Talking a lot for five minutes. What is your definition of a high value man. It
doesn't matter that's not what I was talking about. Then just say what is
a high value man. It's the first part of the Tweet. What does that mean? You tell
me what a high value man is? Walk back from it because the point of it was to
get douche nozzles like yourself to fucking have this conversation in the first place.
Today, I’m going to tell you EXACTLY, unambiguously, what a high-value man is.
There seems to be a lot of confusion around the topic…
But I'm seeing here that everyone here kind of has a different interpretation but... That's
not true all four of us probably roughly agree with a high value. No we don't. Have
like some amount of like physical fitness, having some amount of like social status,
having some amount of financial success and having some level of success with your family
and friends. We all roughly agree on that right. Okay if you have those four things
in check you're probably a high value man. No. What is a high value man? What's a high value
man to you. Bill Gates is he high value he fails in every other metric. This is
what people don't understand. I think like I'm a pretty like high value man, like ever good. No.
As you can see, no one really seems to have a clear handle on what exactly a
high-value man is, but by the end of this video, I will change that.
I’m going to break down exactly what a high-value man is and how you can actually
become one—the real truth behind what makes a high-value man is probably not what you think.
Most people think what makes a man high-value are the things he has. The common conception
of a high-value man is probably a man who has lots of money, has access to many women,
and has a high degree of physical prowess. Money, muscles, and game, as some people call it.
This definition seems to make sense. A man who is high value is a man who is valued in society
and usually is a man who has risen up the social hierarchy. But does it really make sense to define
a high-value man solely by external factors which could change and vary from culture to culture?
I’m more concerned with defining what makes a universally high-value man. A man who is
high-value no matter where he goes or what the circumstances of his life happen to be.
I would argue that the things society usually considers hallmarks of a high-value man,
such as women, status, and money, are not actually what makes a man high value,
but instead are often the RESULTS of being a high-value man.
So then, what actually does make a high-value man?
I will start off with a simple definition of what makes a high-value man.
A high-value man is a man who creates value
for others wherever he is and in whatever context he is in.
This definition aligns more closely with how Jack
Donovan described what is to be a man in his book The Way of Men.
Simply put, being a high-value man is not having a lot of money. It’s not having a
hot wife or girlfriend or having success with a lot of women. It’s not being ripped
or being jacked. It’s not other people’s opinion of you, although that plays a part.
Being a high-value man is being a man who creates value for other people wherever he goes.
Money, women, status, and physical attractiveness can all be taken away from you. Those things can
also be given to you. Therefore, those THINGS themselves can not make a man high-value.
Instead, what can not be taken from you and what truly must be built to
become a man of high value is your character or who you are.
A high-value man is always high value no matter
his present circumstances because he CREATES value.
"Remember that what you are afraid of losing is not yours." - Marcus Aurelius
The biggest problem with
most people’s definitions of what a high-value man is is that they are often the results of being a
high-value man but not the actual things that cause a man to become high-value.
Would we consider a trust-fund baby who was genetically gifted with perfectly chiseled
features, who lacked any degree of emotional intelligence, was weak,
and had no discipline or self-control to actually be a man of high value?
Society might be initially fooled into believing this man was high-value,
but would he actually be high-value? Perhaps he would initially be desired
by women and men alike, but when they actually knew him,
would they think of him as adding to their lives in any way? Would THEY consider him high value?
Instead, I would argue that a man who has character attributes such as strength,
courage, mastery, and honor would make a man of considerably higher value because
that man would actually be a benefit to those men and women around him.
In 1899, John Walter Wayland wrote this definition of a gentleman,
which is what I would consider a high-value man today:
The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense
of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man
conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority
or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another;
who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements;
who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows
his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own;
and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.
So, how do you actually become a high-value man?
I’m glad you asked, because that is exactly what this channel is about.
I believe it starts with getting rid of the victim mindset and instead
taking personal responsibility for your life.
If you want me to make a more comprehensive video detailing exactly how you can become
a high value man (and get the results of being a high value man),
give this video a like and leave a comment below.
I will leave you with one last thing, because I agree with Bedros’s Kullian
said about being a high value man. It is literally just being a man.
What would make a high value man? I'm going to tell you that I hate that term you're either a
man or you're a man-child and that's it if you're a man you're everything that
they describe as a high value man. A high value man is someone who's well spoken,
who's charismatic, who can earn, who can make friends, who can open doors,
be a gentleman, but who can also fight and defend your honor. That's just a man when
a man should be the fact you were calling it a high value man and is the same reason why toxic
masculinity exists or either toxic because you're a weak nice guy or you're masculine
Here is a piece I wrote about what is means to be a man today:
What does it mean to be a man today?
Being a man today is the same as it's always been. Men are made–men are not born.
To be a man is to live with purpose.
To be a man is to trust in your own judgement and experience over everything and everyone.
It is to accept full responsibility for your life and to choose to reject the victim mindset.
To be a man is to feel deeply but not allow those feelings to control your action.
To be a man is to choose your own way.
To be a man is to live by your own principles instead of those dictated to you.
To be a man is to take risk; to have courage; to fight when necessary; make peace when possible.
To be a man is to reject weakness, but embrace vulnerability.
To be a man is to step up, lead, protect, to take action and make decisions.
To be a man is to accept the consequences of your actions, good or bad.
To be a man is to bring your gift to the world in love,
even if the world rejects your gift–even if you are crucified for it.
To be a man is to be respected by other men. To have status among your peers, among your tribe.
A man is not swept away by emotion, a man has emotional mastery. He feels the emotion,
but does not let it get ahold of him.
A man looks with disdain at handouts and pity. A man only accepts what he has rightfully earned.
To be a man is to never be finished,
never put the guard down, never drop the gloves, fighting the battle anew each day.
Above all else a man seeks freedom. A man makes freedom in his life by
conquering himself and exercising his own will.
Share this video if you agree.