How to keep your man. How do you ensure that love lasts forever? There's seven things you
always want to foster in your relationship and losing even one of them will cost you
the guy in the longterm. So in this video, I'm giving you seven things you must always
have in your relationship. Stay tuned.
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How to keep your man. What does your relationship need to survive? Today, I'm giving you seven
things that you must always foster and if you lose any one of them, your relationship
is in trouble. Number one, sex or great sex. How often is sex a diagnostic marker of the
health of your relationship? I remember in my very first relationship, the time that
the sex started to go, that was the time we both knew we weren't right for each other.
Sex isn't just a diagnostic marker either. It can be used as a treatment. You know, if
you guys are fighting a lot, if you're having trouble, if you can't remember the last time
you made love set aside two weeks, do it every night. It's amazing how reconnected you'll
feel once the sex gets back on track. They say that when sex is going well, it's only
20% of good relationship, but when sex isn't going well, it can mean 100% of the failure
in a bad one.
So talk to your partner. Look at ways that you can make sure you keep having sex, have
sex once a week. Keep that connection and always foster sex and great sex in your relationship.
Number two, honesty. Now, no one goes into a relationship intending to be dishonest.
No one sets out their day thinking, "I want to lie today, this is going to be great!"
But why do people end up lying or just not telling the full truth? We stack fears on
top of our truths. We will start to worry how our partner will react. We start to worry,
Oh, what if I lose him and we start to want to hide things to keep the relationship bliss
that we've had. The problem is it kind of works for a while. You don't say that thing
you wanted to say. You avoid that topic and Hey, things are good.
We're still going along well. That behavior gets reinforced and the pattern starts to
happen more and more. Eventually, communication breaks down and you can't be honest with each
other because you can't say the hard things and the hard truth that you're too scared
to say. You must always maintain honesty in your relationship in the longterm if your
relationship is to succeed.
Number three, communication. I know it's cliche, but communication is and always
will be important in your relationship. Think of times when you get angry. The gas
bill was more than it should have been. Your plane didn't arrive on time. Your partner
said he'd booked the restaurant and he didn't, or your partner was home late from work. Why?
Why are you pissed off? It's because you expected something, and that something didn't happen,
so you feel pissed off about it. Now, if you were expecting that, you wouldn't have felt
pissed off, right? Because you were expecting it, while we're not expecting it because it
wasn't communicated.
Fights, arguments, disagreements are almost always a reflection of a lack of communication
and someone's expectations not being met. So always communicate with your partner over
everything. Make a habit of communicating with him and you'll have a great relationship
in the longterm.
Number four, respect. And if there's anything that's possibly more important
to your longterm relationship survival than communication, it is respect. If you lose
communication for a little while, well, you can probably get that back, but if you lose
respect for a little while, your relationship will be in the dust. If you treat him with
disrespect, personal insults, violence. If you go and sleep with someone else, if you
bad mouth him to others, if you stop respecting your partner at any point, your relationship
is going to go downhill fast.
You must always maintain respect from both sides in your relationship.
Number five, space.
This is one that surprises a lot of people, but space is absolutely essential to longterm
attraction, to longterm romance in your relationship. You must have times where you're apart, from
something as simple as you going into the gym, or you're going to painting class, to maybe
you even take a holiday on your own. It's that space that leaves room for desire and
attraction. It's impossible to constantly lust, lust after something that you're always
holding. Space is fundamental to appreciate what you have and to get away from it so you
can want it again.
Number six, trust. Trust in a relationship is everything. If you don't
trust your partner, what do you have? Now, this isn't just relating to fidelity either.
This can be talking about, well, do you trust him to get the jobs done that he said he would?
Do you trust his word? Do you trust that he'll show up when he's supposed to? Do you trust
that he'll be the man for you?
Men love feeling like you can trust them, and you love feeling like your partner can trust
you. When you don't trust, honesty starts to go, communication goes and eventually respect
will go as well. You must foster trust in your relationship always, and if you feel like
the trust is decreasing, then that is something you and your partner have to be honest and
communicate on to get the trust back.
Number seven is growth. You must always have growth
in yourself and in your relationship to maintain happiness. Why? Well, if you're not growing,
what are you doing? You're dying. If you're not growing, you're literally dying and the
same applies to you as it does to your relationship. Happiness comes not from an end result, but
from the journey along the way.
It comes from solving problems and feeling like you're expanding beyond your problems
as you grow. You have to be doing this with your partner, and you have to be doing this
on your own and encouraging your partner to do it on his own. When you're growing as individuals,
when you're taking on new challenges, when you're doing new things together, and you're
building up, you're building up to have, yes, there are still problems,
but better problems and problems
that you grow through. You guys are growing as a couple, and you're going through that
process, that journey of happiness together on the way.
Well, that is seven things. That is seven things that your relationship must have, that
you must have in your relationship to keep your man and to keep love blossoming forever.
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