- I kinda need direction with that.
I want to know exactly what you're comfortable with.
- So, you're a little scared to like make that move?
- Yes.
- Okay, well, I've been waiting for you to make that move.
- Hello and welcome to Split Decision.
Today we brought four straight couples into the studio
to ask them some of the toughest,
most intimate questions they have ever been asked.
Forget your partners behind you.
Go with your gut.
And most importantly, be honest.
Question number one, I've faked an orgasm with my partner.
Make your split decision in 3, 2, 1.
Okay, go ahead and turn around.
- None of the guys have done it.
That makes sense.
- Did guys even fake orgasm?
- You were my first.
So in the very beginning of our relationship,
it was hard for me to get into it
in like the beginning.
- Did you know first of all that-
- I did, I did.
I do. - Oh, you knew she fakes it?
- Yeah, I do. I did.
Sorry about that.
- How did you know?
- It's pretty fake, so.
- I don't fake it now.
I promise.
- We met during high school,
like sophomore year.
We've been together for four years and married for two.
- Jennie.
- He actually was not very good at the beginning.
- He sucked in the beginning.
- Not anymore though.
Not anymore though.
I think that our sex life right now
is very pretty compatible.
But when we first started dating,
like four or five months in,
yeah, I was doing that for that time period.
- I would eat the booty if my partner asked me to.
Okay, make your split decisions
in a three, a two, a one.
Okay, turn around.
Very, very interesting.
You who wanna says yes.
- I'm not afraid of a little actually.
- Yeah. - Okay?
- Okay, have y'all done it?
- No. - No.
- Do you want him to ask?
(Vernice laughs)
- No?
Okay. - No.
- Ladies, no?
He asked you to.
He's asking you, taking the initiative.
He said, "Babe, please."
- He already did.
- He already did?
- I have asked.
- And I said no, so. - You've asked?
- No success.
We've been together for nearly 11 months now
and we met through Hinge.
- Hinge success story.
- I spent a long time trying to find
the perfect thing to say to catch her attention,
and I got lucky.
- I wish my partner were more kinky
and would take more risks in bed.
Make your split decisions in 3, 2, 1.
Okay, go ahead and turn around.
What kinks?
- Just like in general other stuff.
Because even though I do want it to be intimate,
there are times where I do want it to be like, "Whoa."
You know?
Like a little...
Some costume, some toys.
I mean, I like to dress up.
I like lingerie.
I feel like that would be...
That would make me feel sexier.
- Tell us, tell us.
- What are you asking for? - You're green.
- What are you asking for?
- Huh? - What do you want of him?
- What do you want? - I don't know.
We've been together for almost five years now.
I have a thing for maybe like-
- [Chun] Yeah, go ahead.
I'm sorry.
- I don't even know if I can say this.
Maybe like doing stuff in public.
Like that's a big fetish of mine.
- [Chun] Okay.
- Have you told him this
that you wanna do stuff in public?
- What she meant is like public
but in private in the same time?
- Yeah. - What do you mean?
People can see you or not? - In like the bathroom stall.
- No, people can't see you. - Oh, okay.
- In like a hidden spot on the beach.
Like that type of vibe.
- Elevators.
- I think we have done a lot of that actually.
- But you want more?
(Venice laughs)
- Yeah.
- All right, Shadi.
- I feel like we're both in the same place
when it comes to getting kinkier.
I definitely want to explore.
Like everybody said, toys and costumes.
And I do like being swept on my feet
and I know he'd like to see me in like a school girl outfit.
I just want to take it to the next level.
Really, like taking advantage of our bodies
and like this is mine.
Like I'm gonna show you this is mine.
I wanna be dominated.
- I kinda need direction with that.
I want to know exactly what you're comfortable with.
- So you're a little scared to make that move?
- Yes.
- Okay, well, I'm been waiting for you to make that move.
- You shouldn't tell me to make the move.
- I should make the move.
I will make the move.
- We've been dating for a little over a year now.
She used to date one of my best friends in high school.
Then they kind of broke up and it just-
- Together ever since.
- Yup.
- I'm better at sex than my partner.
Make your split decisions in 3, 2, 1.
Okay, go ahead and turn around.
(Kot laughs)
Yes.
Okay.
Shadi, you both think you're better at sex
than the other person.
Ooh.
Okay, I wanna hear more.
- I said yes because I seem to initiate it more
and I feel like I'm always putting myself out there
and I'm always trying to try new things
even if alcohol is not involved.
and you are kind of just passive in the moment.
And I don't mind it but I would like more initiative.
- I will say that you do definitely have
more of the initiative side now.
But I think that the act of...
(participants laugh)
The act of love making,
I am pretty, pretty down.
- But to be fair, I am a lot easier
and you are a lot more difficult.
- What do you mean he is more difficult?
- He's more difficult to make finish.
- It takes a while. - It takes a long time.
- If she was better at it,
would it last a shorter amount of time?
- Yes.
When we first started dating,
it definitely was much shorter
because it was new, it was fun.
And not that it's bad or anything like that,
but now I found my groove and it's just takes me a while.
- Maybe is that why you don't initiate
because it's not as good as maybe once was?
- No, that's not why.
- Well, maybe get out of the groove
and try new things with me
and do what I wanna do and we won't have this problem.
- Okay, okay.
This is why you take the lead though.
- No, you...
(Anthony laughs)
- What do you wanna do that he's not doing?
- I want more.
I want everything to be different or different positions.
Like all that kind of stuff.
- You guys just do one position right now?
It's just missionary?
- It falls back into that and I don't wanna just sit there.
- We rotate.
- Sometimes.
- On a good day.
- Alondra, you're better at sex, huh?
- Yeah, I think so.
I was his first.
So, there wasn't a lot to work with at the beginning.
I feel like we have kind of the opposite problem from them.
I feel like he wants to have like sex and I don't.
I want it to be more intimate.
- What is sex?
- What you see on porn or something,
or like in movies.
Yeah, I want it to feel like he loves me.
I don't want it to just feel like he wants to me.
- I see, I see.
- I want maybe a balance of both.
I do feel like I'm kind of more the open-minded one, too.
I'm like, "Okay, well maybe we can throw some of this,
throw some of that in there."
- I put no 'cause, like she said, she was my first.
Like the first time I was like...
I already knew what's gonna happen, you know?
So I was like, "How can I make this memorable?"
So before then, I put like Kung Fu Panda on.
So I could be like, "That's my movie right there."
You know?
It's gonna be my movie. - With Kung Fu Panda on?
You made love to her with Kung Fu Panda?
Jack Black spinning sticks.
- Yeah, exactly, yeah.
Because it's memorable, you know?
And then like 30 seconds later, it's all over
- At most.
- The second time I was like, "Oh, I'm gonna beat this.
You know, I can beat-
- I'm gonna put on a Shrek instead.
- Maybe 10 seconds and I'm like, "Oh, damn."
- You were worse the second time.
- We've been together for a year and 10 months.
- We were coworkers.
- I was new and he had been there a while and he ignored me.
- Oh yeah, I was just nervous.
- He says he was nervous.
I was like, "Oh, do you have a girlfriend?"
And he was like, "No."
I was like, "Perfect.
You have one now.
I'm gonna be your girlfriend."
- I think my partner needs to lose weight or exercise more.
Make your split decisions in 3, 2, 1.
Here we go.
And turn around.
Okay.
- Yes.
- Oh, the only guy though.
(Vernice laughs)
- Great.
- Yeah.
- Doesn't necessarily mean that you're fat or whatsoever.
Just basically we should move around more.
It's funny that you're saying that
'cause I've been begging you to go to the gym with me.
- So you don't like working out?
- I don't find joy.
- But you want me to work out?
Okay, cool.
- No, no, not work out.
Not workout but like move more.
Move around more.
Most of the time, she only go to the gym if I say yes.
So, I will go to the gym.
- Yeah 'cause I wanna go to the gym with you.
Going to the gym is very...
As a woman, it's very nerve-racking.
- [Chun] That's true.
- Because you just feel like a lot of men
are like staring at you.
So going with a partner
just makes me feel like 100 times better.
That's why I want you to go with me so bad.
- And you've asked him to go with you?
- I asked him many times.
- Oh, how come you haven't gone?
- [Vernice] Every week.
- Well, she also asked me in 4:00 in the morning.
(Vernice laughs)
- Devin has been telling me so many times
"I wanna get back to the gym""
but he never goes.
- Devin, how does that make you feel?
- I mean, not good.
It makes me feel a bit lazy, you know?
'Cause I've been promising to get bigger
and get bigger muscles and stuff for months now.
I mean, I started.
I did start going for a few months
and then I just got lazy again.
- Shadi, you say yes.
Anthony, you say no.
- I feel like we've been dating for a year now.
So we've kinda like gotten that relationship way
and now we're more comfortable with each other.
- Okay.
- And you complain about gaining a little bit of weight.
- I just have a little bit of a dad gut, but.
- My partner is the most confident person I've ever dated.
Make your split decisions in 3, 2, 1.
And go ahead and turn around.
Okay, interesting.
Three of the gentleman say yes.
Three of the ladies say no.
Alondra, let's start with you.
- I said no because I think he's like perfect in my eyes
but he always has something negative to say about himself.
You know, just from looking at him,
he has a lot of good qualities,
a lot of good features on him,
and he doesn't think he's that attractive.
And I'm like, "Have you seen yourself in the mirror?
You are very attractive."
- Anything you wanna say to that?
- Okay, so I've only ever dated one other person before her.
It was an online or I mean long distance.
We're pretty much the same, I guess.
Very anxious and like low self-esteem and whatever.
But seeing her do the things she does inspires me
'cause I wanna be more like her.
Damn, I'm sorry.
No, just everything she does.
Like I just wanna be more like her
in that regard, you know?
She's just amazing, so.
- Jennie, Devin is the most confident person
you have ever been with.
But Devin, Jennie is not the most confident
you've ever been with? - No.
- No? - No.
- No? Big no.
Okay, like where is she at 1 to 10?
- I would say...
Honestly, I would say you're at like a 5 or a 6
and I think we could probably move that on up to like a-
- But where do you feel you are?
What's your 1 to 10?
- A 3.
- A 3? - 3?
- Uh-hmm.
I think for me, it's my upbringing,
where I'm from.
I grew up in Asia.
- Yeah, that's an Asian thing.
- Yeah, there you go.
Thank you.
- [Chun] Sure.
- Takahashi.
I get it, all right.
Been there, my friends.
Yeah, but he's the most confident you've ever been with.
- Yeah, I like it though.
- How many guys have you been with?
- He's my fourth boyfriend.
- Fourth? Okay.
And what's he at 1 to 10?
- I would say he's 9.
- Really?
- Yeah.
- Wow, okay.
I'll take that.
- All right, let's move on to the next question, everybody.
My family approves of my partner.
Make your split decisions in 3, 2, 1.
All right, go ahead and turn around.
- No, huh?
- Yeah. - Tell us more.
- I came from a very, very cultural family.
My parents were definitely expecting me
to date my own race in a way.
So besides that, a lot of cultural difference as well
that my family did not go well with.
- And is that still going on?
They still don't?
- Still going on.
Still working on it at the moment for me.
- How does that make you feel?
- It's been probably the hardest thing
that we ever had to go through
- For sure.
- Just because I want so bad to be accepted.
- Yeah.
- And one day hopefully have a relationship
with your family.
And then it also like just brings a lot of insecurities
in myself,
like I'm not good enough.
- And to a point it kinda started to make me question
if I'm accepted too in a way
because of the relationship as well.
So, it's been tough for that.
Yeah.
Biggest mountain we ever gotta climb.
- And you say no as well.
What's the story?
- Well, I say no because my mom,
she's like very old, traditional Mexican mom
and she expects a lot from my partner
regardless of who they are.
She really expects a lot.
Like she needs them to kinda work their entire life,
work away.
The only thing they think about is like working
and not anything outside of that
and the man is supposed to take care of everything.
I mean, I haven't told him this.
But my mom thinks that he has a lot of free time
and she hates that.
I mean, she likes him as a person
because he is a really good person
but she just feels like he should be more like man.
- How do you all feel about those traditional gender norms
like what we're talking about right here?
- I think definitely for me and Anthony,
we're very not based on that.
For the longest time, I was working two jobs
and I was bringing in the income and taking care of rent
while he was not working as much and waiting for a promotion
so he can get to that step.
But I do believe a relationship is whatever you can give.
It's not all 100%.
It's not just 50/50.
If I come home one day and I worked really hard
and I'm too tired to do the dishes,
he's gonna come in and do the dishes.
- There is a political issue
that my partner and I will never agree on.
Turn around.
Okay.
Anthony, what's going on?
- Well, whenever it kinda comes to politics,
I feel like we're kind of a different mindset
'cause of how we were raised.
- Different mindset.
- Yeah, different mindset.
She's very anti-government.
I'm not anti-government.
I'm kinda like, "I wish the government worked more for us."
- Okay, I didn't know that we disagreed on that
so I'm over here.
I don't wanna live in California.
I don't wanna live in the United States.
I don't like the government.
And you know, what we have going on right now,
if the diversity is...
It's great but it's just causing more and more problems.
My dream is to like run away, live in a forest,
survive off of my own abilities.
Like be self-efficient.
I don't wanna live in the United States.
And if it was up to me, I wouldn't.
- But you thought you were on the same page about that?
- Yeah, I thought we agreed that we would move away.
And you know, the government.
- It would be nice but I don't...
- Do you wanna move to a forest?
- I like my air conditioning.
I like my video games.
- Alondra, you say yes.
- Well, I was stuck in between yes and no
because I don't feel like it's an actual issue
but I'm not completely against abortion.
I just don't think...
I guess it's fair to the life inside of you.
I know a lot of people say it's not life.
To me in my conscious, it's life.
Even if you have a 30% chance
or even if I have a 30% chance of dying,
I want my baby to live.
- When we brought up that up, I was like,
"What if I got pregnant and I had a 30% chance of dying?
Would you break up with me if I aborted it?"
And she was like, "Yeah."
I'm like, "Damn."
- Oh, you would break up with him if he aborted the baby?
- I would.
I wouldn't wanna be with someone that doesn't agree with me
on that stance because it's also my child.
- Are you okay that he's okay with it?
- No, I don't like that.
- [Kot] Vernice.
- During quarantine with the whole BLM,
it was like really affecting my community the most
with like police brutality and everything that was going on.
I felt like it was hard for you to understand
or like really understand how important was to me
to like go to these protests
and really like be there for my community.
- Yeah.
- It was kinda hard for you to understand
how much that meant to me.
- Wait, what did I disagree on again on that one?
- It was- - I forgot.
It was three years.
- Yeah, it was just...
It felt like you were telling me like,
"You shouldn't be going to these protests
'cause they're dangerous"
They weren't dangerous,
the protests I was going to.
They weren't riot or anything.
- I don't think I say it was dangerous.
I don't think I say it was dangerous.
- What did you say? - I was trying to, you know,
understand her intention of going to the protest.
Like get your head straight
before you act on something.
I don't want you to go act on something
without getting your head straight in a way.
- What do you mean by that?
- By understanding your intention.
Why are you going?
What am I gaining out of this?
- Some questions I never even thought about before.
So it brought up like things that happened years ago.
- What I learned about Devin today was that
he has been pretty open to me, honestly.
Yeah, it's good to know to go deeper
into the topics for sure.
But I kinda expected what would happen.
- Being here today, it kinda just made at least me
feel like I'm with the right person.
Like I wanna continue this.
I wanna stick it out and hopefully it goes somewhere.
- Me too.