Hey everyone, welcome back to my channel
If this is your first time visiting me welcome. I always do that this exact same thing. I do it every single time
So last week I was hanging out with my mom for the week and I did try to get her on camera
But she was extremely camera shy
I
Don't want you to seriously I don't want you to put it in anything. I'm not gonna put it in anything
No, I'm not I'm just filming us like going off to you don't I'm not filming you we're going off to gentle fit no because
Okay, that's good, okay
Yeah, so my kids were off in camp last week and I got to spend the week with my my mom my dad
I had a really good time mom, and I didn't get to any auctions
But we did manage to do some painting
so that was kind of fun and I don't have any finished product to show you but I was doing a landscape so
That was fun
So here in Toronto
We are in a nice heatwave and I'm sitting outside and I I don't know if the sound of the cicadas is
Picking up in the background, but I love that sound like to me
Usually we hear them in August, but we've been hearing them like all month of July. So Oh
Little cicadas. It's so nice. So
There they are
So if you hear this that buzzing sound in the background, that's what it is it's a cicada anyways
So today I want to talk to you about
the right time to transition to silver and
I realized that that title is just a little bit of a clickbait in a way, but
There really is no right time to transition. I'm sure you probably already realize it but maybe you don't because there's been a lot of
of Comments not only on my YouTube channel, but I've also seen on on Pinterest as well
Sorry not Pinterest on Instagram
Amazing support networks on Instagram by the way, so if you don't already have it I would sign up
yeah, so I've heard some comments from
Women in their 20s
30s 40s 50s 60s and so on and
A lot of the comments I hear are it's not the right time and the reasons why
often are because of the pressure that we are receiving from our
friends, right like these are our and I shouldn't even go friends because these are our like
closest
closest friends often times that
Really they do want the best for us and they truly believe that is an awful sound in the background. What is that?
All right, so I brought you inside my house because it's just too loud out there
So first off I have to tell you what I did this morning before I get into some
nitty-gritty about
Nitty gritty, okay. So first I'm going to tell you what I did this morning
So two weeks ago I had a video
and
It was my 16 month update I think and I said in it
I'm gonna be patient and I'm not gonna cut my hair. I'm just gonna let it grow
so I'm gonna try to worry less about the
Yellow bits that I have in my hair
I for some reason I wake up every single day and I look at them and think about cutting them and stuff and
Yeah, I just think it's it's I need to have more patience
So that's what I'm gonna be working on for now for a month 17
Well literally lasted two weeks because this morning I woke up and I was just so tired of looking at those orange
Ends that I took well, I took my my scissors and just chopped
So the back now, I don't know Everett can you see this in the... yeah... so the back now is pretty good
But you can see this whole
top area right here is
Chopped short, so I literally I'm pretty sure I'm borderline mullet action right now. It's not a nice haircut
so I'm just gonna pull it back like this and
I'll book an appointment with my hair stylist to just fix it up a little bit for me. So anyway that aside
lack of patience
I swear that's like a full other video because a lot of you comment about about that as well and
Wanting to give up and all kinds of stuff. So we'll save that for another video, but
anyways
yes, so right time to
transition to silver so
The thing is is there really is no right time to transition I think
the right time is so
individual for each one of us and
you
Know I could say to myself. I wish I had have done this like, you know
Eight years ago or whatever when I was first thinking about it in my early 30s
But truth be told I just I don't think I would have been ready then so I think this is the right time for me
And for all of you who are watching this
It's probably your right time as well
but I find like
If you are having so many doubts and you're just not sure and this is the I'm talking about
You're not going through the transition right now, you're thinking about transitioning if you're having tons of doubts
Then it probably isn't the right time so
for me I
I was like a hundred percent. I'm like, that's it. I am so sick of dyeing my hair. I cannot do this anymore and
I knew but the problem is is that when you're going through the transition
Those doubts will start creeping in because you'll look at yourself in the mirror one
subscriber
commented I think she's like eight months into it and she said
like I can't handle this I hate it and that's the part where you need that patience to just
persevere and go through it because
what you see in the mirror at six months or eight months or ten months is
Not what the full look is going to be
It isn't unless you have like a really really short pixie cut and that's how you style your hair
Then it may just take a few months and you're at your where you want to be
So but even then if you've got like, you know, stay short in the back and a little longer in the front or something
It's still going to take a while to get that that growth so
So a really lovely woman on
Instagram she commented she's in her 20s and
So she's trying to transition and her friends are basically saying to her
You know what? I liked the way you looked
Better with brunette hair like she's actually transitioning right now and they're telling her like you looked better that way
so I felt
Awful awful when I when I read that
Post from her and I just had to comment back and I'm not gonna say her name on here just to keep her privacy
I don't know if she wants to me to say it. So I'm not going to but
Yeah, what a lot. She's a lovely person and
I
looked through some of her pictures to see what she looked like before cuz I was curious I was like
does she look better like I you know, cuz I mean
How can you comment when you don't know and I actually looked through and I don't think she does
I think she looks absolutely stunning with the silver hair
so I
Want to say right now, I think
You know there hasn't been one
person where I've looked at before and an after photo
that I haven't liked the silver hair more on them, and I don't know why maybe it's because
The natural highlights of silver are just striking and they just make you brighter
I don't know, but there hasn't been one person
So I hope that that is a little bit inspiring to you and will help you keep pushing forward
Yeah, so there's no there's the kind of a debate between
Transitioning when you're younger and
transitioning when you're older and it's very interesting because a lot of women that are older and I'm gonna say probably 50s
onward
Have said to me
Yeah, you know
You're lucky that you're transitioning at a younger age when you're maybe when your face is a little bit more youthful
It's so much easier
there's an you know, less pressure, whatever right because it's trendy or whatever but I
About that because there is a lot of societal pressure right now for
Youth and young people to look young and gray is still
In people's minds not a youthful color. So yes, it's a trendy color
but not necessarily a youthful color and you know
I think a big part of that is because we we do call it granny hair, right?
So I think that that doesn't help anything. It's like oh we've got granny hair
Oh, you're so trendy and this will this I've had stylist before say that trend will pass, right?
It's not a trend
It's real and I think that the more women that are authentic out there. It'll just become
Normal I think for for people so yeah, so I don't know I think that there isn't a magic age
when you're transitioning, I think the key is is that you feel comfortable in your own hair and
that
confidence that
Shines and that shows and you're laughing and you're having fun even with you know
A few inches of growth and the rest is brunette or the rest is red or whatever
But you're laughing you're having fun. You don't look like you're you know, moping around and grumpy
I think it just doesn't matter what color you have on your head. I don't think...like people don't care they want to
they want to know you right so all
right, so moving forward
I've had a few different requests for
videos and one of those requests is actually for fitness and
health
After my first son was born and I released from the military I
Decided that I would be a personal trainer when he about a year old
it was kind of funny because I started personal training and then I think
three weeks after I had started I
Realized I was pregnant with my second child, so I didn't want to tell these new and potential clients
I'm so sick. I had like the worst morning sickness and
was training them and of course, I mean that first trimester, you know, you get out of breath and
Yeah, so anywho
but I liked I liked personal training and
That's why you're strong Everett my youngest son that says that's why why he's strong so that's kind of cute but anyways I
I really still like Fitness is still my passion and
Living a healthy life. So I just if you're interested in
I could even do fitness videos for you. Like if some of you just would rather work out at home and follow a
Video, I'd be more than happy to create a little
Workout routine for you a stretching routine. All right, so just let me know in the comment section below
if you're interested in that, okay, so just say
a comment with
Fitness and whatever you want stretching or fitness
Weights or
Whatever. So just just let me know if that's something that you would be interested in
I know that this is my my silver hair journey
But you know, I have a lot of interests.
Yeah fitness and and health are definitely definitely a big passion of mine so
Anyways, so, I hope that this video
Is a little bit of inspiration for you to take the plunge no matter where you are
In your life your 20s or 30s or your 70s?
If you are ready to to ditch the dye then it's the right time and
It doesn't matter what your friends say. It doesn't matter what
anyone thinks
It's what you think and just know that
That beginning
Transition is not always the prettiest that's just the way it is and it takes a lot of patience and take it from me
Who just chopped my hair off this morning, but I actually feel good. I just had to chop that stuff off
I just I feel better even though I look like a shaggy shaggy dog right now
Yeah, so it's not always it's a real test of patience and I wish you well
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Bye for now
Filming yeah, good filming. Yeah
My legs look like hot dogs
The duchess cross?
All right, so we just came inside out of the hot hot sizzling heat and the love that's natural
That's not right the heat
Sound okay. Don't push you can't push it's not because the heat just gonna hit the sound
All right, so I brought you back inside my house. Well, you were never inside the house to begin with...
So I brought you back inside. No, why don't we keep saying back inside? Okay