All right, my loves.
Let's talk about how to be a high value woman
and what are the traits of high value women.
So first off, this doesn't have to be gendered or anything.
I just use the term high value woman
because I've seen it thrown around a lot on social media,
and most of my audience are women.
So there you go.
But to me, a high value woman is someone
who strongly believes in their high value of self worth,
and from there flows how they hold themselves up in life,
how they respect themselves, how they want to be treated,
and everything else.
It is an energy.
It is an energy you have when you love yourself,
when you have high self-esteem, you're confident,
you believe in yourself,
you feel like your self-worth is infinitely grand.
Like you are just amazing,
the just brightest shining light that you could be.
And so you treat yourself that way,
and thus also demand to be treated in a certain way.
Think of the most precious, expensive item.
Maybe it's like a gemstone or a diamond,
and how you would treat that thing.
So you would likely treat it with so much care
and just be really careful and intentional with it
because it has such high worth.
You hold it in such high regard.
And then on the opposite end,
think of how you treat the most insignificant of trash.
Maybe it's a plastic wrapper
that you just take off and throw away immediately.
You don't give it a second thought. There's no use for it.
There's not much value there.
That is how you treat something of low value.
You're just like, eh, I don't care. Whatever. Right?
So that is how you can see the metaphor
of something of high worth and something of low worth.
So if you are a high value woman,
then you are someone who sees yourself of high worth.
And thus, you believe that you deserve the best.
You are worthy of the best.
So what are the traits of a high value person?
For one, they take care of themselves on all levels.
Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual.
High value people hold themselves in high regard.
And when you believe you are worthy of the best
and you deserve all the best things in the world,
you're gonna take care of yourself.
You're gonna take care of your body, your health,
your mental wellbeing, emotional, spiritual wellbeing.
And that also means that nothing is out of reach.
Nothing is too expensive for you.
You deserve it all, right?
If I wanna sign up for this gym,
I'm gonna do it because I deserve it,
because my health is worthy of that.
If I wanna spend on healthy organic food
or monthly facials or massages,
acupuncture, healing like therapy,
just anything that can benefit me and serve me
and nourish me, I am deserving of that.
So I think that is a belief of abundance,
that you are deserving of all these good things
that you desire that are good for you
because you are such a worthy, valuable person
that is worthy of all these things to take care of it.
So people of high value want the best for themselves
because they believe they deserve it.
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All right, back to traits of high value people.
Having a lot of self-respect.
I touched on this earlier,
but self-respect is kind of the baseline.
If you love yourself, you're gonna respect yourself.
And people who have a lot of self-respect,
they kind of command the respect from others as well,
because you respect yourself.
You treat yourself
and hold yourself up to a certain standard,
and you kind of expect other people to treat you
and hold you to that same level of standard.
And if someone doesn't respect you
or they they disrespect you,
then it's easy to be like...
Either cut them out
or make it clear that that's not okay
and you will not accept that treatment
and just kind of have that boss energy, right?
You don't believe you're beneath anyone,
nor do you believe you're better than everyone.
It's not about being cocky or conceited,
it's just about being like, I know my worth
and I deserve to be treated with this baseline, right?
Because everyone deserves to be treated
with this baseline.
Flowing from that is another trait
that I wanna point out in high value people.
So high value people know how to set clear boundaries.
So because they value themselves,
they know where their boundaries clearly are,
what's okay and what's not okay.
And they're not afraid to communicate that clearly.
And if someone crosses that boundary,
or if they do something that is not okay,
then that person is strong enough to speak up for themselves
and do something about it.
High value people have that level of confidence
that they're not going to be a people pleaser.
They're okay with making others uncomfortable,
and they're okay with cutting people off
if they have to.
Next is a good one.
High value people have confidence,
but not just any type of confidence.
They have confidence that is based on their inner worth,
not their external worth.
What that means is that they are confident
because of who they are inside.
Deep down, they have accepted
and embraced who they truly are,
their uniqueness, their gifts and personality,
and they are confident in that part of themselves.
Sure, they could also be confident about
what's on the outside,
but that's not the only thing they're confident in, right?
If you have someone who's confident in their looks
or in their status, achievements, maybe pedigree,
some of those things can be taken away, right?
Some of those things don't really matter
in the grand scheme of things.
Having that type of confidence
that's based on your inner worth
is like having this invincible power.
You have this invincible confidence that no matter
what anyone says, they cannot make you feel bad.
They cannot bring you down.
They cannot make you feel smaller
because your confidence is rooted in something
so universal and so infinite within you, right?
Someone can make fun of your looks,
but that doesn't have to bring you down
because you're confident in what's within as well.
I'm sure you've met people
who are confident based on external things,
but once you strip those external things away,
they feel like they've lost a sense of their identity
and they're no longer as confident.
That's 'cause their confidence was based on something
on the outside like their looks or their status
or how much money they have
or where they went to school, what job they have,
yada yada, right?
But those things are temporary, they're transient.
They could be gone any time.
But what cannot be taken away is your soul, your inner self,
because that's the invincible and invisible part.
And that's what's beautiful.
Honestly, when you have that type of confidence in yourself,
you don't take yourself too seriously.
So these high value people don't take
themselves too seriously.
They know how to have fun, they know how to be lighthearted,
but they also know how to go deep.
They are confident, yet humble and also kind.
So another trait that I wanna highlight
is high value people are kind.
Why?
Because usually when you love yourself,
you are kind to yourself.
And when you love yourself
and you're kind to yourself,
it's more likely you're gonna love and be kind to others.
Usually the people who are mean are the people
who are actually mean to themselves,
in their own minds.
You just might not be able to see it.
But people who genuinely are kind to themselves
because they believe they deserve it,
again, valuable, worthy, I deserve it,
then they are more likely to be kind to others
because they understand that we are all humans,
that we all make mistakes,
and that we're all flawed, we're all imperfect.
Everyone's going through their own struggle.
And so it's easy to be kind as a high value person.
Remember how I said high value people take care
of themselves on all the levels?
It's because of that level of self-love
and self-care that their own cup is so full
that then they're able to give.
They're able to pour their love and care to others
because they've already put themselves first
and poured enough love for themselves first.
That is another trait that I should point out,
that high value people put themselves first,
and that doesn't mean that they're selfish or narcissistic,
but it's because they understand this energetic thing.
You have to pour love to yourself first
and give yourself all that you need because you deserve it.
And from there, can you then be a good person and pour love
and give kindness and share with others
High value people don't sacrifice themselves
for the happiness of others.
They value their own happiness
and wellbeing just as much as they would value someone else
that they love in their life.
So although it could...
Sometimes a parent might sacrifice their happiness
for their child.
I truly believe if you're a high value person,
you value your happiness at the same level
as all the people you love in your life,
'cause if you put yourself under,
that's a little lesser value, right?
It's not exactly the best.
So if you truly love yourself and respect yourself,
you want the best for yourself.
The last one I'll share today is that high value people go
after their biggest dreams
because they believe all of it is possible.
This one is a huge one, and it always inspires me
because if you truly believe that you were worthy
of all the best things in the world,
then why wouldn't you just go
after everything that you desire, right?
There's nothing holding you back.
There's nothing stopping you.
There's no, "Oh, I don't deserve to do that.
Oh, that's too expensive for me.
Oh, that's too nice for me.
I don't wanna spend my money on it.
I don't deserve that."
Or I don't know, just any of those limiting beliefs.
High value people recognize that they are worthy
and deserving of the best that the world has to offer,
and so they go after their biggest dreams.
They literally are powerful manifesters
because they have that energy of believing in themselves,
believing in their dreams,
and believing all of it is possible.
That is an invincible mindset to have.
So my wish is for all of us to become high value people,
to see our self-worth as just the grandest, highest,
brightest, most beautiful thing.
And that everything in the world,
all the beautiful, amazing experiences and goals
and dreams that you desire are all within your reach.
They are all possible.
All you have to do is believe in yourself and go for it.
Set your mind to what you want and go for it.
There will be obstacles, things will come up, whatever,
you're gonna get over them because you can.
Believe that you are capable of achieving
that dream or that goal because it is possible.
And for those of you who feel like you're not quite there,
you're not fully believing in yourself,
you're not fully believing in your self worth,
and you're not the ideal of this high value person yet,
that is okay.
This is one of those things where you can kind
of fake it till you make it.
Remember what I said in the beginning,
being a high value person, it's just an energy.
And good news, energy is accessible to us all the time.
We are energetic beings.
You can create energy out of you by simply choosing
to embody a new energy.
So all you have to do is understand
what this high value person looks like,
feels like on the inside and on the outside,
and then start to embody that person, feel like that person.
Do whatever it takes to bring that energy out of you.
Whether it is dressing in something beautiful
that makes you feel confident
or putting on upbeat music
that makes you feel powerful.
Literally, do all the things.
Use all the tools at your disposal.
Use my positive affirmations.
Just do everything to get your energy right
and to get your energy high, like high vibration.
The more you can operate from that energy
of a high value person,
the more likely your life is going
to unfold for that person.
And more and more, your life is going to reflect
this belief that you have,
that you are deserving of the best.
And the best that you want,
all the things that you desire also desire you as well.
All right, hope you enjoyed today's talk.
Let me know down below
how much do you feel like you are a high value person.
From 1 to 10, 10 being the highest,
where are you at in your journey right now?
Let me know down below.
And also let me know which tip was your favorite.
All right, sending you so much love,
and I will see you in the next video.
Bye.
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