I met Bob about five months ago on a dating app.
His profile said that he was an attorney,
he was a pilot and he had a small plane.
He was standing in front of a beautiful home
with a built-in pool, big brick house, and a lot of land.
We had our first date, things moved very quickly
and then I moved into his place.
He continued to tell me the lies after I moved in.
The one red flag that went up in the very beginning
was his age.
He told me he was 59,
but of course I Googled him
and it kept coming up as 63 everywhere.
Bob wanted to maintain the impression
that he was an attorney.
Bob would actually put a suit and tie on
and walk out the front door in the morning.
The night before he would ask me
to pick out his tie for him, which I thought was cute.
He had a daily planner with travel.
He would talk to me about the cases
and what they were settling for.
There was a lot of money issues.
He was an attorney,
so I figured he had some disposable income
and even just to go have a drink or something,
sometimes he didn't have the money for that.
It was kind of strange
and it sort of worried me.
Right after my son died,
he asked to borrow six or seven hundred dollars.
In total, I probably loaned him about $2,000.
Because of my cancer,
I have pain medication.
In two weeks time, he took 70 to 80 pills.
I confronted him and he right away said,
"Oh yeah, I meant to tell you, I took them."
There were a lot of clues
that he was not being honest with me.
I texted Sarah,
I just have some questions that I really need answers.
I found out he wasn't 59,
he wasn't an attorney,
he didn't own a plane, the house was foreclosed.
I was just blown away.
I felt taken advantage of.
It was all lies.
I ended the relationship and then I eventually moved out.
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Sherry, welcome.
Thank you.
In the midst of all that
and talking about Bob,
just in passing, you said right after your son passed away,
which is not too terribly long ago.
I'm very sorry for your loss, by the way.
Thank you, thank you very much.
I don't want that to just slide by there.
I know that's very, very difficult.
It is.
So I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
Thank you.
He created a whole fantasy world
and then pulled you into it, right?
He sure did.
And when this day timer he's talking about,
he said he didn't really keep a day timer of activities,
but he actually did, right?
It wasn't just interviews.
It was-
No, 'cause I didn't know he was going on interviews.
I thought he had a job.
Yeah.
And there were a list of airports
that were in there
where he could fly out locally with his airplane
where he could get to another airport
to work on a case and things like that.
Right, and the places that he could take me
that we wouldn't have to stop and get more fuel.
And so that he had made this list of airports that were-
Okay, and that's what was in this day planner?
Yes.
So is she lying?
No, I'm sure it was in there, Dr. Phil.
The majority of things that were in there,
'cause I used two colors, green and yellow,
one was for bills and one was for interviews
as to what I did.
What color were the lies?
(laughing)
White.
'Cause she's saying that you were saying,
I'm going to work on this case and that case
and these airports I can fly to and stuff like that.
And not four minutes ago, I asked you that,
and you said, no, no, no, none of that was in there.
They're in there obviously.
Right, I know I've already read it,
I've been through it.
Sherry, you busted him at the library once, right?
I did.
Where was he supposed to be that day?
I was so angry.
He was at work,
he was supposed to be at work,
and the night before I said,
"Bob, please come clean and tell me
if you don't have this job."
And he's, I swear it, he showed me his badge and everything.
And then I saw a text from one of the daughters
that said they saw his car at the library
and I was so angry
and I just threw on my clothes and walked right in
and there he was spread out in a little glass enclosed room
in the library, like it was his office.
He was on the phone and he had papers and I said,
"Oh, this is nice law firm."
And he was like, "Oh, you know, let me explain."
I said, "I'm done.
I don't want to talk to you
and I don't want to hear what you have to say" and I left.
You know, people lie for a lot of different reasons.
I actually have a list of the main reasons that people lie
and you hit an awful lot of 'em.
You're creating this whole world
so you don't have to earn
the things that you wish you had and once did.
So you just create a fantasy so you can have them anyway.