- I grew up in Colorado with my mom and dad
and my little sister, and I lived
in the same house my whole life,
but I was never outdoorsy; I didn't ski,
I didn't go outside, I was an actress,
so I'm like, I wanna be on stage, I wanna be inside.
My parents, there were some challenges.
We would all yell and scream at each other
if we were fighting, but we had to talk it out.
- My upbringing was very strange, we were Baptists.
If you know about Baptists, if you hear a song
you can tap your foot or tap your hand,
but you can't do both because that's dancing.
You can't do that.
My dad and mom, they had a strong marriage
and they're still together, but I didn't really
want their thing, I wanted my thing.
And my thing had to be in like in a movie, right
when the lights all go off and you see her for
the first time and it's this beautiful moment.
I'm positive you don't remember the first time you met me.
- No I don't.
- Yeah I know you don't, I remember
the first time I met you though.
It was like in the movies.
I just knew this girl's important
and of course she wanted me back, totally.
- No I did not.
He had the longest ponytail.
- Oh, we don't have to talk about that.
- Oh yes we do, he liked medieval things so.
- Well yeah, I like to do reenactments and things
like that which is not much more normal
than having a ponytail for no reason.
- Anyway so we were going to do Little Shop of Horrors,
we did the play and it was fine;
it actually worked out great.
- Well okay, don't get the wrong idea
but it was like pulling teeth some days,
especially in rehearsal, she was mean.
She was mean because I was weird and I was weird because
I knew she didn't like and she was being to mean to me.
- Well again you had a ponytail, a long, anyway.
- You know, lots of people have ponytails.
- Not that long.
- Lots of cool people.
- Not that long, but we kept get cast together,
kept getting cast together, and if of course if you're
in a play you don't need to hang out together a lot.
We actually were hanging out,
we were kind of dating for a whole year.
- No, no, no, three years, I waited three years,
no other girlfriends, no other dates,
and it wasn't just because of you,
it wasn't, but I just waited.
- We were going to movies, we were going to dinners,
and I was thinking we were just friends.
- Those are dates right?
- I was thinking we were just friends and I was
in total denial, so after a year I was finally like,
are you gonna ever ask me out?
- I'm in the middle of my pumpkin spice latte,
yeah, yeah, you wanna go out with me?
We can do a movie like last week.
We came from very different backgrounds where you know
your family talks but you talk a little loud sometimes
and my family doesn't talk but we're quiet.
I went to your house and your family is screaming
at each other and I'm sitting in the corner
just terrified out of my mind, and then you came
to my house and we'll start to argue or something
and everything dies down, and you're like, is that it?
- Is nobody talking about this?
- And there's not many things that really get under my skin
but one of them is when it's almost like a bombardment,
oh I hate what I'm wearing, and it's like bam,
I hate where we're going, bam,
I hate the people we're seeing, bam,
what's good about today, I don't know, bam.
- I think for sure money can be a challenge.
You always had trouble holding onto it.
- Very easy for me to spend money.
- That was a challenge.
- That was a big one, I think that was
the biggest challenge we actually had.
It's fun now to talk about.
- Oh boy.
- Do you wanna answer on three.
- Uh, sure, are you ready, one, two, three, yes, yes.
- It's been almost a decade that we've been together.
- And we've been married for three years.
- Three years, I don't know if
I could even drive home without you.
- That's a good point, I kind of navigate everything.
- Yeah you're the one that does the map and stuff.
You value yourself as an individual and you give me space
to be an individual and we are who we are together.
- And we're still best friends.
- Yeah we are, after all this time.
- Did you just see that?
- I just knew exactly how I wanted my life to go and I found
you, that's when everything started going better.
Every day after I've met you it
gets better and better and better.
- I think that I have helped raise up those things
that you were lacking, and learning how to communicate,
and learning how to express yourself.
And I think you've helped tame my raginess, my temper,
you really have, it's nice to kind of fill those voids
and help raise each other up,
rather than bring each other down.
- Maybe that's finding the part of you
that's missing in somebody else.
- Yeah.
- I love you.
- I love you too.
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