Shaykh, I can't thank you
enough for talking to Yusuf.
I can tell he's doing so much better.
And I know you
wanted to talk to his father.
I called him up yesterday.
He's willing to come tomorrow
to have a meeting,
are you okay with that.
That's excellent.
Let him know I'll see him tomorrow.
Insha’Allah
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I just don't know what got into him Shaykh.
He's been so lazy at school.
He's been failing his exams.
I don't know what to do Shaykh. Honestly.
I understand I understand.
Look, we care about Yusuf as well.
I'm telling you,
if he continues like this,
he is going to be a failure.
I keep telling him all the time.
You better wake up.
Change your attitude.
Otherwise you're not getting anywhere in life.
But he doesn't want a bar of it.
He doesn't care.
He's in his own world.
Look, I had a chat with Yusuf
and he shared some things with me.
He said there was a lot of problems
at home
and the problems
were really affecting him.
Really?
What did he tell you?
Was he speaking about me?
Blaming me for his issues?
Is that what he told you?
He wasn't blaming you at all.
Nah, go on, go on, Shaykh.
Tell me. Tell me. I'm a rubbish father.
Tell me. Go on.
Look, I’m not here to tell you how to be a father.
And I know you love Yusuf
more than anything in this world,
and you are the most
important person to him.
But can I ask you a question?
Go ahead.
When was the last time
that you sat down with Yusuf
and spoke to him?
Not when he's done something wrong.
Or maybe when you're
putting him in his place, but
really knowing what's
going on inside of him, how he's feeling.
I don't know.
Maybe a while back,
but Shaykh you need to understand.
There are a lot of issues
going on at home,
you know, with my marriage.
I've got work on top of that.
I'm really tired Shaykh.
I really am and it's getting tough.
Abu Yusuf, we all have our weaknesses.
We have our shortcomings.
We have our ups and downs.
Life isn't perfect.
But what's really important
is your son needs to feel that he belongs
that he's loved, that you appreciate him.
Above everything else,
the greatest factor
in a child's success emotionally,
socially, academically,
in all areas
is the father being present in the home.
And this isn't just some statistic
or some modern psychology.
This is also a part of our Deen.
Our Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.
He taught us
that our family was of paramount importance.
He would regularly pick up his grandsons
and kiss them on the forehead.
He would show them emotion.
His daughter, Fatima,
when she would enter the house,
he would stand up and kiss her on her forehead.
To show her that he loved her
and that he valued her.
So this is our responsibility,
and I'm going to do my utmost
while your son is here with us at school
to support him and hear him out.
And you do your part at home,
spend that time with him, talk to him,
show him love.
Above everything else, he needs to know
that he's appreciated
and loved by his father.
And Insha'Allah,
through that approach
and by that approach,
we can hopefully help Yusuf to grow
and nurture him Insha'Allah.
JazakallahuKheir,
thank you Shaykh for your advice.
I appreciate it.
Insha'Allah I'm going to change my ways.
If Allah wills insha'Allah.
Thanks Shaykh.
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