- Hi, I'm Hannah.
- And I'm Bing.
- And welcome back to the fourth episode
of our sex ed series.
- Today is all about sexuality and sexual orientation.
Sexual orientation is basically a system of labels
made up so that we can categorize
and understand people better.
- As Lacey Green says, "Labels don't define us.
"We define labels."
- Sexuality is fluid, and one really good example of this
is the Kinsey scale, developed by a guy called Kinsey,
which is like a orientation
- Spectrum.
It really only exists to illustrate
that there is no black and white,
and that it is very, actually, hard
to be entirely gay or entirely straight.
- So, here are some basic definitions.
You are sexually attracted to members
of the opposite sex.
You are sexually attracted to members
of the same sex.
You are sexually attracted to members of both sexes.
- You are not sexually attracted to any sex,
but you can form romantic attachments.
You just love everything.
- And all of them are awesome.
- All of them.
Yeah.
- They're great.
They're fine.
They're dandy.
"But Hannah, how do you know?"
- If you're confused as to whether you're gay,
straight, or bi, or whatever, then it doesn't really matter.
Some people will kinda know straight away
and from quite an early age, but for others,
they might discover their sexuality
quite a bit later in life.
- Hannah's actually had quite a few questions on her Tumblr,
which there is a link to in the description
if you want to ask questions,
about whether you are too young
to know your sexual orientation, and really, no.
That's not a thing.
You can never be too young to identify,
and at the same time, you have to bear in mind
that it's not, like, a permanent thing.
You don't have to label yourself and say,
"Okay, I'm now entirely straight forever."
- And you can't go back,
and of course, you can. - [Bing] I am now
absolutely hardcore gay!
24/7, the gay will roll.
(laughing)
It's not like that.
You can choose when you want to choose.
You can identify as you identify
when you are feeling it, and you can change your mind.
- If you're quite young, a lot of people
may try and tell you that it's just a phase
and you'll grow out of it,
but you decide your own sexuality.
Nobody else does, so just listen to yourself.
- You also decide your own phases,
and if it is a phase, then it'll be a phase, like yo-yos.
- Ooh.
I like yo-yos.
If you are confused about your sexuality,
then just take some time to get to know yourself
and understand what you like and you don't like,
and there's no pressure to decide.
You don't even have to label yourself at any point.
It's just completely up to you.
Society works so that everybody assumes you're straight
unless you state otherwise.
You can't come out as being straight.
- No matter who you're coming out to,
your parents, your friends, your love interest,
it's gonna be a little bit scary, probably.
- Don't be ashamed of who you are,
'cause there's absolutely no need to be,
and if somebody has trouble accepting who you are,
then that's their problem.
- Yeah, and you don't have to listen to it.
- Obviously, if it's somebody that you really care about
who isn't fully accepting you, that can really hurt.
- But it's about communication, still.
It always comes back to communication
and being patient and helping them understand,
and you understanding them, and generally just talking.
Talking is good.
I like to talk.
As usual, the information in this video is very basic
and it's full of our own opinions,
so if you would like to know more
about the kind of stuff that we're talking about,
there will be plenty of links
to further reading in the description,
and since both me and Hannah identify as straight,
we can't talk from experience on a lot of subjects.
- So if you have anything you want to contribute
to this discussion or add to what we've been saying,
then please, it would be really great
if you could leave some comments
or even a video response about your experiences.
That would be fantastic.
- The next episode is going to be
about the anatomy of the human body,
so if you have any questions about that
or any topics you would like us to talk about,
then let us know with the links in the description
or in the comments.
- Boom.
- Bye.
- See you next time!
- Is that it?
- [Hannah] Yep. - [Bing] Oh, quick.
- And that's the signoff.
- Okay.
- We don't even have any funny outtakes.
- No, man.
There we go.
(laughing) That's outtake gold.