There's a lot of talk right now on why dating apps suck, why they're not working for a lot
of men. And I got some answers for you, and also some tips on how we can help you if you
want the dating apps to work for you. But let's discuss this at length. I just put out a video
recently that talked about this study that was done from OKCupid that women find... I think it
was like 80% of men unattractive. And there is an interesting reason for this. The fact that
they're finding all these men on attractive, are due to one, the fact that women have always been a
little bit more selective, they always have been. They're not going to be someone who's going to
be sleeping around with as many people as maybe a guy would would, they have things to worry about,
like getting pregnant, so they have to be a little bit choosier on who they want. Now the reason why
they only find a certain amount of men attractive, is because the standards that women have have gone
up, especially over the past five years. The average woman is getting so much attention on
the dating apps, that she feels that she deserves a guy who has very high status and has all the top
traits that a man can have: six figures, six feet, six inches, and just being a guy who has that high
status in some sort of specific career that he's in, usually, some sort of doctor or lawyer, or
someone who is high up in their business career. Even the average woman feels like she's deserving
of that. Does that mean she's going to get that? Probably not. But that's a whole other whole other
topic altogether. Most women are going for that top 20%. Again, something you've heard before,
I'm sure in the manosphere is something I've talked about before. So it's leaving a lot of
these other men in the dust. And then adding to that another reason why just so many guys
are not succeeding in dating apps is because I don't think that they have the profiles that
actually are working to get women attracted. I've worked with a lot of clients in the Tripp Advice
Accelerator coaching program. And it's funny because I'll be talking to them and they say,
"I don't get. I don't know why I'm not getting the dates that I should be getting." I say let me see
your photos, and they send their photos over. And I'm like, yeah, these photos are terrible.
And before I say that, I go, what do you think about these photos, they say, I think they're
pretty good. So clearly, men don't have a real idea of what kind of photo is going to be good.
Especially I've learned this with guys over 35 they tend to have an even more warped version,
for whatever reason, of what a good photo looks like. And listen, it's not your fault. It's not
guys' fault. I'm not here to blame men at all. It's just the reality of not knowing what looks
good and just not understanding what works. Real quick, just know that a selfie that is gonna be
shot at an upward angle with poor lighting that creates weird shadows on your face is not going
to be a good photo, even one of you where it seems like it's good lighting because the sun is facing
you but it's still a selfie and Walmart's in the background, it's just not going to be a really
good photo. You need to have better photos. And most guys don't have those because they're
not taking a lot of photos of themselves. Women generally are taking more photos of themselves,
and using more opportunities to take photos of themselves. More women, as you can see on your
Instagram are more active at putting up photos that make themselves look good because a woman's
beauty is very prioritized in society. More women taking more pictures equals better pictures for
them. And men not prioritizing that is going to result in worse pictures for them. That's another
reason that adds this idea of why men are just not really getting those results. I don't believe it's
the dating apps themselves, although there's some conspiracies, which maybe I believe maybe I don't,
just the fact that an app will be able to look at the profiles and know what's going
to look good and put you in front of more people and almost kind of shadow ban you.
I don't know, maybe that's happening. Maybe that's not but that's out of our control. I don't like
focusing or talking about things are out of our control, because I'm really trying to help you
and in order to help you, you need to have an actionable tip that is going to get you results.
Let's focus on what we can control. Photos, obviously, that's the main thing. Gotta get new
photos. You got to hire a photographer, you gotta hire someone who can take really good pictures of
you. And now this service is insanely popular. Any city you live in, you should be able to find
someone and if you can't, you can hire people and they will fly to you to take incredible pictures
of you that will get you so many more matches than you're already getting right now. But yes,
it's true dating apps will be favoring women only because women are going to have more of those
options generally. They are going to be choosier, men are not going to be as choosy and women are
just going to have all those options. Again, it's tough, it's really skewing everything, because
it's not allowing the women to see all the great guys that are out there. But you can stand out if
you do your best with the profile that you have. And included in the action item list is you need
to make sure that you're swiping anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour per day to get all that volume,
because most guys are not getting that volume. And therefore they're not putting themselves in front
of enough women to get the chance to attract the women that they're actually looking for. So yeah,
I'll agree it's annoying. If you want to give up. That's fine. I'm not here to convince you.
If you want to try again, take those simple tips. If you do those two things, change your pictures,
add more volume to your dating app game, it will be a life changer. And if still not,
if still those things don't work, then at the very least you can go out and start talking to women,
get off the apps and talk to women in person. But don't give up just yet. If you need help
with this, go to Tripp Advice Coaching.com. We help guys create profiles that get more matches.
We help you find a photographer, we pick out the pictures that we know are going to work
best. We have a template for your bio that you fill out and for prompts. Just in case there's
an app where you have to put actual prompts in. We help with all that, we completely customize
and do it for you to make sure that it works and you're having a dating life that is successful.
Go to www.TrippAdviceCoaching.com to check that out, and I'll see you on the next video.