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how many times has this happened to you
after a long week that just seemed like
it'll never end It's Finally Friday
time to take a sigh of relief release a
lifetime's worth of tension and welcome
a long-awaited sweet sweet weekend what
to do so much to do the possibilities
are endless do you spend the week in
socializing do you stay in do you go out
enjoy the nice weather do tackle the
mess that is your life and or apartment
make time for your side hustle catch up
on some work there's always Netflix
marathons too all of the above you get
overwhelmed pull up Instagram to see
what your friends are up to and suddenly
it's 9 pm on Sunday your apartment is
still a mess there's five loads of
laundry haunting your dreams and no
quote unquote productive work was done
meanwhile Sunday scaries are creeping in
and you feel like you have a relaxed at
all this is all too real my friends we
citizens of YouTube have long loved
morning and nighttime routines since the
dawn of time but what about routines for
the weekend do we need one and how do we
do it here's a very unfiltered and
slightly tearful weekend in my life
featuring 12 steps for how to best
navigate your very own weekend routine
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sponsoring this video more on this in a
little
to start reframe what productive looks
like this is the first and foremost
important thing we need to do before I
thought weekdays and weekends were
exactly the same just a man-made
construct of time all existing for me to
maximize put in the hours and work
non-stop I had no social life no
boyfriend and no time to breathe that to
me was a productive weekend well I'm
grateful for that season of Rowena I'm
even more grateful that I'm not there
anymore as I shared in the slow
productivity video I've completely
shifted my perspective on productivity
since a weekend spent proactively being
a potato is just as productive as a
weekend spend working just like how a
weekend spend mindlessly or in guilt is
just as unrestful as a weekend spent
visiting ourselves for the sake of being
busy these days my weekends consist of a
combination of me time friends time
outdoorsy time work time and do time how
these are prioritized honestly just
depends on my mood and what I feel I
need that week and that's the beauty of
weekend routines they can be whatever we
need them to be so long as we know what
we need in essence weekend routines help
us complete what we need to do in order
for us to prioritize what we want to do
after reframing what productivity means
to us it's time to draft a detailed plan
that's loosely held the emphasis is on
the loosely held but we'll get to this a
little later let's focus on the first
part the more detailed the better I
usually start by writing everything I
want to do down am I meeting anyone what
house chores do I need to do are there
any deadlines approaching should I rest
how do I want to rest should I work what
do I want to work do I need to spend
time alone what is my soul craving this
may sound intense but it's supposed to
be a quick five minute or less exercise
less obsessing more brain dumping to
clear the mind of open tabs after
writing everything down I underline or
highlight the things I need to do the
things I must do this weekend the things
I absolutely cannot wait there are
usually only a couple of these tasks but
these tasks are what will move the
needle of quote-unquote productivity
forward the most so focus on the needs
then prioritize the wants now in the
event that you do have to work over the
weekend whatever you got to do have fun
with it whether you're by yourself or
with friends there's always fun to be
had here we're filming an Instagram reel
for my dream partnership I've written
this brand down on my dream Brands to
work with for the last two years and it
finally happened hint they make
delicious vacuums any guesses okay
here's an interesting thought experiment
try for a weekend to measure yourself
not by your output but by how much fun
you're having
off to the farmers market we go for some
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find pockets of Stillness amidst the
doing it's natural that the more fun
you're having the more relaxed you
become and the more relaxed you become
the more you're able to find pockets of
Stillness amidst all the movement of
Life having lived in New York City for
over six years now solely focusing on
work I feel as if this is the first time
I was present enough to enjoy the magic
of summers in the city perhaps it's from
age perhaps it's from knowing my time in
the Big Apple will eventually come to an
end or perhaps it's through embracing
slow productivity no matter the case
this specific day sitting in the
specific Park looking at a sea of green
it was as if I was transported to
another country an instant core memory
life our thoughts and everything around
us becomes a little clear in Stillness
can you believe this is in New York City
it feels like we're in Europe
it's so beautiful
moving on to giving yourself Grace
regarding loosely held now by the time I
get home from the farmer's market I'm
way behind schedule they're still
filming to be done for this video and
for the Instagram reel before as
stressful as it could have been I think
I had to look pretty well having fun
while constantly reminding myself that
I'm trying my best and that it's okay
game plans even the most detailed ones
exist to help us and to serve us not to
make us feel even more guilty less than
or not enough for doing things that we
initially planned yes focus on the few
things you need to do and do them well
but don't get too caught up in not
Crossing off the want to Do's unless
your schedule affects someone else's
which we'll get into and The Many Tears
in a little you know yeah how do you
feel about your weekend routine
lovely
I'm tired it's so hot are my cheeks
still pink
after taking a little breather it's time
to get back to work working on the body
that is well I've always been a big
believer that our weekday habits are
only as strong as our weekend habits it
has been very hard to actually stick to
because well it's the weekend it's time
to let loose and veg out one cannot
always rely on discipline and sheer
willpower alone to get the job done
especially when it comes to working out
it's something I've been very
inconsistent with that's too easy for me
to skip because I keep telling myself
I'll do it tomorrow but tomorrow never
arrives until I found accountability
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now that we're ready to go out when
you're out be out as is everything in
life focus on the task at hand just like
how when you're working work deeply and
when you're resting rest deeply when
you're out enjoy the present and the
presence of friends especially when you
make the decision to go out allow
yourself to have some fun if you're out
and wish you didn't go out promise
yourself you won't say yes to something
you want to say no to next weekend this
seems so simple where I'm in life right
now but I remember how it crushed me
saying yes to things I knew I should be
saying no to and hating myself a little
more every time I'm out doing what I
know from the depths of my core to be
empty and things that I no longer wish
to be doing it sounds dramatic but it's
just parting anyway this was a great
evening with friends however when gems
and I got home the real party began when
life happens let it happen remember the
loosely held but detailed planning and
how I said it was fine to derail from
your schedule so long as it doesn't
affect other people
well my derailed schedule significantly
impacted my significant other not just
from this weekend but the whole week
leading up to this weekend my plans kept
changing and shifting because the
demands of War kept changing and
shifting he was very understanding but
as he brought up the events from the
past week how my changing schedule
impacted his days and how it made him
feel I couldn't help but feel sorry and
like I wasn't doing anything right that
I'm letting everyone down and that I'm
messing everything up earlier this week
I talked to my co-host at beauty within
about something similar my team and
Vivian co-host of our podcast voice hugs
jokes that it's nearly impossible to
schedule time with me I've known for a
while that I'm My Own biggest bottleneck
in my many projects on Ventures this was
not how I anticipated the night to go
but even then I believe these moments
and our lives happen when we're at an
inflection point on the cusp of a big
breakthrough whether you break through
or not comes from how well you roll with
the punches or not and how you move
forward from these moments we can never
plan our lives down to the T hence
loosely held planning again so long as
you properly communicate with others who
may be involved so when life surprises
us we can let it and possibly even
embrace it life is either trying to show
us something or it's trying to teach us
something
speaking of our next point is pay
attention to the not so subtle hints
thankfully James and I were able to talk
and hug it out last night Sunday is a
brand new day and I got ready to stop by
the office little did I know what was in
store I'd even notice multiple ceiling
tiles have fallen onto my co-worker's
desk and that the carpet was soaked with
water until my friend pointed it out
turns out the AC accumulated too much
water started leaking and there was a
downpour a literal downpour all of my
co-workers desk computers and belongings
were soaked we spent the morning
cleaning up what we could and as I was
cleaning I couldn't help but Muse at how
symbolic this event was to what I'm
currently going through in my life and
the conversations I've had all week if
we leave something unchecked for a long
time sooner or later it will burst and
there will be a downpour like my tears
the evening before another not so subtle
hint from the universe to take action do
something and level up It's always
darkest before Dawn just like how
there's always friction before
breakthroughs I'd like to believe that
nothing happens by chance and that the
universe is constantly dropping hints
for us whether we notice them depends on
how present or not we are moving on to
pick up the towel to throw in the towel
means to embed in a struggle amid defeat
to pick up the towel means to continue
continuing on going back to the example
of our intro so many weekends I catch
myself drifting on autopilot not being
present neither here nor there
overwhelmed with guilt that I'm not
quote doing what I should be doing and
that at some point I throw in the towel
throw my hands up in the air and make a
decision to continue down this path
because well I've already lost the time
I had but in reality we can pick up the
towel anytime we want Saturday night
Sunday at noon even Sunday at 4 pm 10
p.m we can put in at 10 to 15 minutes to
help us feel prepared for the week and I
truly believe we all have it in us to
turn our days around anytime of day
regardless if it's a weekend the weekday
morning or night so long as we want to
do it and know that it's what we need to
do we'll be able to pick up that stinky
towel or maybe it smells delicious so
don't write off your whole weekend just
because it may have started a little
rocky just like how we can easily fling
a towel onto the ground it's just as
easy for us to bend and snap and pick it
right back up like how I took myself on
a little spontaneous date it doesn't
need to be anything crazy I was just
running errands and I had to eat so I
thought why not make a quick stop to
rest my feet people watch and eat my
favorite sandwich in Central Park and as
I was sitting there I realized this was
the first time I did something like this
for myself in a very long time which
brings us to schedule time for empty
spaces while Stillness is more of a
mindset making time for empty spaces is
actually blocking off days on your
calendar to not do anything and just
make time for yourself like what I do
for my road days quoting Naval on the
importance of having empty space if you
don't have a day or two every week in
your calendar where you're not always in
meetings and you're not always busy then
you're not going to be able to think
you're not going to be able to have good
ideas you're not going to be able to
make good judgments it's only after
you're bored that you have the great
ideas it's never going to be when you're
stressed busy running around or rushed
so make time for empty spaces and take
yourself on dates the last thing to do
for your weekend routine well it's a sit
down and plan for the rest of the week
how to plan for the week well let's do a
little recap of this video the first is
to reframe what productivity looks like
then draft a detailed game plan loosely
held remember to have fun find pockets
of Stillness amidst the doing give
yourself Grace accountability helps
focus on what you're doing when you're
working work deeply when you're resting
rest deeply when life happens let it pay
attention to the not so subtle hints
from the universe have the courage to
pick up that towel schedule time for
empty spaces and we rinse and repeat to
sit down and plan for the rest of the
week I'm pretty proud of myself for
connecting this whole video in a little
loop as if it were like a tick tock or
reveal anyway how I actually plan for
the week deserves a video on its own and
it'll eventually be made but the tldr
version is the first thing thing I do is
to brain dump and capture all my to-do's
in my remarkable writing things down
just honestly it's different I can't
deny it and I can't be away from it from
too long and then I review my calendar
and my team Notions to add more tasks
onto my to-do list and then I add any
deadlines and to Do's into my sansama
and schedule them into the week
accordingly and proceed to feel a
thousand percent lighter this is just
what I found works for me you can
honestly streamline this process and
just do one thing and have a to-do list
so this can take anywhere from 10
minutes to an hour it really just
depends on how you like spending your
time I like taking my sweet time
analyzing my calendar really digging
into it and just mulling over it so
maybe it takes a little longer but end
to end it could take you 10 to 15
minutes max which just goes to show that
no matter if it's Saturday morning or
Sunday evening
spending that 10 to 15 minutes on
ourselves can help set us up for a
beautiful beautiful week and if we're
able to be a little more consistent with
doing this on a weekly basis just
imagine the month that we'll be able to
have the quarter that we'll be able to
have and the year that we'll be able to
have isn't that a wonderful thing I hope
no matter what kind of a week you've
been having no matter what kind of a
weekend you're having that you are just
being gentle with yourself being true to
yourself and know that no matter where
you are now you can turn it around or we
can keep having fun and keep doing what
you're doing already but I think if
you're doing what you're doing already
maybe you're not going to be watching
this video but anyway
voice hugs to every single one of you
love you guys thank you so much for
being here as always and I'll see you in
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