Hello there, in today's video we are talking about
how can you have a positive mindset?
We are also going to discuss how you can enable your clients
to have a more positive mindset.
Firstly, let's understand what does it even mean
to have a positive mindset?
When I say positive mindset,
I simply mean that your attention, your focus
most of the time is on what can happen
or what are the positive outcomes
that can happen in your life?
Having your attention towards what is it that you truly want
not on what you don't want.
The more you can focus your attention
towards what you truly want,
easier it is for you to create those outcomes in your life.
A lot of our time is wasted in our lives
thinking about what we don't want,
the negative outcomes that are possible or could happen
when we are pursuing in a particular direction.
And that is why very often we don't get what we want
because we are wasting so much time
thinking about things that we don't even want.
So if we could encourage ourselves
and if we could encourage our clients
to have a more positive attitude towards life
or more positive mindset,
we are more likely to get those results
for ourselves and for our clients.
Now, before we get into creating a positive mindset,
we must understand why do we have a negative mindset?
You see, we tend to have a negative mindset
because when we think about an event or situation in life,
our mind wants to protect us,
it wants us to find out what could go wrong
and prepare itself for if things go wrong.
While that may seem like the right thing to do,
if we focus our attention towards what may happen wrong
and how things may not work out,
very often we would find ourselves in a situation
where things will actually not work out
because we are giving it so much attention.
Negative thinking also can hamper our ability
to be able to take action,
which of course, causes more negative outcomes
because we never take action
and hence never get an outcome that we truly wanted.
The key is to identify when we are having these
negative experiences, negative thoughts overtake
to be able to replace them
to something that's positive, more affirmative
so we can move towards the direction
that we truly want to move to
and get the outcomes that we truly want.
So how does one become a more
positive mindset oriented person
and how is it that you can help your clients
have a more positive mindset?
Well, the first step to having a great positive mindset
is to understand why is it that you are having
a negative mindset?
Why is it that you're experiencing negative thoughts
and negative affirmations in your life?
Now we get into a negative thinking cycle
because of something that happens around us.
You see, when events happen around us,
they trigger an emotional response.
Every event triggers a thinking in our mind,
this thinking then leads to our emotions or our feelings
where we feel good or bad about something
and feelings then define if you're are going to be able
to take action or not take action.
So every time you see yourself in a negative spiral
where your thinking is negative,
when you're feeling a negative emotion,
an emotion that's not empowering for you,
look for the event that actually caused that.
So as a first step, what I want you to do is identify
what are those events that have been causing
a negative thought pattern for you?
You see, when you're able to identify an event
that causes a negative thought pattern for you,
you will now be able to avoid
those kinds of events in your life.
Here is something that I observed in my life.
I observed that if I have a morning breakfast that's heavy,
that is something that I eat
that really needs my body to burn through a lot of calories,
I tend to have a really lazy start of the day.
It then puts me into a cycle
that makes me feel like I'm not being productive
and then I feel like I'm not living my purpose
and living my alignment
that I didn't really show up for my clients
in the most powerful way.
And because I feel like I'm not showing up for my clients
in the most powerful way,
that I'm not creating the impact that I wanted to create,
now, it makes me feel that I'm not good enough,
that I'm not putting in the heart and the soul
that I want to towards the outcome I wanna create
in the world.
Do you see how simply, by eating a heavier breakfast,
I may have impacted my own confidence,
my own self-worth and my understanding of my purpose?
While this example may seem simple and easy, almost silly,
you can see patterns in your life that are created
because of certain events.
Somebody said something,
you crossed a particular thing,
you had a particular smell in your nose
and you would see they triggered thinking,
they triggered emotions
and they send you into a negative spiral.
So the first way of getting out of a negative spiral,
a negative thinking spiral
and get into a positive thinking spiral
is to identify what creates a negative thinking spiral.
So as a post video exercise,
I wanna suggest you and your clients
to take a pad and a pen
and write down what are some of those events
that cause a negative spiral for you?
Sometimes you may think that the immediate event
that just happened is creating the negative spiral
but there is a possibility that an event before that
or an event before that really created that consequence.
Like I said, if I have a heavy breakfast,
I may end up thinking that I am not living my purpose
and being my greatest self or being my most productive self.
I have many different events that may have happened
in the middle that may cause that feeling
but I have to go back to the original event
that really started that train of thought,
that really started that journey for me.
The faster I find out what's really causing these events,
the easier it is for me to avoid them in my life.
So I can much more easily lean into staying positive
and staying in a positive mindset.
Now let's assume that you couldn't have avoided
the event that happened and now you are in a negative cycle.
The second step is to bring awareness
towards your negative thought pattern.
You see the event may have caused you to start being
in a negative cycle
but now that you're in it,
it may be harder for you to get out of it
unless you bring awareness towards what you're thinking.
One of the keys to creating a great life
is to be able to organize your mind
and be able to think right.
You see, like we talked about, when an event happens
you get triggered with some thinking
and these thinkings can be positive or negative.
We always get a choice to be able to select
which thinking we are going to choose.
More often than not, we end up choosing the negative thought
because it's a protection mechanism.
But if you are aware of what that thinking is doing for us,
we can reverse ourselves from that stage
and choose a more positive way of thinking.
Taking the example that I shared before,
if I have set myself up or wrong one day,
I wake up, I eat a breakfast that is really heavy.
I can think that,
Oh, now my entire day is going to be terrible,
that I will not have a great productive experience of life
or I can bring myself to the awareness of thinking and say,
Oh, I'm not having a productive day
because I had a really big breakfast.
Maybe I should go for a walk.
Maybe I should go for a jog.
Maybe I should work from outside.
The sun is on me and I'm getting re-energized
by the energy of the sun.
See, once I choose the thinking that I wanna choose,
the thinking of, I wanna be positive,
I wanna be productive.
I wanna choose a better thought,
my mind will help me think for solutions
instead of staying in the problem.
The key to moving from negative thinking
to positive thinking is to identify what are you thinking
and what is a more empowered thinking?
What is the outcome that really is the outcome
that you truly desire?
If you can switch your thinking from a disempowered thinking
to an empowered thinking,
you will find yourself being in a positive mindset
much, much quicker.
Here's a technique that I learned from the Silva method,
when you're having a negative thought
or a negative experience in life,
tell yourself and remind yourself, cancel, cancel.
The reason why you say cancel, cancel
is because you are suggesting to your mind,
to your thinking that you can cancel this thought
and you can choose a different heart.
As you anchor those words in your memory,
as you practice telling yourself, cancel, cancel,
in time, you'll realize that any single time
you have a negative thought just saying, cancel, cancel
as an anchor will cancel the negative thinking
and trigger a more positive thought in your mind.
You must understand that you are always
in control of your thinking.
Sometimes you may feel like you're not in control.
Sometimes you may feel like that everything that you tried
does not work out.
Sometimes you would feel like that everything
that I am saying is completely wrong
and it's totally not true.
But if I may encourage you to reverse your thinking,
to ask yourself the question of,
how it that I can switch my thinking from whatever it is
to what I really want it to be
and practice that for a few times,
you will find that you are in control of your thinking.
You may or may not be in control of the outcomes
that you create in life
but the experience itself of life
is completely in your control.
Recently, I was going through a challenging situation
in my life.
There was particular family member that I was struggling
in a relationship with.
And while we were struggling in the relationship,
we heard that relationship may explode on itself,
may implode on itself.
And that there was no way really
to think about that relationship in a different way
until we started to realize that
we are choosing that thinking,
we are choosing and operating
from a place of a particular challenge
that was happening in our life as the outcome of life.
We both have a lot of life left.
There is no reason to believe
that that situation can define our lives.
Our lives are so long and so beautiful.
We could choose to look at that particular experience,
that particular challenge
as something that was an opportunity for us to grow
into a more evolved relationship
and that's exactly what happened.
Once we were aware enough to ask ourselves the question
on why we're choosing to have an experience
to be the outcome of life,
we were able to question that experience
to simply be a part of the journey.
We asked ourselves, how can this experience teach us
to live an even better more beautiful relationship?
And thankfully, we were able to choose that better part.
So my invitation for you and for your clients
is to ask themselves every single time
when they're having an experience of life,
to see and ask and wonder if their experience
is the experience of life or just experience in that moment?
Something that is there to teach you,
to help you grow further,
to help you evolve your understanding of life
to find a new, even better understanding of life.
When we look at the challenges that happen in our life
as just a pathway to a greater self,
it becomes easier for those challenges
to simply become opportunities.
And lastly, to be more positive mindset oriented,
to have a better, even more positive mindset,
you must develop habits that support a positive mindset.
Affirmations, gratitude, eating healthy food,
these are all habits that encourage a positive mindset.
When we are meditating and slowing ourselves down
and reflecting on how beautiful the life is,
we tend to have a more positive mindset.
When we look at things in our lives
and fill ourselves with gratitude for those things,
we tend to have a more positive mindset.
When we take a walk in nature and appreciate nature
and the beauty of nature around us,
we tend to have a more positive mindset,
when we surround ourselves with individuals
that are always vibrating at that positive frequency,
we tend to have a more positive mindset.
There are so many beautiful habits that we can incorporate
in our lives that will give us a more positive mindset,
a more positive attitude towards life.
I want you to take a piece of pen and paper
and write down what are some of those exercises,
those habits that you have or you could develop
that will give you a more positive mindset.
These habits may take some time to develop
but as you develop these habits,
as you continue to work on these habits,
you will find yourself really creating a nourishing,
beautiful, more affirmative and more positive mindset
that will create a more positive life for yourself.
Having a positive mindset allows you to have more things
that you want in your life,
more experiences that you want in your life,
more outcomes that you want in your life.
So I invite you to have an even more positive attitude
towards life, even more positive mindset towards life.
I would love to hear what might be some of the habits
that you have tried that creates a positive mindset for you.
We all in this community, are always encouraging each other
to have a positive attitude and a positive mindset in life.
I invite you to share your experiences
below in the comment section below.
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This is Ajit Nawalkha
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