TERRI: Now think of it this way, on your road to success, what do
you want people to hear when you open your mouth? Complaints or
gratitude? When you complain, you sound powerless.
When you're grateful, you sound powerful.
TERRI: Hey, it's Terri Savelle Foy, cheerleader of
dreams. I'm pray that as you is you invest in
yourself today, you're captivated and you're catapulted
to live your dreams. Today, I want to talk to you about, it's
kind of touchy. It's seven things unsuccessful people do
that the successful don't. Now, first let me say, nobody's
perfect and even highly successful people fall prey to
some of these negative habits now-and-then, but the truth is,
there are certain behaviors and habits that could be stopping
your success. The first step is to recognize the bad habits and
if you closely identify with any of the following seven habits
that research indicates are associated with unsuccessful
people, then it's time to reevaluate the routines. Right?
Now, please know that I admit there are sometimes when I have
indulged in some of these negative actions, but let's just
strive our best to steer clear of them when we find ourselves
starting to fall into these detours that derail our dreams.
Right? Here we go. Seven habits. Number one is they complain. Did
you know that people can identify exactly how successful
or unsuccessful you are the moment you open your mouth? I
know, I don't like that either, but the truth is, the only thing
complaining does is convince other people that you're not in
control. Now, think of it this way. On your road to success,
what do you want people to hear when you open your mouth?
Complaints or gratitude? When you complain, you sound
powerless. When you're grateful, you sound powerful. Now, if we
want to complain, there will always be something to complain
about. If you want to be grateful, there will always be
things to be grateful for. Right? The beauty is, the choice
is up to us. Joyce Meyers says, "Don't complain about something
you don't have a vision to change." Number two is they are
always late. I know, this one is touchy. For some people, did you
know, being on time seems almost impossible? Even if they have
all day to prepare for an evening dinner out, they're
still running around in a frenzy trying to get out the door 10
minutes late. Now, I read something about this. Just bear
with me, don't get upset, but it was talking about how chronic
lateness communicates a subtle, yet strong message, and this is
what it said. "You're inconsiderate of other people's
schedules. You're a procrastinator. You're not an
effective time manager. You're selfish. You're unreliable and
you're not in control." Now, I feel harsh even saying that, but
do you know study-after-study shows this to be the message
that you're giving about your lateness, not intentionally.
You're not trying to be selfish and trying to do that, but it's
a subtle message that comes across. I've spoken many times
for a church in London called Harvest Church where they pay
strict attention to starting their weekly services on time
and the pastor, Jo Naughton, she previously had a prestigious job
in marketing for the Prince of Wales, Prince Charles, before
she and her husband began pastoring. Now with her adorable
British accent, she would say, "I can't for the life of me ..."
I'm not even going to try to imitate her, but she said, "I
can't for the life of me understand how anyone would
consider showing up late for church." I was like, "Really?"
She said, "Yeah. When I worked for the Prince, you arrived
early and were in place eagerly awaiting his Royal arrival." She
said, "To be late would be inconceivable." Then she
explained this in her shock about people showing up for
church late. She said, "Lateness wasn't tolerated for the Prince,
why should it be for the King of Kings?" I was like, "Wow! Point
well-taken." Number three is they blame others. They blame
others. You know, unsuccessful people are always pointing the
finger at someone else for why they are, where they are in
life. They'll give you ever reason in the book as to why
they can't succeed. It could be the government, the economy, the
President, the lack of education, lack of time, poor
parenting, the ex-spouse, you name it. It's never their fault.
Well, blaming does nothing. It solves nothing, right? We make
our choices and our choices have consequences. So when you learn
to take personal responsibility for where you are in life, it's
a massive step on the road to being successful. In fact,
Galatians says, "We are each responsible for our own
conduct." So, number four is they waste money. You know, if
money is always burning a hole in your pocket, you're setting
yourself up for failure. Financially unsuccessful people
and I was for many years, have no idea where all their money is
going. The biggest drain of money spent is our eating out.
You know the lunch you didn't cook because you just weren't in
the mood, adds up to $10 a day times four days a week. Now,
you're spending over $2,000 a year on the salad, the muffin,
and the sandwich that you could have made before you ran out of
the house. Well imagine that two grand going in a savings account
or towards your dream vacation. Instead, your financial future
was eaten up by poor decisions, right? Number five is they
surround themselves with other unsuccessful people. Now nearly
everybody knows that their closest friends can affect their
life, but what most people don't realize is how profound this
influence is on your level of success. They affect your
self-confidence, your beliefs, your habits, your spending
habits, your health choices, your religious and political
views, your discipline or lack of it and so much more. You
know, they say if you want to get fit, hang out with fit
people. You want to be rich, spend time with rich people. We
tend to feed off of each other's energy. You know, when you think
about it, Jesus loved everybody. Tax collectors, prostitutes,
thieves, adulterers, he loved everybody, but he was very
selective about his inner circle. Yes, he had 12 men
around him, but think about it. He spent most of his ministry
with only three. Peter, James and John, right? Well,
successful people are very careful and very intentional
about their inner circle. They say you are the average of your
five closest friends, so look at the five around you. What are
their disciplines? What are their goals and aspirations in
life? Do they support yours or derail yours? The Bible says,
"Walk with wise people and you'll become wise. Associate
with fools and you'll get in trouble." So, are you bearing
with me? I hope I'm not being too harsh. Number six is they
watch a lot of TV. Unsuccessful people waste valuable time
watching others live their dreams rather than eliminate
just one hour to go invest in their own. You know, one study
showed on average that the typical American views just over
five hours of TV every single day. What does that mean? Well,
if we break those numbers down, it reveals that the average
person is watching close to 1,700 hours of TV each year.
1,700 hours of sitting on your bottom, watching other people
fall in love, start businesses, travel the world, have families,
achieve success. It's your turn. Don't watch life. Live it. Let
me point this out real quick. If the average lifespan is around
78 years old, that equates to about 15 years of your life
staring at a screen. 15 years of your life! So, I want you to
eliminate at least an hour and get moving, right? The last one
I want to share is number seven. They gossip. Again, are you so
busy watching other people live their lives that you miss out on
your own? What about your unique goals, your dreams, your
aspirations? Don't forget who you are and what you should be
doing instead of worrying about what everybody else is doing.
You know, I like to refer to this quote as a way of just
identifying where people are in their mindset and journey to
success and even to check up on myself from time-to-time. This
is what it says and I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt. She said,
"Big minds talk about ideas. Average minds talk about events.
Small minds talk about people." I like the Pinterest graphic
that says, "I'm too busy watering my own grass to notice
if yours is greener." Well see, that's the attitude of a
successful person. They're not watching everybody else,
competing with their success and feeling insecure. No, they stay
in their lane, focus on their unique vision without concern to
what others are doing. So, remember this. God is going to
hold you accountable for what he's called you to do, not what
he's called others to do. So, I don't want you to get
discouraged with this podcast. I want you to get determined and
you can reinvent your life by making a few small changes in
your daily routine. Like, the unsuccessful habits that I just
listed, think about those and do the opposite. Like, instead of
complaining, start a gratitude journal. Instead of being late,
practice getting up on time for seven days' straight. You know,
instead of spending too much money? Make your lunch every
single day this week. You get the idea. So get inspired to go
after every dream that God has put in your heart. Start by
changing your habits. I hope you enjoyed that today because I
love cheering you on to live your dreams. And hey, we will be
opening enrollment for our most exclusive online course, Vision
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let me close out real quick with our subscriber of the week. This
week, it's someone that goes by the name, The Free Life. The
Free Life says ... Great point. It says, "The defining moment in
my life was when I realized and truly accepted how much God
loves me." That's the starting point, isn't it? "And that I am
precious to him," it says. "In that moment, I went from years
of hating myself to having an unbreakable confidence." Gosh, I
love that. "If I didn't have that moment, I would not be
where I am today. A successful business owner, a writer and
most importantly, I would not be sharing God's love with hundreds
of people. God is good." The Free Life, you're amazing, and
that is exactly where it all starts. I remember the first
thing I ever heard from the Lord when people would tell me,
"God'll speak to you." I was like, "I doubt it. He'll speak
to my dad, but not me." The first thing I ever heard was "I
love you." Then, the Lord said, "I've loved you all along," and
I just broke. I thought, "Really? He loves me even after
the dumb things I've done?" That's exactly what The Free
Life is talking about and I'm so proud of you for taking action
and following your dreams. And you know, for anybody listening,
that's where it starts is just saying, "Lord, thank you for
loving me." So, be sure and do that because that's a precious
point. Like I always say, if you can change your routine, you can
change your whole life. You know, I really want you to grab
ahold of these success habits so you can apply them to your life.
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