sophie turner is a phenomenal actress who is most well known for her role on
Game of Thrones as Sansa Stark and she's also the main character in the upcoming
film Dark Phoenix but she was recently on the doctor Phil podcast opening up
about her depression and there's a lot that we can take away from this what is
up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution if you're new to my channel something I'm
very very passionate about is mental health and us working on our mental
health so when somebody like sophie turner who is in the public spotlight is
talking about mental health on that so if you're into that stuff make sure you
subscribe and bring that notification about so like the title of this video
says why sophie turner ghosts of therapy the first thing i want to talk about
before I kind of break down this podcast was on with dr. Phil it's like there's
such a stigma around going to therapy check it out I need therapy
I go to therapy you need therapy we all need therapy
everybody needs therapy like I like I don't know why it is what I do know why
it is but there's a stigma around this like if you say like hello you should
probably go to therapy like people think that that's a sick burn or something
like but it's just true like all of us have issues all of us are our own
version of crazy we're all a little bit nuts and we all have things that we need
to work on through therapy so I highly recommend that you do like myself sophie
turner and many many other people on the planet earth and give therapy a shot
like talk to your doctor see if they can recommend a therapist talk to your
insurance provider see if there's a therapist in your network that you can
go to talk to friends see if they can recommend a therapist if you would like
I personally use better help online therapy there's an affiliate link down
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the channel look it's a great service that I use - alright anyways like sophie
turner recently opened up about her depression on dr. Phil's podcast and
it's it's interesting because the first thing that I want to talk about is she
she opens up about impostor syndrome alright
and like she is all you believe one of the biggest
actresses on one of the biggest shows right now right Game of Thrones is in
its final season but she talks about how she didn't feel good enough she even
mentions in this podcast and I'll link it down below for all of you how she she
lets those negative voices get to her like like oh she just kind of got this
role by accident she's not all that great and all these other things like I
can definitely relate to that in any of you who struggle with impostor syndrome
I guarantee you can relate to that as well
like even with you know the evidence that we're doing well maybe it's not our
job or maybe it's in school or maybe it's just some life in general like our
mind tells us that we're not good enough we don't deserve this somebody better
should be doing this and that is one of the reasons why therapy is so beneficial
because it helps us deal with these various cognitive distortions the lies
that our brain tells us something that she goes into too is how social media
plays a role like this is something that a lot of people in the spotlight deal
with I struggle with it a lot of other YouTube creators struggle with it a lot
of just other influencers struggle with it
like we we take in all of this feedback from people who don't personally know us
like sophie Turner talks about how people say she's not a great actress
they talk about how she's gaining weight like so many things and she actually has
some good tips like she talks about how she like doesn't even check comments or
anything I'm like you go girl as he says sometimes she has a little cheat and she
texts it on them right so the next thing that she talks about when she was
dealing with her depression because she would be very isolated and just not want
to leave her house it was hard to just get out of bed she talks about how she
would you know lean on other other members of her support group and they
can kind of work through these things together and this is something I cannot
recommend enough to all of you like if it wasn't for my support group
especially when I was in the deepest darkest time of my life about seven
years ago when I first got sober like it was people coming to me with that tough
love and saying like yo get out of bed yo take a shower today yo let's go to a
meeting yo let's go get coffee let's go you know to a movie let's go play board
games whatever it is I needed people to be there for me and
force me to get out of my own head my self pity my negative thoughts and all
these other things so if you do not have a support group find one there are
plenty of resources you can check Facebook groups you can check Meetup and
it doesn't have to be like a mental health support group like find people in
your area who have the same hobby as you like maybe you get involved in a local
like yoga group or workout group or art group or crafting group a knitting group
or cooking group whatever it is find some kind of support group like as human
beings we are designed to be connected with one another isolation is the
absolute worst thing that we could do with our mental health the analogy I
always give it's like when we're in that dark Hanks face when we isolate it's
like being in a horror movie and locking yourself inside the room with the killer
this thing can be our worst enemy so when Sophie Turner's talking about
how her support group was helping her she was able to start getting out of
those early stages of depression or late stages of depression rather the next
thing that she talks about dr. Phil after like what are you doing
differently today for your depression and she just like candidly says like
therapy like I'm in therapy like yes yes all right like therapy is so
beneficial is something that I recently started doing like months ago but for
the most part of my therapy came through like 12-step programs in my own like
self personal development and everything like that but yeah therapy is great
because it gives you an outside perspective we need somebody from the
outside to give us a perspective on this thing and licensed therapists or maybe
it's a psychologist that you're meeting with like they will help you identify
the root causes of your problems right a lot of these things stem from our
childhood things that we aren't even aware of because we suppress them for so
long we didn't address them and they're just sitting there and they're playing
this active role in our adult lives but a therapist is also there to give you
tools that you can use to get out of those negative thought patterns and
learn how to set up healthy boundaries toxic people out of your life because
you might have people in your life who are feeding into that negative mindset
that you can't seem to get out of out of like maybe it's your family maybe it's
your friends maybe it's your fellow co-workers whatever it is that is what a
therapist can do for us but not only does she talk about going to therapy but
she also talks about how she's on medication yes yes yes yes girl like
there is such a stigma around medication like a lot of people feel that trying
the medication is a weakness it's like giving up right medications like by no
means no needs or medications like a cure-all or a fix all all right
medications for most people and again I'm not a doctor or therapist but this
is from my own experience and the research I've done and the studies I've
read and everything like that medications are designed to get you to a
base level okay so if you're somebody who is so depressed that you cannot even
get out of bed a medication will get you to the point where you can at least get
out of bed get out of the house shower every day you know what I mean like this
is what antidepressants are good for but they are not going to fix your entire
life again this is why therapy in conjunction with medication is so
beneficial because we get to a base level because it's helping to in many
cases generate various neurotransmitters in our brain or making the
neurotransmitters a little bit stickier so they can reproduce they get us to a
base level so there's nothing to be ashamed about when it comes to like
antidepressants all right I have personally on a non-narcotic
medication called lexapro it's an anti depressant anti-anxiety medication I was
diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety disorder but for
other people like I know some people you know take xanax that's not something
that I take for my anxiety because I am a drug addict in recovery so I will
abuse an addictive medication right but my suggestion is talk to a doctor see if
there's anything that can help you out with because some doctors some primary
care physicians can prescribe certain antidepressants anti-anxiety
occasions or if you're able to go see a psychiatrist one thing that I will say
just from my experience for your first visit with a psychiatrist it can often
be like a long wait so it depends on how severe the issue is like if you feel
like you are in a rut and you want like change like go talk to a doctor and
start sooner rather than later now the other thing to kind of put out
there is most medications do not act immediately for many medications like
like I mentioned I'm on lexapro there's other things like you know prozac Zoloft
and things like that those can take you know a few weeks for you to really start
to notice the changes okay but like I said the sooner you start the sooner you
start to get to that baseline that I'm talking about okay so the last thing I
want to talk about is sophie turner talks about one of the things that have
helped her with her self-love and getting over her imposter syndrome and
her body issues and all that is her amazing husband joe jonas all right so
she mentioned something along the lines of like when you have somebody there who
loves you more than anything and they're telling you that every day you start to
believe it and i can't agree more but the only thing that I'll say just from
my personal experience and you might be able to relate to this is that I used to
try to find people to fix me right I used to not love myself and I used to
have that idea well well if I find somebody who can love me that means I'm
lovable and it would give me into bad toxic relationships now for the last you
know over two years now I've been an amazing relationship with my beautiful
girlfriend Tristan but before I was set the bar really low because I was just
finding somebody who would love me until I can love myself and I ended up having
to stay single for a while because I kept giving in a pattern of bad
relationships because I was dating out my self-esteem level so I took a long
break from dating so I can work on myself
so I will say like if you're somebody who's single or you have a poor dating
pattern like I did you don't necessarily need to find like a relationship or you
know a husband or a wife or whatever it is for that to happen for me
when it initially happened was I just started hanging around better friends
I said you're hanging around friends who loved me for me they weren't hanging
around me because I had something to give them I wasn't keeping them around
because they had something to give me like for most of my life for 27 years of
my life I'm 33 years now I didn't really fully understand what like a true
friendship was and I had people who could love me until I loved myself but
it was a friendship it wasn't you know something based on like attraction like
you know three of my best friends who I met when I first got sober they're
they're all guys right you know like I I do have really good friends who are
women as well and stuff like that but like I just needed friends who genuinely
cared about me with that unconditional love and that is what helped me realize
that I am lovable you know and it helps me with those negative thoughts negative
voices and all those things alright so anyways again super super happy that
sophie Turner took the opportunity to open about open up about her depression
I will not tell you I guess I will tell you now since I started that sentence
I don't watch Game of Thrones but I'm thinking about getting caught up so I
could do some videos on it please don't thumbs down this video just
because I don't watch Game of Thrones I'm working on it it's just very
complicated and very confusing there's a lot of families and a lot of
things going on anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video
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