By the end of this video,
you're gonna know why they just won't leave you alone.
Especially when things are starting to go south.
I mean, it's just like, they're going to drive you insane
even though they treated you terribly during the whole entire relationship
and you think, okay, you treated me terribly during the whole entire relationship.
You acted like you hated me during the whole entire time
and now, I'm like, finally.
Like escaping you and now,
you won't leave me alone.
What is up with that?
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So okay, you want to know the real reason why they just won't leave you alone.
It's so crazy because people don't just like leave narcissistic relationships,
you know, whether it's a business relationship or personal relationship.
You don't just casually go,
Hey, you know what? This isn't working out anymore.
Let me just catch on the flip side.
We'll just stay friends and we'll just be cordial to each other.
I tried that I was going to business relationship with a narcissist and I thought,
oh, I'll just figure out a way that we can stay friends and it did not work out that way for me.
I tried I tried everything that I could to try to keep it nice.
It wasn't going to work that way for me.
I really really wanted to.
It's like a you’re running out of a burning building.
Like you're just with your hair is on fire and you're trying to get out and you hope to hell.
You get out of there with the clothes on your back.
That's the analogy that I have when you're like
trying to get the hell out of these relationships and then they just will not leave you alone
and you think why.
Why would I want to be in this relationship with you?
You were horrible and yet they don't see it that way.
Do you know a lot of times they see it as well.
You were horrible too.
You were just as bad.
I was only responding to you.
They see you as the enemy a lot of time.
I mean, they're just so warped in their brain.
But why do they not leave you alone?
It's like they have this whole love-hate relationship with
you and I have a whole video on why narcissist love you
and also hey, you can definitely check that
out if you would like but why they don't leave you alone is because,
well, it all comes down to,
you guessed it.
That narcissistic supply.
That is their lifeblood.
That is their food.
That is their oxygen
and of course, when it comes down to negotiating with them,
you are still a source of supply for them
and so they are going to want to continue to keep you
as a source of supply and even though they'll sit there and they'll say,
I want to settle this, I want to get this done.
How come you're not settling this and yet you're sitting there going.
Well you didn't provide what you were supposed to provide.
You didn't provide the document.
You're the one that filed 50,000 motions and they're going to go
but you aren't the one settling gaslighting you once again.
Act like you're the one that has the problem yet you know,
darn well that they're the ones that are continuing the problem
and I know as a lawyer who has represented tons of these people,
they'll sit there and they'll say I'd rather pay you.
They'll say that straight up to the lawyer, they know,
because they don't see you as a person.
They see you as an opportunity.
It's like a game.
They're like sitting there playing a video game.
It's like they get dopamine hit from the ponds of,
you know, moving these pieces around on a board or whatever
like they enjoy,
you know, manipulating people.
It's fun for them.
They enjoy it and so that's why they do it to them.
You're still a way to get that dopamine hit
and they enjoy messing with you as long as you are a way to get supplies.
for them, they're not going to leave you alone
and so you are either going to be a source of adulation
for them or a source of prestige or source of,
you know, all of that is like that great
A diamond level supply.
The great A diamond level supply is it feeds their ego
like how do they l ook how do they look to the world.
They look to the world like they're they're great.
They look wonderful to the world so
they can show the world how amazing they are.
Whether it's that prestigious job.
The prestigious house, car, bank account,
you know, all of those things, right?
Or it can be people telling them how great they are.
How smart they are, you know,
because they want believe that they're smarter than
everybody else and all that good stuff too.
Right?
So now, all of that is the great a diamond level supply
and then there's that.
What I call the dark underbelly.
That supply that they also get
from making people feel small jerking them around.
It's almost like the kid with the earthworm
when they put like the pins in it
and they enjoy seeing how the earthworm just sort of like moves around,
you know, and move like on the ground.
That's kind of what they're doing when they
are seeing you sort of being manipulated like that
and that's why they don't leave you alone.
That's why they come back.
That's why you get the little ping hoover
in your inbox six months later, a year later and you think,
oh god, I've been finally free of this person and oh my god here they are back again.
So and if you agree with me, put agree in the comments.
If you've seen any of these other things,
I'd love to know what you guys have seen and what your thoughts are on
why they don't leave you alone
and you know, they're actually very codependent.
They don't like being alone.
They don't want to be abandoned.
They might act like they don't want you around or whatever
but the bottom line is if there's nobody else around.
You know, they're going to look for,
Hey who can, you know, who can I hit up right now?
Right?
They might look to see who's round right at that moment.
Right?
and if there's somebody that they can,
you know, find to go hang out with then they'll do that
or if it's somebody who's going to take care of them.
They'll go find that person
or somebody who can give them money or financial support or whatever it is.
They'll go find that person too.
They don't, they don't want to have to be alone
and it especially, you know, if you've rejected them or something like that.
They really can't handle that.
So that's why they don't leave you alone
and especially the more supply of given them.
If you try to rip it away.
They're going to come back to try to get it back.
So, that's the story
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