Do you even think that there was a way to command respect from narcissists?
Yes, there is.
There actually is a way to command respect from narcississts
and I'm gonna let you in on what the secret is.
I'm gonna give you five ways to command respect from narcissists.
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Alright.
Let's talk narcissists.
Let's talk about the five ways to command respect from a narcissist
and I'm gonna work backwards from number five
all the way up to number one.
How can you command respect from a narcissist?
A lot of people think narcissists don't respect anybody.
Right?
That's not true.
They do respect some people.
I say all the time they don't attach themselves to you
initially because you have so little value,
they actually attach themselves to you because
you have so much value.
They like to see people who are super confident
and who are super assured
and then once they do attach themselves to you,
it actually gives them a feeling of more power
to devalue and break down somebody who is confident,
who is self assured because that
makes them feel more powerful either way.
The more confident you are,
the more self assured you are,
the more they do respect you.
So if you are that way,
they will respect you more.
They will command a sense of respect from them
and I do have a whole video called
this is the only way to get respect from a narcissist
and I do talk more specifically and more pointedly on some of this,
and you might wanna check out that video as well.
Now this is more difficult if you're
already in a relationship with them.
This is where you're gonna wanna start
to emotionally distance from them.
If you're already in a romantic relationship with them,
if you're already in a business relationship with them,
if you're already emotionally close to them,
this is where you're gonna start to de-conditioning yourself.
I don't know if that's even a word,
but you're gonna start to kind of pull back.
You're gonna start to put those boundaries in play.
You're gonna start to move in a different direction
or even just stop the conditioning.
I kind of, in my mind,
start thinking of it as writing the ship, moving it in a
different direction, kind of turning it around
so that you're not constantly on the defensive all the time.
You're gonna start to be on the offensive.
You're gonna start to show them that
Hey, there's a new game in town.
This is not how it's gonna go anymore.
That you are taking control of yourself
and your life and that you're no longer
allowing them to have his power over you
and so you're gonna start to be emotionally distanced from them.
Your soul is no longer going to allow it anymore
and, you know, it starts kind of with these little whispers.
Your soul starts to say,
Excuse me.
No.
This is not okay
and you start to sort of feel it.
You know, your gut is telling you this is not working for you.
You know, if you want more help on how to
keep your cool against narcissist,
I do have a whole video on how to keep your cool against narcissists,
and it will definitely help you.
So make sure you check that out
and I do have a whole playlist on
self care when it comes to narcissists.
definitely check that out
as well because you do need to take care of yourself if you are
in a relationship with a narcissist as well.
So check out that whole playlist as well
and you can stay in control.
Just start with mantras.
You know, put in the comments right now.
I'm in control.
I'm in control because you are in control.
Just start to believe it.
Start to have that mindset.
That you are in control because you are,
You know they they don't have power over your soul.
They don't.
No one can help you if you don't believe that you can be helped.
Just know that for sure.
Okay?
So so important.
Now if you are already in a relationship with them,
again, you know, starting to put those boundaries
in place starting to look for ways to search,
create your independence.
If you are not already in a relationship with a narcissist
or your starting to get into
a relationship with a narcissist,
this is when you're gonna go,
mm-mm, I'm keeping my independence financially,
emotionally, spiritually, physically
in every way that you possibly can.
But if you are in a relationship with one already,
this is where you're gonna start to look for ways
to start to have your independence.
Even if it's just I'm going for a walk today.
I'm gonna go take a yoga class today.
I'm gonna go do something for me today.
Whatever it is, I'm going to read a book on my own.
You know, start a gratitude journal.
Start doing some things for yourself.
Start having some self care for yourself.
Whatever it is that you need to do,
to start having that stuff for yourself.
Okay?
So that's number three,
maintaining your independence.
I love the concept of the July fourth thing.
That declaration of independence.
You can kinda declare your own independence,
even if it's just in your own mind
where you're just saying to yourself,
You know what?
I'm declaring my independence for myself
and what does that mean to you?
and, you know, when I have people do my SLAY program,
which stands for
Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate and focusing on You.
One of the very first parts of strategy is
creating your vision
and so many times with people,
it's like having this vision
of what it is that they really want
is so foreign for them because
they've spent so much time and maybe this is you
just defending yourself against narcissists.
It's so many years.
It's just defend defend defend defend.
You just feel like you've been a turtle on your back.
You've spent so much time sort of finger pointing and going,
they're doing this and they're doing that
and oh my god
and you're like, you've been assailed so many years
by this person that you almost forgot.
It's almost foreign to you to go,
wait a minute,
what is it that I want?
What is my vision for myself?
What is my perfect life?
Will you almost feel guilty asking
for it or almost feels strange to ask
for it or think about what it is that you want?
But if you don't think about what it is that you want,
you are certainly not going to get there.
You have to almost think of it as a GPS like where is it that I wanna go.
What is it that I actually want?
Your GPS can't take you where you wanna go
if you don't program it, you know.
The GPS in your car doesn't know where you're going
if you don't put the destination in,
and it's the same thing with your vision.
So you know, maintain your independence,
figure out what it is that you want,
and then program it.
Okay?
Create boundaries, set them.
It's almost like, set it and forget it.
Create them, set them.
That's the next way to really
really command respect from a narcissist.
I know it's scary.
This can be really really scary if you are
in a relationship with a narcissist,
they will have a tantrum because they don't want
you to set those boundaries.
But it's sort of like a
two year old having a tantrum on a floor.
You know, when they have these parents who've been indulgent
or whatever because they think that
all they have to do is scream louder,
scream longer, and the parents are going to eventually give
in and that's what happens with narcissist.
You know, they're essentially toddlers in adult bodies.
They think that they have you conditioned to a certain extent
and that you will give in eventually if they just
have enough of a tantrum and act a certain way.
It's sort of like terrorist tactics.
and so they want you to be afraid
of whatever that backlash is.
But honestly, the truth of the matter is that
if you set those strict boundaries
and you stick with them,
then they will eventually give in.
The narcissist is way more afraid
of you than you are of them.
Promise you that and they
are getting supply from jerking you around,
manipulating you and all of that.
They love to see you squirm.
They love to trigger you.
They're getting supply from that.
They get off on that.
They get a high from that.
They enjoy it.
They love the whole thing of it
and the fact that they're able to do all of that
means that they're getting somewhere with it
and if they can see that they're no longer getting supply from it.
If you can cut off that supply source and they get nothing more from it,
then they will no longer want to be there.
That's how they really really will move on down the road
and that's how you will command
the most respect from that narcissist
and if you really wanna command respect from them,
if you really want to cut off that supply source,
then show them that you're not afraid of them.
Show them that nothing that
they're doing is bothering you.
If you combine all five of these things,
keep confident and self assured,
be emotional distant,
maintain your independence, set these strict boundaries,
and show them that you're not afraid.
There's no supply there.
There's no supply source for them.
If there's no supply source to be had,
then there's nothing there for them to take.
I would say, down the road,
slither down the road and find another supply source.
They're really like vultures, you know.
They need to have something there to feed off of
and if there's nothing there to feed off of,
if there's no fuel,
there's no food source, you know,
they've gotta be feeding that black hole all the time
and if there's nothing there to feed from,
then they'll have to move down the road
and find it from somewhere else.
So those are the five ways to command respect from a narcissist.
If you've seen any other ways,
if you have anything else that you wanna add,
go ahead and put that in the comments.
I would love to see it.
Make sure you write I'm in control in the comments
as well to remind yourself that you are in control.
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