that's right our good buddy drew Monson aka mytoecold is back in a video
discussing why he hates men and there's a lot a lot that we can all learn from
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feel free to hit me up alright but yeah it's been a little while since drew
Monson has posted a video and you just came back with a video titled why I hate
men first off first and foremost I don't think I'm the only one who noticed this
but drew you lost some weight baby you looking good let me know down in the
comments below alright but anyways yeah there's a few topics that I wanted to
dive into a kind of unpack from his video but the first one the first one is
and it's kind of ridiculous during Pride Month but anyways here's a clip of drew
explaining it I beers my women beers that are so big you forget who you even
are anyway I'm walking down the street the other day and this car drives by me
and it's a group of guys and of course the first thought I have is oh my god
it's a bunch of bros maybe I can go to the brewery with them and get a giant
beer but no turns out they wanted to be enemies because one of the guys stuck
his head out the window yelled at me literally this is exactly what he said
learn how to walk straight you're fat I'm not gonna say the word but it's the
one people use against gay people so yeah like there is just no room for hate
speech I just do not understand it like rule number one ladies and gentlemen
don't be a dick all right like I am just I'm trying to figure out like I
reading a book on empathy and I'm always trying to be empathetic I'm always
trying to put myself in another person's shoes and understand I'm trying to
understand what kind of mindset a person could get into where the way somebody
like Drew was walking angered them so much that they felt like they had to
scream this out at him like who hurt this man what happened to this man that
made him want to scream such a ridiculous terrible thing at another
human being I don't get it I might never get it but I think it's important to
realize like this kind of stuff is not OK and it almost it almost feels like
and like I I just I can't even imagine being LGBTQ during Pride Month because
it feels like during Pride Month there's even more homophobia you know what I
mean and that is just insane and it's awful what else is crazy about what
these people screamed at drew is obviously there's the whole situation
going on with steven crowder and carlos maza right and steven Crowder's defense
of his shirt is that it says socialism is for FIGS right I just want you guys
to play this game real quick because this is the most ridiculous thing I've
ever heard anybody say so when people are defending steven crowder and it's
like imagine if these these guys screamed at drew Monson walk in a
straight line you fig like the connotation is there there's they're
trying to say your thing without saying that thing you know what I mean like we
know what you're trying to say like it's almost like as somebody who's half black
there's some there's some weirdness around like when somebody says like in
word like if somebody's came up to me as a half black man and called me an n-word
not the word but the n-word right I'd still be offended you know so I just
think that whole argument about the fig thing is absolutely ridiculous my beers
my women beers that are so big you forget who you even are anyway I'm
walking down the street the other day and this car drives by me and it's a
group of guys and of course the first thought I have is oh my god it's a bunch
of bros maybe I can go to the brewery with them and get a giant beer but no
thought they wanted to be enemies because one of the guys stuck his head
out the window yelled at me literally this is exactly what he said learn how
to walk straight you're fat I'm not gonna say the word but it's the one
people use against gay people it's no I think this is something great that we
can all learn from drew Monson now as somebody who has a lot of emotions and I
have a thick skin like I get it like turning this into a joke and like I get
that it's it's good to laugh about these situations like sometimes when somebody
says something so hateful like there's nothing else to do but just
laugh at it trust me like when I'm going through my comment section sometimes I
am just lol aghhh all day long right and we have to be able to joke about it we
happy to be able to like make fun of it because it is so ridiculous but at the
end of the day like I don't know like I don't know drew Monson obviously but
there is some pain that comes with it like people say all sorts of things to
me in my comments a lot of it has to do with my weight and things like that and
like yeah if someone hurts but it's something that I acknowledge is going to
happen especially because I'm on a public platform so if there's anything
you take away from drew Monson making this video is that it's okay to laugh
about it and joke about it like for some people some people like myself some
people like drew like this is a coping skill that we use and it's something
that I've talked to my therapist about like we all have coping skills right I
mean there's healthy and unhealthy coping skills and this like I've talked
to like with my therapist like do you think that's unhealthy
no that's how you deal with it just as long as you're processing like through
it if it is like affecting your day-to-day life you know what I mean
besides that it's also just that weird like masculine thing I'm not comfortable
with because it always feels like they're putting it on like it's like
that's not a real personality when like a guy never shows any real feelings and
all they say is like yeah and they like have that walk and they're like okay
cool yeah right there right there that is one of the main reasons I just
to make this video because it's true like it's very true and this is
something that is getting better in some ways and not which is men being able to
open up about their feelings open up about their emotions like I could tell
you this I was raised not talking about my
emotions so when I got to high school and depression was hitting me anxiety
was hitting me later on where it led to my drug addiction and alcoholism like I
just didn't talk about my emotions because we didn't do that in my house
because it's not the way my father was raised so it's not the way that he
raised me right and the other thing was I was like a
jock in high school as well I was on the football team the wrestling team the
track team and like the locker room talk isn't like yo bro I'm feeling super sad
today like we just didn't do that so the thing
is it's something I try to do with my channel is advocate for like people
being able to open up and discuss their feelings what's interesting is like
throughout my life as I got older too I mainly had female friend and it might be
because it was easier to open up to them or even like my gay friends like it was
easier to open up to them about my feelings about my emotions because there
is sort of still a stigma around men opening up about their feelings and
emotions because you're not manly enough you know what I mean like you shouldn't
be talking about this just man out just deal with it if any guys out there or
watching this video like just know you can open up about this stuff like
something that's just amazing is when I see like groups of men like in support
groups where they talk about this like I would do the drug and alcohol treatment
center and seeing like the most badass dudes I've ever met in my life being
able to open up about their feelings like I'm talking about ex-navy seals
firefighters policemen other veterans EMTs like some being able to open up and
discuss these things because you know what they say baby girl in order to heal
you gotta feel so in this last section of
video I just want to talk about a few things that drew Monson touch dog I love
drew I absolutely adore drew but I'm trying to take what you guys are already
watching and try to teach you some lessons that I've learned in my life and
sometimes I've had to help others with these lessons as well so one of them is
when drew says this it's kind of been all over the place I hope you liked it I
haven't made one for a little I don't even I can't just keep giving excuses
like I guess this is just how I make videos I really want to get consistent
with it but it's hard because I really feel a lot of pressure like sometimes I
wish I was like an alcoholic because I think drinking I've never done it before
but I think it would make me like more comfortable cuz I can't make a video
without thinking like oh my god even like ten people seeing this it freaks me
out what if one of them doesn't like trust me I get it I get it he was joking
I get it but as somebody who is a recovering alcoholic I would be remiss
in my responsibilities if I did not just talk about it real quick this is one of
the main reasons why people drink or use drugs I'm somebody who used to have
rippling social anxiety like a lot of people who meet me now have no idea how
bad my social anxiety used to be but when I found alcohol it got rid of all
that stuff so when troost talking about like why he
doesn't upload that much and get on camera and everything and you know hey
you know maybe if I drank and everything like that like that can be dangerous the
reason being just the way dependents work is that we start to train our brain
to whenever we're going into a social setting because a lot of you out there
are not youtubers but what that could be for you is every time you're going out
to a bar or you're going to like a work party or a regular party or whatever it
is you might train yourself to drink in order to tap to people and for somebody
like me somebody who has addiction that runs in my family like this can be
dangerous because the way my addiction began to progress was I needed it to
function in any setting I started needing to drink at work right
I needed to start drinking just to go to the grocery store and interact with like
the cashier and all of those things so I know drew was joking but just like put
that out there it can be dangerous if you start to use
alcohol for your social anxiety sorry I'm trying to sell you stuff I'm just
trying to just need money I'm trying to get rich again I used to have like tens
of thousands of dollars now I have like a few hundred sometimes a thousand
dollars but honestly I act rich when I'm not even rich like I think I've said
this before but if I have over like four hundred dollars I just stopped looking
at price tags like I just turn into Kanye West no the last thing I want to
touch on real quick is I think a lot of you might be able to relate to what Drew
was talking about just in regards to money
so something that I do as a YouTube creator as somebody who just looks at
you know society and human behavior and everything like that I see people like
drew Monson or even Garret Watts obviously their friends and everything
and like these these guys they have like a ton a ton of fans huge fans right and
when I hear them talk about money problems in my band like you just got to
get up and go to work and I know it's not that simple but this is where like
therapy helps me this is where my antidepressants help me they get me to
that baseline where I can get up and support myself and you know I also have
a son so I got to support him as well but I think a lot of you might be able
to relate to that as well and this is why taking care of your mental health is
so so so important like there are instances where people get like
disability for their depression or their trauma but we are not at a place in the
American healthcare system where this is something that happens to a lot of
people where a lot of people get benefits when they're not working for
example when I first got sober seven years ago I was pending disability for
almost a year and then I got denied because during that year I started to
get better alright so if you realize that your mental health is affecting
your work if it's affecting your ability to get work if it's affecting your
ability to make money to support yourself like because this all just
progresses the illness even more and it will make you even more depressed by not
being productive but not being able to provide with yourself which then leads
to anxiety like how am I gonna pay my bills how am I gonna put food on the
table and all these other things please please please go out there and
get help all right as of right now if you're 26 years old or younger you can
still be covered under your parents medical insurance so you could probably
get therapy all right but if you're somebody who does have insurance just
talk with a doctor talk to your insurance company see if they can
recommend a therapist for you if you would like to use some affordable online
therapy I personally use better help online therapy and I'm an affiliate of
them so if you'd like there's a link down in the description below what that
does is you get cheap online affordable therapy and a little bit goes back to
help the channel as well but if your depression your anxiety is affecting
your life and your ability to function to provide yourself all right
there's no no no shame in asking for help all right but anyways that's all I
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