The out of sight out of mind approach with people! This approach can do wonders for you when it
comes to dealing with toxic and difficult people... stick around as I'll explain more!
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The out of sight out-of-mind approach is a coping mechanism that involves avoiding or
ignoring problems issues or responsibilities in the hopes that they'll go away on their own. This
approach is based on the belief that "if we don't see or think about something it won't affect us!"
It can be a way to temporarily relieve stress and anxiety and I personally love this approach and
I'll give you two personal examples of why it's the case for me and my personal life = If you're new
to my content you may be unaware that I suffered from a gambling addiction for 14 years. I wanted
to get clean and sober for years but struggled every time, falling back into the habit of gambling.
After reading about addiction and doing the work on myself I've been clean and sober for four
incredible years and I had plenty of triggers along the way... and one of the most important
reasons I've remained sober is because I removed all accounts online and reminders of things that
used to encourage me to gamble! Out of sight out of mind! In the same year I quit gambling which was
2019, I also walked away from a toxic relationship... it was one of the most challenging and emotionally
difficult decisions to face... in fact I tried to walk away before but I failed miserably because
all the reminders were there... the contact details on my phone, pictures and memories living inside
of me... and after a few moments of weakness in no time we got back together, dating! The second time
though I walked away, I threw away everything, and removed it all and I especially went no
contact and remained that way = out of sight out of mind. I've been called extremely harsh by a lot of
my viewers for encouraging them to block, delete the contact details of certain exes and people...
but it works if you genuinely want to move on and remove drama and negativity from your life!
Let me explain in more detail how this works positively and very effectively =
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One of the main goals with the out of sight out of mind approach is to
not speak to toxic difficult people! You can't win, you can't reason, and you can't
compromise with the wrong person... also you'll never be good enough with the wrong person!
Samuel had a toxic relationship just like myself with a woman who was a nightmare...
she'd abuse him, disrespect him, embarrass him... she was a bad egg for sure. After many arguments
Samuel would insist things were over and he was done, and that he was walking away for good...
but he never did... He regularly and occasionally would talk to this toxic woman.. they'd either
talk on social media, via text and over the phone and the more... they spoke, the more they contacted
each other... the more they communicated... the more they were going to keep being stuck in the cycle.
Samuel had to do something he had never done to any woman or person before = he had to block
her number after once again being humiliated by this woman in public. He did the difficult deed of
pressing the block button and refusing to speak to her again...he went as far as deleting a number
entirely, removing any temptation he might have had in a moment of weakness. Since doing that he
actually moved on, he's got married now, he has a family too with a happy healthy woman, who brings
no drama or toxicity or negativity to his life at all. He genuinely could not be happier... as for
that toxic EX the one he used to speak to all the time, the one who used to argue all the time with,
the one he was miserable with... well now she was out of sight and therefore she was out of mind
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As I mentioned already when I was a gambling addict... not only did I gamble online, but I used
to drive to casinos and betting shops all alone, or maybe with friends... whenever and wherever
I know this may sound blatantly obvious but by not going to the places, AKA seeing the casino's,
friends and betting shops it encouraged me to stop quicker and more effectively too! Gambling for me
since doing that was out of sight and out of mind for me. The very same mentality and approach can be
applied to toxic people! Regina had a problem, she was addicted to her toxic boyfriend... she couldn't
let go walk away he didn't want to either... as they were stuck in an almighty toxic cycle together!
Without realizing she'd put herself into a position where he would see her and they would
bump into each other especially after a falling out or an argument. Regina needed to be strong and
realize that the man she was dating was a cheater, a liar and abusive... she had to walk away but also
walk away from the idea of bumping into him again... that involved moving out of the area, distancing
herself from certain venues he would go to and even moving away from mutual friends and interests.
It was a lot of sacrifices she had to make but the less chance she had of seeing this toxic
ex the better! It was avoidance for sure but it actually worked! Regina healthily and eventually
moved on and like Samuel met a much better match for her... she's expecting now and happily married
"The less I saw of him, even at a distance , the better chance I had to move on!" she said
I can resonate with that story in so many ways AKA out of sight literally out of mind
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If you believed you were going to do the same thing forever with the same people... well think again
The pandemic despite your views on it was a major wake-up call and culture shock to everybody
involved... we've all changed. I lost my father in the lockdown to illness. I lost close friends who
drifted apart from me and even family members who misbehaved. I now live a new life and those
who were toxic towards me are truthfully out of sight and out of mind. People assume sometimes that
the walking away parts the most difficult thing but actually it runs so much deeper than that.
Suddenly you're more alone now.. you're living alone... eating alone... surviving alone
Not long ago we hosted a major family event and invited a ton of people by the people who decided
to act badly towards me and others they weren't welcome and never will be... they're out of sight
and out of mind. On reflection of course it hurts because these people at one stage meant so much to
us, were so involved in our lives, perhaps you could never envisage your future without them in it....
But now the future has arrived... the future without them in it... the future without them in
your life anymore. So why not try to embrace and accept that harsh reality? The more often you do
so and with every step you take... you'll get there. Remember every day to a wise person, is a new life
a healthier happier better life, if you choose and decide it to be... it's all down to your mentality
There was a time where I would have dreamed of being free of my gambling addiction and especially my toxic
relationship. Where I'd be able to walk past the casino and not have the urge to blow on my money,
where I'd fall asleep at night knowing that I've not lost money or felt guilty for doing so.
That my mind would not be consumed by betting casinos and gambling. In the past four years I've
walked past many casinos, betting shops, gamblers with no desire to ever return to that lifestyle.
I have to pinch myself at how much I've changed and how incredible the progress is as well.
The same applies to walking away from toxic people, exes, friends....
and family... an issue like I said I would never even think it'd be possible to do so,
to eliminate people who meant so much to me, move on like they never exist anymore... but I have done
and I've done it so much and it's been so . long that it's become a routine of life for me
Also being with a brand new partner relationship which is all I ever wanted AKA healthy and happy
reinforces the progress being amazing to me as well. The out of sight and out of mind
approach for me personally has manifested some incredible results for the better...
Perhaps it might do the same for you too, but for many others who've applied this
they have had incredible progress and unbelievable results.