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If you saw my life seven years ago,
we were living the American dream.
This is the neighborhood that I used to own
a pretty good sized house.
We had the pool, we had the cars.
I was making a very lucrative salary.
The future was very bright.
I have fallen on hard times since that time.
I miss it a lot.
Coming back today is hard.
And just have not been able to get back up.
Just about six years ago, I did a cheat on my wife.
That affair lasted just about two years.
It was totally living a double life.
I was constantly lying about where I had to go.
It was the beginning of the end of our relationship,
and we finally separated a year ago and I moved out.
I lost my big job and I lost the big house
in the fall about two years ago.
My life right now is scattered.
I was evicted from my apartment about two weeks ago.
My ex wife, Joanne has allowed me to stay in her home
until I can find an apartment that will do.
I had to ask my daughters to help me.
I did not have money to come in to even cover my rent.
So I reached out to them.
I was desperate to make ends meet.
I don't believe I ever lied to them
about money or the need for it.
I feel like I have screwed up in their eyes.
I'm trying so hard to get my family to believe in me again.
Bob admits to some very elaborate deceptions
on his dating profile.
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About a year ago, I got on a dating website.
I had to create a profile.
The profile said a couple of things
that were just absolutely false, they were lies.
One was that I was an attorney.
I am not an attorney.
That I was divorced, which was a lie.
That I have my private pilot license.
I don't have that.
I even went as far as putting a picture of my plane
that I said was mine in my profile.
So it looked like, wow, this is a guy
that I would want to go out with.
I probably had a dozen or so dates.
Several of the women asked about the plane
and showed quite an interest in flying,
which I'd lie about that.
When I went on the dates,
I had to be the guy from the website.
Sherry, I met from the dating website.
We hit it off immediately.
She absolutely believed that I was an attorney.
Well, the lies just continued to get worse
and I couldn't even remember them.
And then it came up from her,
"Well, where's the Christmas party going to be?"
How am I going to overcome that one?
She reached out to one of my daughters
and asked them flat out, "Is your dad an attorney?
"Does your dad have a plane?"
No, no, no, no, no.
And then she confronted me.
The relationship ended immediately.
I've come to face a lot of things
that have happened over the years as a result of my lies.
It affected so many people.
I'm done with lying.
I really want to come clean.
Bob, welcome.
Thank you, Dr. Phil.
Are you a pathological liar?
I'd say recently with certain people, I was,
I did that.
Prior to that, probably before 2018,
I don't recall doing anything like that.
Well, you say you began telling lies in 2019,
but you were having an affair in 2007?
True.
(audience laughing)
I did have that.
And I guess that was so out of my mind-
Oh, there was that.
That was a two year lie.
Yes, sir.
And there were a lot of lives involved in that.
And then now you put up this dating profile,
which was a complete fiction.
What's your theory about why you put it up the way you did?
In about 2017, 2018, they changed the medication
that I was taking, because I got labeled at that point
as being bipolar hypomania.
And one of the things there was grandiose stories,
storytelling, things like that.
And I thought I fell into a trap there.
So the devil made you do it.
The devil and me, but probably
a little bit of both, Dr. Phil.
So you're saying that this was a mental illness?
I think it truly was.
Was, are you?
Well, just as I sit here today,
I'm a heck of a lot better person than I was a month ago.
You guys have heard this a lot, right?
Many times.
Yeah, that's a pretty common line.