Hey, there? It's Clay. And in this video, we're going to be talking about why your ex may have
unblocked you after a year or after a long time. What does it mean? And should you perhaps think
about contacting them? Let's get into that but first, my name is Clay with modernlove.life,
where we help you get the great loving relationship that you're looking for
without having to play mind games, without having to play hard to get, and without having to pretend
to be someone or something that you are not, because you deserve to be loved for the unique,
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that we are talking about emotional connections, and we are talking about clearing away some
of the obstacles that you may experience when it comes to connecting with your ex.
So, if you do want to learn more about all of that, we do have our course called The
Ex Solution Program, you can find that down in the description box below. Check it out,
if it seems like it's a good fit for you, sign up. If not, no worries. Okay. So, this might
happen to you. Actually, this video is actually inspired by a question that I got from someone.
And that is, "What does it mean if your ex blocked you for some reason, and then after a period of
time, a year, whatever, they suddenly unblock you, what does that mean?" And the truth is that there
could be any number of reasons why they did this. Maybe they were just going through their settings,
the people that they've blocked or something, and they realize like, Oh, hey, I'm holding onto
grudges. Maybe we need to let go of grudges. Maybe they have worked through whatever issues
that were causing them to block you in the first place. Maybe they had a change of heart. Maybe
they're hoping that you'll contact them. Maybe they're thinking of contacting you themselves.
There could be all sorts of reasons why they might have potentially unblocked you. And the thing here
is that, we could sit here and speculate endlessly about maybe what they're thinking, why they did
it, why they didn't do it, what they're going to do, why they didn't contact you, why they are
contacting you, all this sort of stuff. But at the end of the day all we know is you were blocked
and now you're not blocked. Okay. The real question here is, what are you going
to do about it? Right? What do you want to do? Now, do you want to get back together with them?
Do you want to talk with them? Do you want to see where they're at emotionally? Or are you
just like, "Nope, don't want to go down that road again." Whatever you choose to do, it's totally
fine. But make sure that this is a check-in that you actually do, and that you choose to do this
based off of your own values and what's most important to you, right? S, we often talk about
bringing yourself into alignment with the kind of life and the kind of relationship that you want
to live. And I want you to definitely do that. So would getting back in contact with your ex
bring you into alignment with the kind of life and the kind of relationship you want to have?
If so, maybe it's worth it to get back in contact. And you can either just send
them a message just reaching out casually. You can even be coy about it and say like,
"Hey, stranger? I saw you unblocked me." Or something like that. It depends on where you and
them left things. If the two of you left things on pretty reasonable terms it can totally make
sense for you to contact them in that coy sort of way. If things are a little bit tense, maybe the
two of you were fighting a lot or something like that, and maybe that's why they blocked you, you
might want to be a little bit more casual about it and not necessarily call them out directly,
at least not yet. But at least establish some degree of rapport with them first. And basically,
my advice for you at this particular junction in time is to just take on a curious stance, to
try to get to understand where they're at, where they're coming from, what are their motivations?
Where are they at in their life? Where are they at in their relationship life? Are they single?
Are they in a relationship with someone else? Maybe they're married? I don't know.
But we need to know where they're at before we start to get too far ahead of ourselves, too far
invested in potentially getting back together with them or whatever. We want to know where
they're at. So just show up without an attachment to outcome. Just curious about getting to know who
this person is and where they're at, and if the two of you even have some sort of rapport with one
another, some ability to connect with one another, some ability to actually have something in common
or anything like that. Because, obviously, if you don't have the ability to connect
or you don't have anything in common anymore if it's been a long time or something like that,
then it's kind of a moot point. And we don't want to necessarily get
our hopes up for something just to have them leveled on when we find out, "Oh yeah, well,
they have gone into some terrible downward spiral and we just aren't compatible anymore or something
like that." I don't want that to happen to you. So just take on that curious stance,
don't let your expectations get too far down the road, and just discover who this person might be.
I know that there are a lot of people who might tell you not to contact your ex first because it's
some sort of sign of weakness or something like that. And first of all, if you are playing some
sort of game where you want to seem all powerful or something like that, okay,
this is probably not the right channel for you. You might want to go check out some of these other
guys. But I'm not interested in helping you be all powerful, mostly because I don't know how to make
you all powerful. But I'm interested in helping you have the kind of relationship where you can
just relax into your partner's arms and know that they love you for who you are. And the best way to
do that, is to just be transparent about who you are and what it is that you're looking for, and
come across in a genuine, authentic way without having to puff yourself up to make it seem like
you're confident when maybe you're not, or not having to give up what you actually want because
you think that you have to make them happy in order for them to reciprocate and make you happy.
But what I want you to do, is I want you to just genuinely express what you're feeling, genuinely
express what your wants and needs are. And as you do this, you're going to find out very, very
quickly if the two of you have the possibility of creating the kind of relationship or connection
that you really want. Because if they can't accept you as a genuine expression of who you are,
and I mean truly genuine, not driven by fear and panic and all that stuff that people often find
themselves in immediately after a breakup, damage control mode. But once you settle your emotions
down, and when you bring yourself as genuinely and authentically to the interaction as possible,
if they accept you for who you are, then, okay, great. You know that you now have the ability
to be loved for who you are with this person. You know that there's definitely that possibility
for the connection there between the two of you, and great, go ahead and feel things out.
And if it seems like there's a possibility there, take it and run with it. But if you
have to put on some sort of mask and play cool, play like you don't care or something like that,
then you're probably going to have to wear that mask for the rest of any relationship that you do
have with them. So, it's better to find out sooner rather than later, cut that off without having to
invest too much time or effort only to find out months or years down the road that, "Hey, I can't
be myself with you." And create space in your life for someone that you can be yourself with.
Anyway, so again, we don't know why your ex unblocked you. Maybe they were in a
relationship and that relationship ended and they want to see what's possible to you. Maybe
they're working up the nerve to contact you. Maybe they're hoping that you see it and contact them.
Maybe they're just putting the past behind them. Maybe, I don't know, maybe the app updated on
its own and it like reset some settings. I don't know. And the truth is, neither do you. The only
person who really knows why they did that is them. The real question is, what are you going
to do about it? What do you want to do about it? What sort of connection do you want to
have with your ex, if any connection at all? And the truth is, if you do want to have an
emotional connection with them, where you can be authentic and fully expressed for who you are,
you might be interested in our course called The Ex Solution Program. You can find a link for that
down in the description box below. If it seems like it's a good fit for you, you're more than
welcome to sign up. Anyway, once again, this has been Clay with modernlove.life. I hope you found
this video helpful. If so, hit that thumbs up button. You may want to check out this video
series over here on what your ex is thinking. It goes into more of your ex's psychology,
their thought process, and all that. Or you might want to check out this video
over here. But thanks so much. Please take care, and I'll talk to you next time.