So personally I have been single for around 6 months, and I have to say that I absolutely
love it! I can’t believe that I just said that! Hi everyone, welcome back to my channel!
My name is Clara and on this channel, I make videos on love, relationships, motivation,
positivity so if you're into anything like that, please subscribe to my channel! It would
mean the world to me. In this video, I will lay out four ways for you to start loving
being single, and to start living your single life the best way you can! Tip number one
that I have for you is to know that you're already whole and complete just by yourself.
Growing up, we are so familiar with the idea of finding a soulmate, or having a prince
charming as someone that will come into our life and miraculously make all of our problems
disappear, and that person will complete you somehow, and I think that it’s so wrong.
Because when we believe that someone else gonna come into our life and fulfill us, we
externalize our power. We give the power that we have to someone that we don't even know,
that we have no idea if that person is the right person for us! We give them all the
power! It's like saying to yourself that it's wrong to be just by myself, that I'm not okay
being with myself and I need you to be here so that I can feel love, that I need you to
be here so that I can feel appreciated, I need you to be here so that I can feel like
my life has a purpose, I need to be here to make me feel like I’m happy. Stop that,
just stop that! Cause baby you are whole and complete 100% just by yourself, and I’m
telling you that because it’s true. I don't I don't care how long you been single for,
I don't care if it's a month, six months, two years, four years, ten years, 20 years,
25 years of your life: It's the same, baby it’s the same! I think that, you know, being
single is such a great time in our life because imagine this: singleness is temporary, it's
likely that for the rest of your life, I don't know like you can be single for another month,
another year, another two-year, another five-year, but from that point till the rest of your
life, you're likely to always be with someone, you're likely to always be with your partner,
and your significant other, and your spouse right? So basically, now being single is temporary,
it’s the only time of our entire life to be single and to just focus fully on our self!
And I think that is such an amazing opportunity to practice this self-love, this self-compassion
and this self-worth, this sense of self-worth and self-esteem and everything that is beautiful;
and realize that we are awesome, we are whole, and we are complete, and we ain't need no
one to come into your life and rescue us, and to solve our problems and make us happy,
because we are capable of making us happy! I also want to talk about this idea of finding
the one: I do believe in it to some extent. I do believe that THE ONE- the most important
person that's meant for me is ME! So the one for me is me and the one for you is YOU! If
you imagine that your dream partner waking up next to you, telling you that they love
you, telling you that you're beautiful, do all these special things for you, make you
feel special, taking you out on dates, holding hands, kiss you; imagine that you do these
things to yourself, because the one is you! You can do all these things to yourself: you
can wake up and tell yourself that you're beautiful, you can kiss yourself goodnight,
you can kiss yourself good morning, you can take yourself out on dates! Like why not?
I I don't think that there is anything shameful, anything desperate about that! And when we
meet someone that is the right person, we have 2 whole persons that come together and
make something really beautiful and special out of it! And even if we part ways, even
if we breakup, we leave the relationship as a whole person. Moving on to the second tip:
LOVE YOURSELF! I know, I know, I know everyone talks about self-love and how to love and
appreciate yourself just the way you are; but in this video I just have to mention it
again because it's true! Babe like if you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone
to come into your life and love you? A lot of people, including myself sometimes, who
a lot of the times feel very insecure about how we look, about our body, about you know,
our face, our finance, our talents, and wonder if we ever, you know, make it in our life;
and especially when we compare ourselves to other people, it can be very toxic to our
mental health. But baby it’s so silly because when you just take a step back and look at
what you have right now, you’ll realize that you are so privileged, and every part
of yourself is perfectly made for you: your eyes, your face, your body, your hair, your
talent, your hand, your everything about you! You are where you need to be, love yourself
baby! I know that it sounds cheesy, and I know that you can like, all cringe right now,
and just say that it’s so impractical, but it’s baby step, it can be a long process,
it can be an ongoing journey. For me, it’s, you know it requires practice every day. It's
not like one day you wake up and you love yourself; and one day you wake up and you
suddenly have a high self-esteem and believe in yourself and all that, you know like it
doesn’t, it doesn’t happen like that. If now you’re insecure, and you're not happy
with yourself, take your time, know that it's gonna be a process but the journey is worth
it. You know, in the past, I had all of these ex-boyfriends, and I gave them all my love,
I gave them everything that I had, I just poured myself into the relationship, and I
realize, now I realize that I lost myself in the process. I just gave, gave, and gave
and gave and gave, and just gave everything that I had. When I got out of all these relationships,
and really spend time being single, and really spend time to self-reflect, I start to give
myself the love that I deserve I start to give myself the attention that I want, I start
to give myself the appreciation that I crave. It’s just day by day I feel more at ease
with myself and my current situation; and I realize that there's nothing wrong with
going through life by yourself, there’s nothing lacking about it! Self-love you guys!
Give yourself to love, take care of yourself the way you want your partner to take care
of you! Along with all those positive affirmations, focus on doing what you love! Like I said
in the first video of me (Doing what you love) right here you can check it out! Start doing
what i love really helped me! I know it's like common sense, but like you don't get
it until you start doing it yooo like for real, for real. So if you love painting, go
paint! If you love playing soccer, go play soccer! If you love, I don't know, writing,
go write! If you love studying, go study! If you love wearing a crazy shirt, wear that
f**king cray shirt! Like life is just too short to not do what your love! Baby, do what
you love please, and you will see that you don't need anyone, any anyone to come into
your life and and make you feel that way because you can make you feel that way just by doing
what you love! Tip number three is to enjoy the moment, enjoy the moment baby! Hands down
this is the best time to focus on yourself, and finding out who you are, finding out what
you're passionate about, what makes you happy. For some people, it may be having your own
business; for others, it may be singing, writing, coding, making music, you know, being an influencer,
being an Instagrammer, being an Youtuber! You know it can be anything! Anything that
you do that gives you this fire in you. Do it more, do it more, do it more! Until you
know, you wake up and you just can't wait to get started, you just can't wait do more
of it, to have more of it, to Dive Right In! And I love that. I love the idea of, you know,
intentional living and going out into the world with an intention of contributing, of
giving to the word your talent and your love! I don't know I can go on about this forever
but you get me, I think you get me, I think I've been talking for too much but you get
me! Anyways thank you so so so so so so so so much for tuning in to this video! I hope
that this video is helpful to you in one way or another, that's my intention, and I wish
you a very beautiful, loving, happy Valentine's Day with your special someone if you have
one, and more importantly, a very happy Valentine's Day by yourself! You know, join the gang!
I plan to spend Valentine's Day by myself, and I, I have no problem with that! I really
looking forward to that, it's gonna be awesome! I'm gonna take myself out on a date, I'm gonna,
you know, do all these things to make myself feel special. I challenge you to make this
Valentines, to make someone else feel special as well! It can be your friend, it can be
a family member, anyone that matters to you, make them feel special, make them feel loved
on this beautiful day! And as always, if you enjoy the video and if you want to, please
like, share, comment, and subscribe to my channel! It seriously means so much to me!
Thank you again, see you next Saturday, and I love you! Thank you so much for being here
again, I'm so freaking grateful for all of your support, and like, I swear I go to bed
every night, I'm like thank you so much, I'm so grateful for my YouTube, I'm so grateful
for my subscriber, I'm so grateful for my followers! We give our power to someone else
you don’t even know, to someone else that you don’t even know! Ah this hurts, I have
braces so like so like the wire keeps hurting my cheeks! Ahh I have nothing in my mind right
now! You desperately want to find someone, or desperately, ahhh stop touching your hair
Clara! Finding the one, and know that the one, the one is you!