The painful reality these days is if you're going on enough dates, if you're talking to
enough women, that you're going to get a handful, potentially majority who are not
going to text back. You try to text her and she completely ghosts you. You try to make plans,
she's not responding. You're sending her whatever text and it's just nothing's there.
Why is this happening? It could be some very specific reason, maybe you said something dumb,
you did something to be unattractive. But usually, there's three reasons or three categories of
things that might happen for her not to want to see you again and not to text back. Sometimes
you get a number from a girl that you just met at a party, a bar, on the street, wherever. One of
the reasons why she might not text you back after you get her number, which I know can be confusing,
because you think I got her number, why would she give me her number if she wasn't interested? Well,
it happens sometimes. And so you get her number but she doesn't text you back. It could be because
she was not invested enough in you. Sometimes those quick conversations, let's say maybe you
talk to her for like a minute, two minutes, and you get a number, it's not enough time for her to
become invested in you. She doesn't really feel this pull to want to text you or see you again,
it's just not enough time. And the same thing can even happen when you have been going on a
few dates with a woman. I was just working with a client recently. And he said to me,
"I don't get it. We spent two dates together. I texted her and it's taking her days to text
back. Why isn't she responding to me?" And I told him probably because she's not that invested in
new yet. Yeah, she spent a couple of dates with you. But it hasn't been enough time to say okay,
I really like this guy. And I'm really into him. Of course, it could be a few other things. But
it's that time investment that matters. Like she's not invested enough to want to text you
back. It's just not important to her. There's no real big attraction there. Sometimes it just takes
more time. And I know that sounds kind of funny, because it's like, well, how am I supposed to get
more time if she won't let me have time because she's not texting me back? Well that brings me to
some other reasons why she might not be texting you back. Let's go into those. Second reason
why she might not be texting you back might be because you did something where you acted needy.
I work with clients who also show me their text messages. And I'm seeing paragraphs and paragraphs
of text message, just like blue, blue, blue, blue, blue, or green, green, green, green and just on
and on. They're texting too much and this is showing neediness and you do not want to be
showing neediness because neediness is one of the most unattractive traits. Women don't want
to be with a needy guy. They want to be with a guy who doesn't need them and who has an abundance of
women. This is way more attractive. So if you're texting her too much, if you're trying to see her
too often, and trying to get her attention in any way - it can be DMing, it can be Facebook,
Messenger, wherever. Any kind of attention to a large degree is going to turn her off. Ideally,
instead of all these text messages back and forth, instead, you just ask once to hang out, and then
she agrees, you go on the date and that's where the attraction can be built instead of trying
to get her attention. And also on that front, if you go on a date with her, it's not going to
be really attractive the next day to ask her to hang out again or that night. While there can be
exceptions to that it's better to wait some days to show her that you're not needy, and therefore,
will land in her actually texting you back and wanting to see you again. The third reason why a
woman's probably not texting you back, is because she just didn't have an exciting time with you.
She was bored. It wasn't interesting. Sparks didn't fly. She didn't feel that X factor.
She wasn't interested in your time together. Women are going to be more attracted to your behavior;
the way that you act around them, the way that you talk to them, the way that you
show off your personality. And so if you're a guy who's a dud, and you're super dull,
and she feels like she's talking to a rock, it's not going to be pretty. She's not going to feel
that tension and that excitement. So if that's gone, she's not going to care to see you again,
therefore will not be texting you back. I have a program called Hooked. This is a video course
that you can go through in my private member's area where you can learn how to be more exciting,
how to be less needy, how to avoid some of the other pitfalls when turning a woman off. We
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don't worry, this is not you trying to change or be someone that you're not, you don't have
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that in the description down below. Thanks for watching, and I'll see you on the next video.