SHARES
SHARES WI4@TH 4@MANNED AFOUR TI ON HAVING MORE COMPASSION IN A COMBATIVE WORLD.
>> COME PATH 4@IS THE CRUX OF
CONNECTION, RIGHT?
AN WE ALL ARE DESPERATE FOR
MORE CONNECTION THESE DAYS.
THE PANDEMIC AND 4@AUTOMATIC OF
THE ISOLATION AS WELL AS THE
MODERN DAY CIVIL RIGHTS
MOVEMENT, 4@ALL OF THESE THINGS
HAVE REALLY ISOLATE US APPEAR
SEPARATE US, MADE US SEE MORE
OF 4@OUR DIFFERENCES THAN OUR
SIMILARITIES.
AN COMPASSION IS THE THING THAT
ULTIMATELY REMIND US THAT WE
ARE ALL HUMAN 4@BEINGS STRUGGLI
RIGHT NOW AN SOME OF US4@ ARE
STRUGGLING MORE THAN OTHERS.
WE ARE 4@ALL IN A STORM BUT WE
CERTAINLY HAVE DIFFERENT BOATS.
WE ARE IN DID I HAVE REP BOATS @
AN SOME OF US ARE IN CANOES 4@A
OTHERS HAVE GIANT 4@YACHTS.
SO REALLY BEING ABLE TO 4@REALL
UNDERSTAND SOMEONE EL'S
PERSPECTIVE AND THEIR STRUGGLES
FROM THEIR POSITION IS JUST
ESSENTIAL.
BECAUSE IF WE ARE ONLY SEEING
THINGS NEW OUR OWN EYES, WE ARE
MISSING A 4@LOT OF IMPORTANT AT
THAT TIME A.
>> YOU HAVE FOUR TIPS TOO, JUST
WAYS THAT WE CAN SORT OF BRING @
MORE EMPATHY INTO OUR LIVES.
WE'LL DOE THROUGH SOME OF THOSE
TIPS.
ONE, JUST LISTEN.
>> WHICH 4@IS HARD.
YOU KNOW, I THINK THAT IS A
REALLY HARD ONE FOR US BECAUSE,
WHEN WE SEE 4@SOMEONE WE LOVE A
THEY'RE IN PAIN, WE DON'T LIKE
THAT.
IT IS VERY HARD TO SIT WITH
THAT.
SO WE 4@OFTEN WANT TO JUMP IN A
GIVE ADVICE, GIVE SOME
OPTIMISTIC PLATITUDE OR PROBLEM
SOLVE 4@WITH4@ PEOPLE AND IT MA
SENSE AND IT IS WELL 4@
SOLVE 4@WITH4@ PEOPLE AND IT MA SENSE AND IT IS WELL 4@4@ INTENTIONED BECAUSE WE TONE
LIKE 4@SEEING PEOPLE WE LOVE
HURTING.
BUT THOSE THINGS OFTEN AREN'T
HELPFUL AN TIP YOU CANALLY,
WHEN PEOPLE COME TO US WHEN
THEY ARE HURTING, THEY NEED US
TO SIT WITH THEM THIS THEIR
PAIN.
SO 4@OFTEN TIMES THE BET THING
CAN DO FOR SOMEBODY IS NOD.
KEEP OUR MOUTH SHUT AND NOD AND
DO ALL 4@SORTS OF KIND THINGS
WITH OUR FACE TO LET THEM
THOUGH WE ARE WITH THEM AN WE
4@ KNOW WE CAN'T MAKE IT BETTER OR
TAKE AWAY THEIR PAIN BUT WE CAN
BE WITH THEM IN THEIR PAIN 4@AN
WE DO THAT BEST BY LISTENING.
>> NEXT ON THE LIST, 4@ASK
QUESTIONS.
>> WE DON'T DO THIS, RIGHT 4@FR
WHEN WE TO TALK, WHEN SOMEBODY
IS COMING TO US, 4@AGAIN, IT IS
TYPICALLY TO OFFER ADVICE.
WHEN WE GO TO OPEN OUR MOUTHS,
IF WE OPEN OUR MOUTHS AT ALL.
IT REAL WILL YOU SHOULD BE TO
ASK A QUESTION.
IF WE ARE RALEIGHLY.
ING TO WHAT SOMEBODY HAS TO
SAY, WHAT WE'LL REALIZE 4@QUICK
IS THERE IS SO MUCH MORE WE
DON'T KNOW.
SO GET CURIOUS INSTEAD OF BEING
IN YOUR HE THINKING ABOUT THE
NEXT THING YOU ARE GOING TO SAY
THAT WILL BE THE MAGIC BULLET
TH4@AT 4@SOLVES ALL OF THE
PROBLEMS, GET CURIOUS.
HOW DID THEY 4@INTERPRET THAT.
WHAT WAS THEIR PER SPECKIVE.
HOW 4@4@WERE THEY FEELING WHEN
WHATEVER HAPPENED?
WHEN WE ARE ACTUALLY LISTENING,
IT IS REALLY EASY TO START
ASKING QUESTIONS.
THAT IS AN EXCELLENT WAY TO GET
MORE INFORMATION UTAH NEXT ONE
ON YOUR LIST IS A 4@LITTLE MORE
COMPLICATED BUT DO A MIND
SHIFT.
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
>> SO WE ALL 4@HEAR THIS OLD
PIECE OF ADVICE THAT MAYBE OUR
MOTHER OR GRANDMOTHER TOLD US
WHICH IS THAT WE SHOULD TREAT
PEOPLE THE WAY WE WOULD LIKE TO
BE TREATED.
AND THAT IS FAIRLY GOOD 4@ADVIC
IT IS CERTAINLY A GOD FIRST
STEP 4@BECAUSE I IMAGINE THAT 4@
COMES WITH SOME KINDNESS,
RESPECT, UNDERSTANDING.
BUT REALLY, IF WE WANT TO TAKE @
IT UP A NOTCH AN MacIT MORE
TRUE FOR TODAY, I THINK THE
BETTER ADVICE IS TO TREAT
PEOPLE THE WAY THEY WOULD HIKE
TO BE 4@INTERNATIONAL SOCIETIED
WHICH REQUIRES WE ASK SOME
QUESTIONS 4@AN FIGURE IT OUT.
AGAIN, IF WE TREA4@T PEOPLE THE
WHICH REQUIRES WE ASK SOME QUESTIONS 4@AN FIGURE IT OUT. AGAIN, IF WE TREA4@T PEOPLE THE@
WAY WE WOULD WANT TO BE
TREATED.
IT 4@IS FAR MORE HELPFUL TO
ACTUALLY FIND OUT WHAT SOMEONE
WE 4@LOVE NEEDS.
HOW WE CAN BE SUPPORTIVE AN DO
THAT INSTEAD.
>> THIS ONE IS REALLY 4@
COMPLICATED FOR A LOT OF US.
WE STRUGGLE WITH JUDGING PEOPLE
AN WHETHER WE REALIZE WE 4@ARE
DOING IT OR NOT, IT IS HARD NOT
TO DO.
BUT THAT IS SUCH A 4@KEY PIECE
THIS, DON'T JUDGE.
>> YES.
IT 4@IS HARD.
SO LET'4@S TAKE THE 4@SHAME OUT
>> YES. IT 4@IS HARD. SO LET'4@S TAKE THE 4@SHAME OUT@
IT, RIGHT?
WE4@ JUDGE FOR LOTS 4@OF REASON
BUT A -- ONE OF MAIN UNDERLYING
REASON IS BECAUSE THAT IS HOW
OUR BRAINS ARE BUILT.
OUR BRAIN LIKE TO FILE THINGS 4@
AWAY IN DISCREET CATEGORIES AND
BOXES AN TIE IT UP 4@WAY BOW.
THAT IS SIMPLE AN EFFICIENT,
RIGHT?
BUT LIFE IS NEITHER SIMPLE NOR @
EFFICIENT.
SO IT JUST REQUIRES US TO
ENGAGE IN SOME CRITICAL
THINKING.
JUDGING IS EASY 4@AND IT MAKES
FEEL SMART OR BETTER THAN
SOMEONE.
BUT IT IS REALLY A TRAP BECAUSE
IT DOESN'T, IN FACT BEING 4@MAK
US SMARTER OR BETTER THAN
ANYONE.
IT 4@MAKE THE OTHER PERSON FEEL
WORSE.
AND IT CAUSES DISTANCE AND
AGAIN, 4@THE CRUX OF COMPASSION
IS CONNECTION.
SO INSTEAD OF DISTANCING
OURSELVES FROM OTHER PEOPLE
APPEAR PAIN BECAUSE THAT
WOULDN'T HAVE HAPPENED IF THEY
HADN'T DONE X, Y OR Z. CONNECT
WITH THEIR OPINION.
SO REALLY THINKING ABOUT A TIME
IN YOUR OWN LIFE4@ THAT YOU MAY
FELL THE SAME WAY, THE
SITUATION DOESN'T HAVE TO 4@BE
THE SAME BUT YOU CAN GET A
WINDOW NO SOMEBODY ELSE'S PAIN @
BY JUSTENNING ABOUT HOW 4@THEY'
FEELING.
WHEN WE CONNECT TO