- In this video I will share with you
a couple of really playful comebacks
that you can use with a guy you're dating
or if you're in a relationship or if you're married
just to kind of lighten things up a bit, spice it up,
but also set in a boundary in a fun way.
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So, I've been asking ladies in my VIP group
to share some of the comebacks
that we used with their boyfriends.
And I picked out, I think, seven or eight best ones,
or actually might even add up to 10.
So anyway, stick to the end,
because obviously the last one will be the best one.
Okay, so let's just get on with it.
First, so this lady's boyfriend was making fun of her
that she talks a lot.
So she says, Today's: "Him jokingly making fun
of the fact that I was talking a lot.
And he said, 'You are relentless,
you just go on and on,' what she said back, she said,
'Well, I wish I had the same problem with you.'"
You see like the banter is so amazing,
because not only that she did not get offended
him saying, but she talks too much.
She actually turned it on him
and made him a little bit on the edge
by saying, 'well, actually,
I wish I had the same problem too,
'cause you talk too little."
Ladies, by the way with comebacks,
just a quick kind of note,
only banter with a guy, if you are secure and confident,
so with the jokes you can set in boundaries,
you can create some spice
and you can get away with many things,
but you also need to be very secure to do that.
If you are insecure
and you're trying to sit in a boundary with a joke,
when he fires back
and let's say he is secure and he fires back,
you might not be able to handle it
and you might take it personally.
Only banter, like that
if you can yourself handle his comebacks.
Another note, not every single guy likes to banter.
And if you, let's say, throw something at him
and he ignores it or he doesn't respond to that,
a lot of times it can mean but this type of guy
is not into things like that.
So, take a notice of that and just don't do it,
'cause it's not gonna work.
And also you need to have a good sense
of when is the right time to do it and then it's not.
It's like, When you're bantering, it's fun,
but at the same time, you kind of are walking on the edge.
So if you are a type of person
who has a lot of experience and loves walking on the edge,
it's for you.
If you are not that type of person, just don't do it.
Okay, anyway, continuing.
Right, this is fun.
(indistinct) says, "If a guy says, 'I can see you like me.'"
So you know, the way you're on a date.
And he says like, "Oh, I can see you're in love with me."
Or, "I can see how much you like me."
And he kinda like is trying to make you admit
that you really like him, so she's saying, be playful.
And just say, "I think you banged your head today."
And it's a really fun comeback and you don't have to answer:
Yeah, I like you, if you don't want to.
The other one is, "Oh, you're wearing red lipstick
to impress me?"
And the comeback is: Stop mixing dreams with reality.
But when you do these comebacks, have a smirk on your face,
like don't do it in a way,
stop mixing dreams between reality.
That is not how it goes.
Do it at the smirk, but fun,
so like he can see that you're joking.
It's really important, that smirk and that fun,
so he can see that your eyes are like lightening up,
when you say things like that,
because that comeback's a lot is not what you say,
but how you say it.
Because if you say the same thing
in a very meaningful way
but to kind of trying to dig at a person,
it's not gonna work,
you can actually really offend somebody.
But if you're doing it
in a really kind of like lighthearted, but smirk,
you know, the eyes lightening up,
the person can see, but you're being playful.
They're not going to take things to the heart
and they will understand that, okay, it's game time.
We can play this game.
So this is where a lot of people actually get it wrong.
You know, it's like they, instead of being playful
we try to dig and to hurt you with a comeback.
And, but that's not a comeback
that's not banter, that's just hurting somebody.
It's invalid. It doesn't work like that.
Okay, another lady says here:
"I saw brilliant comeback once where a man said,
'Women who wear makeup are basically false advertising,'
and the woman responded:
'It really isn't my fault
if men are stupid enough to believe
I really do have red and gold eyelids.'"
If a man tells you something like this, here you go.
Perfect answer.
Oh, I love this one. I love this one.
This is really good.
And I would actually say,
ladies, write it down because nowadays
we kind of come across these situations a lot.
"So there was the one I gave when he made a comment
about me taking him out to dinner.
And I said, 'I would take him out when he wore a dress.'
He never mentioned it again."
Love this one, love this one.
Next one is kind of cheeky, fun one.
So only use it if you know a guy can handle it.
Again, there are types who can handle it
and there are types who will get too insecure.
So make sure you know the type of guy you're dating.
So the guy, let's say, you're cuddling up together,
all of that, and he says,
"I want to stay like this forever."
If you are high value, you will hear a lot of that.
You won't be able to like let you out of his hands.
So if you are high value, you is gonna be telling you
he's gonna be taking the moon and the stars for you.
So when he tells you, I want to stay like this forever
and he's waiting for you to say like,
Oh, you know I'm so in love with you.
And instead you reply something,
"Don't you ever want to improve?"
I love that.
It's fun because you kind of not giving him...
You're keeping his mind wandering.
You're kind of like, maybe like you, maybe I don't,
but here I'm cuddling with you
and I'm listening to you saying
that I want to be able to forever,
yet at the same time, I'm still bantering,
I'm still making it fun, so you still don't really have me.
This is what guys go like, yeah, they love that.
They love that.
They will never admit it, but they love that.
But again, you need to know what type of guy you're dating,
'cause if you say this to a guy who's insecure,
it's not gonna work.
Another one only if you're dating a cool,
very secure guy who likes to banter.
"When you take a picture together
or when he posts a picture of you together:
'If there's one thing I'm infinitely proud of
in this picture, it's the incredible hair styling
that I did on myself.'"
So instead of like, let's say,
let's say, there is a picture on Facebook of you both.
And like, you know, you're all cuddly,
it's all lovely-dovey, all of that.
And instead of saying like, Oh, blah, blah,
you're so the love of my life,
you make a comment, oh wow,
I love my hair styling in here.
So it kind of like, the picture is there
and the picture you both together,
it's obvious you are a couple,
but by saying I love my hairstyle in it,
you're still keeping a bit of kind of uncertainty
and you put a bit of banter and cheekiness,
it's kind of like, I'm still not that blown away
by you being smooth and lovey-dovey,
'cause I'm looking at my hairstyle rather than us cuddling.
It leaves that...
It makes him wonder.
And it makes him like, kind of really come after you.
It's perfect for men who are really confident.
Again, if a guy's insecure, it may not work.
If he can really get the joke, it will work,
like, it's gonna be beautiful.
The other one is really, really good.
So I have two left.
The other one is really good.
So let's say, he ate and he left the mess in the kitchen.
And what my client did, she saw the mess in the kitchen
and she didn't tidy it up, and she left it til the next day.
And the next day he wakes up
and there's still a big mess in the kitchen,
and he's like, "Yo, what's your problem?
Isn't it a woman's job to clean this mess up?"
And she said, "Yes, of course, or clean,
once you will become a man
and start paying all of my bills."
So, you know, she said, when she came back home,
everything was nice and clean.
And the last one, which is really good.
So if you're dating somebody
who likes to play little games here and there,
and let's see you have a beautiful sister
or beautiful sisters,
after a while he might try to throw in a comment
to see, are you insecure,
or do you compete with your sister and so on.
So he might say like, wow, your sister is so beautiful.
So just say, Oh thank you. Of course, she's beautiful.
She's like my sister.
Kind of saying like, thank you.
Our genetics are amazing, good genetics.
So yeah, ladies, we spoke a comebacks
that I would recommend.
Again, be careful to use it.
I would really recommend to you get my video
which I have for sale, Games Men Play on Women,
as it kind of aligns with all of that.
So when guys play games with you,
you don't fall into their trap
and don't get manipulated and you know how to respond.
So your value in his eyes goes up
rather than giving him a green light
how to manipulate and play you by reacting
or overreacting to his games.
Please let me know what did you think about comebacks
in the comments below, which one was your favorite?
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