Guys, what's going on?
I have a very special guest.
Today, we're talking about how to make a girl laugh.
I'm sitting here with very funny comedian,
Jason Horton with the YouTube channel youtube.com/jasonhorton.
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Really funny stuff.
He talks a lot about dating.
I thought, how perfect would it be to have comedian here, teach us how to be funny and
knows a lot about dating himself.
Jason, what's up, man?
Thank you for having me.
Yeah, the reason comedians do comedy, I would have to say this or not, is to get women.
They start, they're like, they got into comedy because they're like, I'm not tall or good
looking.
Or I have a lot of money, but I am good at making a girl laugh.
That will get you there.
By there, I mean, dating or sex or marriage or sex.
You know we live in a city.
I've always live in Metro Holland city.
It's easy to be good looking because you're born that way.
Or it may be easy to have money because you're good at a job, or you were born with money.
But you're not born with the gift of making people.
Specific, people laugh.
You don't mean like different people, women respond to different types of humor and knowing
how to gauge that is also super important because it's not a catch all.
You know what I mean?
It's not like one joke fits all.
I wish it was.
Then you use that all the time.
Yeah, I would just use that all the time.
But luckily, I've been studying improv for over 10 years.
The ability to switch gears is when people like oh, how do you, one, be good at improv?
Two, how do you talk to women?
The ability to switch gears in a conversation is and I've learned that from improv, is I
think the most important thing, because what if things aren't going well or it's not going
the way you want to?
Can you switch gears and make it go in a different direction without getting flustered?
You know what I mean?
Like guys have egos.
You know what I mean?
Your confidence could get you shook and you don't want to shake that confidence, switch
gears.
It's just like you're on a date and they have different interests.
Knowing a little bit about those interests, I mean, you can go do online dating and like,
oh yeah, I know a little bit about that.
I know enough about that.
I could make a joke about it, be light about it.
They're like, oh, he knows a little bit about me and he made me laugh about a subject that
I find interesting.
What are some good tips that you can give us so these guys can learn exactly how to
make a girl laugh?
What's some of your go to stuff or what some of the examples or theories behind actually
getting somebody to laugh?
I guess at the end of the day, doesn't really matter if you're making a girl laugh or guy
laugh.
I'm sure you're probably using the same type of comedy.
Absolutely.
I've had sex with girls strictly because they were funny.
I honestly, because I would see them perform.
It's capturing whether it's a room, capturing a small room, a big room.
You're at a party, this one dude making everyone laugh.
You're already like going, this person is controlling the room.
Why are they controlling the room?
You get caught up in that as a fan of somebody who's like I want to be.
I want to be wooed.
I want to be wowed.
One of the most important things is, you know what?
I'm a comedian, Jewish, I'm self deprecating.
I can make fun of myself in a way that's not sad.
Because some people like, just like on Facebook, they get very sad about themselves.
Maybe like, oh, you seem really sad and desperate, I'm definitely going to have sex with you.
Never works.
But if you're self deprecating, like you know, I have flaws.
I own them.
I know them.
What's up girl?
My car has a tape deck one go for..you know what I mean?
I might have the last car with a tape deck, but I own that.
I've let her know I have a shitty car.
I have a shitty car and it has a tape deck but I am owning it.
I'm not trying to be like, my car has.. guys flaws it so much.
They're putting up these walls of like, look at my car keys, look at my bank account.
Girls don't care about that.
Because you're in any city, there's enough women out there that are attractive, that
they've already had so many guys waved their car keys in their face.
Or they like, I do hedge funds.
I don't know that's what a cool good looking guys do.
We're all doing hedge funds, but not enough people are confident in their own flaws.
I take those flaws, I own them and I'm good at them.
I'm good at playing up my flaws.
That's a really good tip too.
I know self deprecation can be really funny.
I think there's a fine line between doing it too much and just doing it enough.
Where is that?
Because I don't want a guy going, I'm awesome.
Now I'm gonna go to start making fun of myself.
Because if you go overboard, I think it's going to get to the point where the girls
like, wow, why he's just like..
It's too much.
How do you find that line?
When it was a little, taking the temperature of the room.
You know what I mean?
You have to really be paying attention.
That's the thing, listening to women is for me, whether it's being funny or not, is so
important.
I feel like I've had sex just because I was listening.
I was able to remember something they say.
Most dudes are talking at women like, yeah, yeah, yeah, when is this going to move forward?
I'm actually listening to what they're saying.
I'm pretty good at taking the temperature of the room, and being able to pull back if
I need to.
You want to like, push, push, push, pull back a little bit.
You don't want to be too much on it because you want them to take you seriously too.
It's disarming them.
You're not coming on too strong, but you're not too meek about it too.
The confidence is there.
Confidence doesn't have to be like, look at me, I'm so great.
Confidence gonna be like, take a look at me.
I'm okay.
You're just aware of it.
Yeah, I'm just very aware.
It's like different girls like different things.
Sometimes they do it just to disarm them.
Then I get down to like, what's your deal, girl?
I'm letting you know that I don't take myself too seriously because we're out.
It's a Friday night.
It's not like we're not getting married tomorrow.
I think most dudes are put so much pressure on.
Like, I'm going out tonight.
I'm dressed up.
I got my cologne on.
I’ve done my hair.
They put so much.
I've hooked up more, pulling the dirty t shirt off the floor and putting it on, like not
caring.
Then I have it, I'm going out tonight.
I look good.
I feel good.
Nothing happens.
Because I put so much pressure on that.
When you don't put so much pressure on it, they could tell.
Girls, they can tell.
They can read that.
They can read that, listen girls, come on strong to me.
I read that, I'm like, I do like this because I feel like you.
It might be easy to hook up with you.
But I'm also like, I mean, do I really, I don't know.
It's a huge turnoff in the sense of, I don't really respect you that much.
I think same with guys.
Give us one more example like self deprecation and how that would work?
Something someone could say, that's self deprecating,
but also funny and it's not like too much.
Sure.
I think it’s taking the pressure and pulling the rug out of calling out what we're doing
here.
Listen, I'm a guy, you're a girl.
I'm talking to you.
I don't need directions anywhere.
You know what I mean?
I'm talking like, we know why we're talking.
I think owning that too.
Owning the fact that we're two people talking and I'm interested.
I think letting them know that you're interested in a funny way, and just being honest about
it is super important.
It is, it’s just like, look, we're either, we're in a crappy bar, we're at a dumb restaurant,
if it's like an online date.
You know what I mean?
Or at some club unfortunately.
Taking a look around you, making fun of other people is also like, do you want to seem like
someone who's trying to build yourself up by knocking other people down?
It's not that.
But it's okay to be like, listen, I know I'm just warming you up, like there’s a super
hot guy with the fake tan at the end of the bar.
I don't mind being your training guy.
It's letting them know that like you're calling out the fact that this is the reality of our
situation.
These girls gonna be thinking like, I don't.
That guy's gross.
I don't want that guy.
Like, I feel safe around you.
You're like, I'm really confident, I'm so comfortable with myself and my flaws.
They sense that immediately and lets their guard down.
For women to laugh, they need to be comfortable.
You could take two people to make a girl laugh and one person made them comfortable, the
other person didn't.
They could be saying the exact same thing, but if the girl is not comfortable, she's
gonna want to laugh and be exposed in that way.
Like, I'm laughing in front of you.
I'm showing a side of myself.
That's hard for them to do sometimes.
Take those things.
This is probably not traditionally appealing, and really look inside and go what is cool?
About the fact that I drive a crappy car, that I don't have a lot of money, that I dropped
out of college five times.
You know what I mean?
I take those things, and I bring them right to the surface in a way where it's just like,
listen girl, I'm not trying to sweep off your feet, but if you want to go to after this,
we can get that.
We can get a dessert.
We can do two for 20.
We could do that.
I know you're thinking, oh, you're just throwing your money around, whatever, you're worth
it.
I mean, as long as it's under $30, you just let them know like that.
That might be your, their thing.
Some girls might be like, I don't care about your money, I have tons of money.
Or I can have any guy that take me out to dinner and buy me stuff.
I want someone I can feel comfortable with.
Then he’ll make me laugh.
Sometimes just getting like, if you both love a certain comedian or if you love Adam Sandler
movies, or you just love 3 brothers movies or something like that.
Getting in front of that and just watching that together, but then do the comedy because
you're both sharing that in general.
That reap the benefits.
Also, set the way we talk about sex, like you don't have to always be cool about sex.
You know what I mean?
I'm always, listen girl, I'm known to get a little freaky, usually the socks on.
I look into weird stuff.
You don't mean like, I'm gonna take my socks off.
I'm really good at missionary.
I don't know any other ones.
It's just calling that out and you're putting sex in their brain.
You know this stuff.
You're planting those seeds of sex.
We're doing it in such a harmless way.
You're making fun of yourself like, listen girl, I can go 2, 3 minutes.
That way anymore.
You know pizza huts, we gotta get pizza.
It's just you're planting those seeds of nerdiness like uncoolness, and things that are nerdy
that are super popular now.
Comic Cons, geek culture, all that kind of stuff.
The stuff we got beat up about when I was in high school.
Back then I would have been getting laid because I was such a nerd.
There's something in comedy with timing.
That's one of the aspects that you have to get down.
When you said that you're like, one, two, and then you pause.
It's just three minutes.
Like using those pauses really makes for the effect of the comment.
It's awkward without making anyone feel uncomfortable.
Everyone loves a funny, awkward, everyone loves that.
You watch any romantic comedy?
It's this awkward thing that's going on, like these pretty pauses that are awkward on purpose.
Not awkward because it's uncomfortable, awkward.
It takes time.
I mean, it's not something that it's taken me like, I've always been pretty good at it
since I was younger.
I've always been interested in dating and women.
I wasn't interested in drinking and partying.
I was always obsessed with it.
But it is something that takes a little bit of work just like anything else.
You don't have to buy it.
You don't have, you're not going to be 6'3.
If you're 5 foot, I'm not going to be 6 foot, whatever.
I'm always going to be this height.
Why don't I just take what I have, nurture that and make that better.
Rather than being like, we need to borrow my friend's car so it looks like I have a
nice car.
Why?
You can't sustain that.
You could sustain this.
You could sustain whatever you have.
I love it.
Yeah.
Boom, boom.
Go out there.
Guys, this is Jason Horton, teaching us about how to make a girl laugh and talking a lot
about self deprecation.It’s really, really a good key for making girls laugh.
Jason, thanks for being here.
Thanks for having me.
Really appreciate it.
Hopefully we'll do another one.
Absolutely.
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