..
Jacob: They think it’s a free for all.
Alexia: They always say, 'Do you want a third?'
Jacob: It all happened by an accident.
Doug: Alexia and I dated with other girls on and off.
Alexia: Yeah it's actually pretty interesting.
As soon as I technically started dating Jake and he entered our family, we kind of
were just done with that other lifestyle.
Jacob: It seemed like a good idea.
And it was because I was the type of person where, it's just like, I can't show love to just one person.
Alexia: Every single polyamorous relationship is set up differently.
So each person has different rules, different boundaries.
Oh the kids love it - extra presents!
From everybody, multiple families.
Jacob: Another grandma.
Skyler: I got three parents, I don’t really think of my step-dad as like a full-on dad but that's it.
Donovan: I just think of like them as like
normal family how every other family is basically.
Alexia: We are pretty specific with the kids to let them know to keep it probably to a
minimum just so it's not acceptable,
socially acceptable, we know that.
Doug: Sometimes I think about what their friends may think or you know if they get any type of teasing or
anything like that in school because of our relationship.
Jacob: Even if their friends or their parents question them,
I mean, honestly, they can question them all they want.
But it's not their business as they're just like, 'Well, who is that?'
All you need is to be like, 'That's the guy who takes care of me' That's it.
That’s it.
Alexia: It's the nanny.
Alexia: As Christie says, he's the nanny.
Alexia: Your Highness.
Jacob: Not too much. Because every time I give you stuff like this, you only put it in your hair.
Jacob: And now a lot of people ask me, 'So what is he, like a brother husband?'
I'm just like, not really. I was just like, he's just Doug.
Alexia: All the above
Doug: Yeah all the above.
Doug: While we have another male in
our relationship, there's no sexual desire from me towards him.
Jacob: I love him to death.
So I don't necessarily have to feel like I need to have sex with him to show him love.
Jacob: Hey, don't make a mess, please.
Thank you.
Christie: Thank you. Jacob:Thank you.
Alexia: Yes, we all sleep in the same bed and I sleep in the middle.
Jacob: I don't even really like being cuddled with at night.
So having two other people involved is like really difficult for me, because I'm like, the whole vampire thing.
Which is like, just don't touch me.
Doug: I mean, I don’t like being...
Alexia: It's like a prison bed.
Doug: I don’t like being all laid on.
Jacob: For me, it's more like when I come home from work,
and they've both kind of like migrated over to my side. So I got like, a little edge like this.
Alexia: Oh please.
Alexia: Yeah right. He literally just shakes me, he's like move over
Jacob: Get over, yeah.
Doug: You know, as far as jealousy goes, you know, occasionally you get that feeling
of wanting to be wanted. And I mean that I think that's natural.
There's no competition, you know, rivalry no way.
Jacob: We've been together for eight years.
She kind of like does the best that she can and tries to balance it out.
Alexia: Sometimes when they talk about other girls, and I keep hearing their name come up,
I'm like, 'Who is this?' Like so, yeah.
Sometimes, but that's just natural human being.
Do I think they're going to come over and take over my entire life?
Girl, go ahead. I got lots of bills to pay.
Alexia: Today, we invited family over.
We're just going to have a barbecue.
Alexia: It was a little tough. Some family members are obviously not on board.
Jacob: Most of the time, it was really hard for
my mom to accept it right away.
She honestly thought that it was going to fail.
Libby: I think that when they first started out, it was a little hard to understand.
Because I've only been in a monogamy relationship.
Jacob: My dad thought that this was a joke.
And he was like, oh, he'll come back and they're just so old school, you know.
Woman: She saw Jake come over and kiss you and she had no idea.
Doug: She thought she was witnessing really bad.
Libby: But over time watching their family grow and how they interact together,
I think that they do this very well.
Jacob: I'm not going to hide anything from anybody.
Doug: But we don't sugarcoat anything.
It is what it is. If they're not happy for me because I'm happy then you know,
Alexia: Not my problem Doug: That's their choice.
Alexia: Now, we got to colour eggs.
Female Speaker: What is this? Alexia: I don't know I'm reading.
Doug: Right now it's three but could it be more down the road?
Absolutely. You know, there is a benefit to having a lot of people and a lot of people
to lean on and that kind of thing.
Usually when, you know, people come over and they see the household and how things are and how
we live our lives.
You know, they say that, 'Wow, man, that really is great. And you guys are well off and you're doing well.'
Jacob: When you have the people that are with you for as long as we've been together,
I mean honestly we always ask where that person's at? Where's Doug at? Where's Alexia at?
When are they going to get home?
So is three a crowd?
Doug: It's not a crowd for us.
You know, it's comfortable.
Jacob: When they say the word 'throuple', a three person couple, I just see it as..
Alexia: We're just a family. Jacob: Yes.