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WELCOME
WELCOME BACK TO THE MID DAY MEALS ON FOX CAROLINA I'M HAYLEY SPITLER LIFE IS A ROLLER COASTER
FULL OF GOOD TIMES AND BAD TIMES
BUT IT'S LEARNING HOW TO BOUNCE
BACK FROM THE HURT THAT HELPS TO
SHIFT OUR MINDSET AND ONE AUTHOR
HAS ALL THE TIPS AND TRICKS IN
HIS NEW BOOK AND HE IS JOINING
US RIGHT NOW IT'S AUTHOR DAVID
DENNIS FOR HIS NEW BOOK GAMENESS
LAND ON YOUR FEET AND NOT YOUR
FEELINGS THANKS SO MUCH FOR
JOINING US. IT COULD BE WITHIN A
WEEK YEAH SO FOR STARTERS CAN
YOU TALK ABOUT WHY YOU DECIDED
TO WRITE THIS BOOK. YES WITH A
LOT OF YEARS AND SO AS A PROPER
PRACTICE COUNSELOR COUNSELED
THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ALSO THE-
THE FATHER OF FIVE YES IN MY OWN
AND I ONE OF THE THINGS THAT I
REALLY WANTED TO DO WAS TO LEAVE
SOMETHING BEHIND FOR OUR FIVE
CHILDREN THAT WOULD BE A TOOL
THAT THEY CAN USE AFTER AFTER
I'M GONE- THAT WOULD HELP THEM.
LIVE THEIR LIVES TO THE FULLEST
POTENTIAL. AND LOST MY DAD WHEN
I WAS YOUNG I NEVER GOT TO HAVE
THAT CONVERSATION WITH HIM SO I.
TOLD THEM I WAS GOING TO LEAVE
THEM SOMETHING BEHIND IT IS
GONNA BE THE CONVERSATION I
NEVER GOT TO HAVE WITH MY DAD.
THEY FIRST MADE IT. PASS IT ON
TO THE PUBLIC AND THAT'S HOW THE
BOOK WAS BORN. YEAH ABSOLUTELY I
KNOW YOU MENTIONED ONE BY NOW
YOU'VE EXPERIENCE AS A MY
DIFFICULTIES IN YOUR LIFE SO
WHAT ADVICE CAN YOU TELL PEOPLE
TO KIND OF. MOVE ON FROM THOSE
SETBACKS. YOU KNOW HEY I WAS
READING SOME STATISTICS RECENTLY
AND IT SAID THAT- WE CAN WE CAN
COUNT ON PROBABLY A MILLION.
EVEN HARD TO SAY THAT NUMBER A
MILLION SUICIDE ATTEMPTS IN
AMERICA THIS YEAR PROBABLY TEN
MILLION ARRESTS. SEVEN HUNDRED
THOUSAND OF THOSE TEENAGERS
ALMOST SEVEN HUNDRED THOUSAND
MARRIAGES LONG INTERCOURSE. TWO
HUNDRED FIFTY THOUSAND CHILDREN
WILL BE SWEPT INTO THE FOSTER
CARE SYSTEM. AND BUT THOSE ARE
TRAGIC NUMBERS A LOT OF PAIN
THERE FOR ALL THOSE INDIVIDUALS
BUT YOU JUST MULTIPLY THAT WITH
THE RIPPLE EFFECT OF THE
COLLATERAL DAMAGE IN OTHER
PEOPLE'S LIVES SO THAT
REPRESENTS. A LOT OF PEOPLE.
THAT HAVE HAD SOME TYPE OF SET
BACK IN MOST CASES. THEY WEREN'T
ABLE. TO LIVE THEIR LIVES.
THROUGH THAT WITH THE MINDSET OF
GAME ISN'T IT THE FOUR.
ATTRIBUTES TO REALLY DEFINE
WOULD GAIN A SAYS IS TO HAVE A
NEVER QUIT MINDSET. TO HAVE
RESOLUTENESS TO A PURPOSE. TO
HAVE A FIGHTING SPIRIT. AND HAVE
THE WILL REQUIRE DATA BEYOND
YOUR FEELINGS SO. THERE'S A
OBVIOUSLY IT'S A TREMENDOUS NEED
FOR EVERYONE IN OUR SOCIETY TO
KEEP THOSE ATTRIBUTES IN MIND
BECAUSE- ONE THING WE KNOW FOR
SURE LIFE IS UNCERTAIN IT'S
UNFAIR AND IT'S OFTEN TIMES AND
PLEASANT. AND WE SHOULD EXPECT
EVERY DAY FOR DIVERSITY TO KNOCK
ON OUR DOOR. AND WE'VE GOT
ANSWERS. YEAH ABSOLUTELY I THINK
THAT'S A TEST SIX JUST REMIND US
THAT WE'RE ALL GOING THROUGH
SOMETHING REALLY. AND SO WHAT
WORD GAME NESS MEAN TO YOU I
KNOW THE GOAL. IS TO DEVELOP
THAT GAME THIS MINDSET. YEAH YOU
KNOW A GREAT WAY TO. BRIEFLY
DESCRIBE IT WOULD BE IF PEOPLE
ARE FAMILIAR WITH THE WORD
RESILIENT AND RESILIENCE VERY
IMPORTANT WORD. IS FOUNDATIONAL
TO GAME THIS BUT RESILIENCE IS
AS AN ATTRIBUTE YOU CAN HAVE.
THAT WOULD ALLOW YOU TO SAY FOR
EXAMPLE WHEN ADVERSITY DOES
KNOCK ON YOUR DOOR THERE'S
REALLY THREE RESPONSES WE CAN
HAVE ONE. WE CAN JUST RENDER IT
AT THAT POINT OR SOME SOMEPLACE
ALONG THE LINE. SECONDLY WE CAN
SAY NO YOU KNOW WHAT I'M GONNA
TRY TO SURVIVE THIS I'M GONNA
TRY TO DO RIGHT GET THROUGH IT
THAT WOULD BE RESILIENCE. THE
LAST THING THE MOST IMPORTANT WE
NEED TO DO IS NOT ONLY NOT
SURRENDER NOT JUST TRY TO
SURVIVE IT THIS SHOULD DO IT
WHICH IS. A WORD NOT OFTEN USED
JUST LIKE GAME THE SYSTEM BUT
THAT MEANS THAT. WE ANSWER WHEN
ADVERSITY COMES CALLING IN IT'S
REALLY. LEARNING TO CULTIVATE A
MINDSET OF SAYING YOU KNOW WHEN
PROBLEMS COME MY WAY I'M GONNA
FIND A WAY. TO ALLOW THIS TO
GROW POWER AND STRENGTH IN ME
VERSUS JUST TRIED TO. AVOID IT
HAVING POWER OVER ME. THERE'S A
GREAT NAVY SEAL QUOTE THAT I
LOVE. IT SAYS WE'RE NOT HERE TO
SURVIVE THIS WE'RE HERE TO TAKE
CHARGE OF THIS. AND I THINK IT'S
THAT KIND OF MINDSET IT'S NOT
JUST TRYING TO SURVIVE IT'S-
IT'S REALLY. DECIDE IN YOUR LIFE
THAT YOU'RE GOING TO CULTIVATE A
MINDSET. OF TAKING CHARGE OF
YOUR LIFE NOT JUST THE
POSSIBILITIES IN THE FUTURE BUT
ALSO WHATEVER PROBLEM COMES YOUR
WAY. HOW CAN I. AS I GO THROUGH
THIS PROBLEM FIND A WAY TO
BECOME WISER- MORE RESOURCEFUL.
IN IN STRONGER. YEAH ABSOLUTELY
TERRIFIC THAT'S THE BOOK THAT WE
ALL COULD READ