H: Well, well, well...
S: Before we get into this video, which is going to involve putting me down
I would like to try to gain some sympathy from all of you by letting you know
That this morning for breakfast I was served a container of what may have been
Extremely expired guacamole, I dipped my Ritz crackers in the guacamole
And it tasted weirder and weirder, it may have been E.Coli
H: You said it was spicy S: E Coli or salmonella, I ate it
So there is a solid chance that I will not be making it through the rest of the day
H: I'm sorry, why did you phrase it that you were served rotten guacamole?
S: I didn't pick out rotten guacamole H: Yes you literally did
You said get me that guacamole, I got it for you, you ate it
S: [laughs]
H: I didn't tell you you were eating that for breakfast
S: Hannah and I are in a bit of a fight today and so we thought
We should talk about what happens when we fight
[intro song] Hello, hello, welcome to the show, welcome to the show
Welcome to the show, it's time to talk about our lives...Nope!
H: Okay, I'm freezing, I'm gonna put this on, anyway
S: Shall we speak generally about our fights?
H: No, no, I think let's give this example so people know why we're in a fight
S: Okay
H: This is one of our most common questions though
Like what happens when we fight, do I still help Shane?
S: That's the main question H: That's the main question, yeah
Like how does it work with caregiving and having to interact when you're in a fight
S: Yeah, and I think we should say we don't fight very often
H: No S: And we get along in a way
That when we do fight they tend to end pretty quickly, like we could be...
H: Yeah, like we're not actually in a fight right now, but I was just mad at you
S: Yeah, I mean we have it pretty good, the most normal type of fight we have
Is what happened today H: Yes
S: And it's over by like an hour later H: But let's delve deep into it
So that you can try to tell us who you think is at fault
S: That is not the point at all of this video
That is so far from the purpose of this video
H: Okay, so our fight began about 20 minutes ago, we had been testing
A new microphone for an hour before that, we set it all up, it's like a boom mic
It has a big stand and we set it all up, unpacked everything
S: This has been something that we've been looking forward to, we've had some audio issues
In the last few videos, our mic is not performing the way we want it to
H: We don't have a microphone, don't lead them astray
We just use the built in mic that's on our Canon camera
Which is not what most vloggers do, we don't have a microphone
So we purchased one
S: We got one and we were like perfect, we're upgrading, our audio's gonna be crystal clear
But we were like let's test it before we record our video today
H: Yeah, thank god we did S: So we plug it in, we talk for a few minutes
H: I think you're skipping past the part where I set it up for 20 minutes
S: True H: It was extremely frustrating to set up
S: Yeah, all these nuts and bolts H: Yeah
So I had built this microphone, and I'm like gosh, geez
S: Hannah invented the microphone H: And we sit down
We film a little 5 minute thing, we did a bunch of different levels, different positions
So we filmed that, then I took the chip into our computer, uploaded it onto the computer
Put it into our program, tried to listen to it, there was no audio, just a buzz
S: Just a [buzzing noise] and although I know that you probably would enjoy a video
Where you couldn't hear our voices, we thought maybe the [buzzing]
Might get old after 12 minutes H: Yeah
S: That was when it occurred to us that maybe we hadn't turned the mic on
And was that true? H: So, yeah, we come back down here
Look at it, turns out there's an on switch, what sort of microphone has an on switch?
What am I turning on? It's a microphone, I plugged it in
S: So we were like ah, silly us H: Yeah
S: So we turn it on and we set up again, we talk, we test different levels
Hannah takes the chip out, takes it to the computer, uploads it
H: Yep S: Nothing
H: Same buzz S: Same [buzzing noise]
H: So now we've been doing this for like half an hour, I'm getting angry
I give Shane the pamphlet, the set up thing
S: Oh, Chloe's drinking H: Oh
[loud noises of Chloe drinking from her water bowl]
S: Drinking seems difficult for her H: She's not good at it
S: She's just slurping H: No, don't rub your wet beard on me!
H: Hi, good girl
Okay, so when we got this microphone I popped it out of the package and that was it
It was fully formed, the cord was attached, there was nothing to do
S: Yeah H: So I hadn't read the little pamphlet
That came with it which is why I didn't know to turn it on, right?
So after we turned it on and tried again it still didn't work
And I was like Shane, read the pamphlet, maybe there's another thing
I don't understand the problem but there's nothing else that we can do
I'm checking all the wires, he's reading the pamphlet and in the pamphlet it says
To install the battery, so I'm like what battery? It didn't come with a battery
Shane's like well it has to have come with a battery, so we're looking in the box
There's an empty spot in the packaging that looks like maybe it could have had something
So we're like oh my god, they sent us a faulty microphone
There's no battery in this microphone
S: Can you... there's a hair right between my eyes
H: Yes S: Thank you
H: So then I'm reading the box and there is no mention of a battery being in the box
It says comes with microphone, cord, that's it
And so I'm like Shane, go to your Amazon order and read the description
Does it come with a battery? S: So the description does not say
Anything about a battery, but as I begin to read the reviews
Which I did not do when I purchased the microphone
H: Hmmm S: Several people commented
"Alert! Alert! No battery comes with this! You need to buy a 9 volt battery"
So it was pretty obvious, had I taken the time to read the top 3 reviews
That we also needed to buy a battery for our microphone
H: Who buys something on Amazon without reading the reviews?
S: (laughs)
H: Only you, I literally don't know any other people that don't read the reviews
S: So after this hour of trying to get it to work and then coming to the realisation
S: That it was my fault for not buying everything that needed to be purchased
H: You did not come to that realization, I said to him
You are never allowed to order on Amazon, okay? I said it just like that
I was like, by the way you're not allowed to order Amazon again
And he was like, that is so unfair, this is not my fault, all this stuff
S: I retaliated H: Yes, I just didn't say anything else
I left, I went and sat on the couch, I was like okay, it's not your fault, whatever
And now apparently he's come to the realization that it is his fault
S: And then, I need to use the bathroom, it had been a long time
Working on the camera built up the pee in me, so this is the central question
That people want to know H: Yes
S: When we are in a fight, a disagreement, how do we handle it?
And I think that the fact that I need help has allowed us to develop
A lot of emotional maturity around this issue, so that when I do need help
I ask for it, even when we're in a fight, Hannah continues to help me
She might roll her eyes H: Yeah, I don't do it very nicely
Although I think sometimes you do postpone if it's a bad fight
And you don't have to pee that badly, you're not gonna just be like
"I don't really have to pee but I'm gonna ask anyway"
S: That's true, yeah H: But if you do have to pee
You'll definitely say "can I pee?" and I'll say nothing, I'll come over and move his joystick
S: You'll be like "yes but I'm not happy about it"
H: Yeah, I'll go to the bathroom saying nothing, I'll do it in a very sassy way
S: What is that like for you? I think that's kind of a peculiar thing
H: I know, well I enjoy making it very apparent that I'm still mad at you
It's like if you're sitting down to dinner S: Yeah
H: If you go to a restaurant together, right? And you got into a fight on the way
The whole time you're gonna make little remarks that show that you're still angry
I mean you shouldn't but sometimes you do, you want the other person to know
That they're not forgiven yet, right? S: (laughs)
H: So I think it depends on the situation, but yeah, sometimes I'll enjoy my silence
And that's almost even better than ignoring you completely
Like helping you pee but doing it silently Both: (laugh)
And I think that the fact that I need help even when we're having a fight
Often allows our fights to end earlier H: Oh, yeah
S: So the fact that I'll ask her to help me use the bathroom
Will kind of open that door to talking again, and then we usually get through it
Cause we're laughing, like I'll purposely make jokes about the pee jar process
Or something to get Hannah laughing H: Yeah
S: Or we'll just straight up talk about the problem, what the fight is
H: Yeah, exactly S: It forces closeness
That forces communication, so it gets us through our fights faster
H: Definitely, I think it's very useful
If you don't have caregiving in your relationship, try to find some way
During a fight to have to talk, because it really does help move the fights along
S: And we've never had a fight that got so bad that we didn't want to be near each other
Like overnight, you know what I mean? H: Uh huh
S: Hannah's been like, what would I ever do if we were so mad that I wanted you
To sleep on the couch? H: (laughs) Yeah
S: Like we couldn't really do that very easily
H: I know, that's never happened, there was one fight we had a long time ago
That I remember you were already in bed when we had a fight so I left
And I went out and sat in the living room for like 15 minutes and cooled down
And then I went to bed and we didn't talk until the morning
S: That's true H: But that is the only time that it's
Ever been like a night time sleep scenario thing
S: Yeah H: And I feel like some people
Are gonna comment and be like, never go to bed angry, and I don't agree with that rule
I think it can be useful to not have discussions at 11pm
When you're tired and in a fight, there's no reason that you need to resolve
Whatever conflict is happening, I don't really get why that would be the cut off
S: Yeah H: Or like, never eat breakfast angry
Like I just don't understand why that's so arbitrarily decided
S: I think overall though, Hannah doesn't feel like she can't be angry with me
Because of my care, like we still have arguments, we still have disagreements
We just work through them and then do my care angrily
And it goes the other way, like if I'm mad at Hannah, I could go play video games
Do something that I can do on my own, and not get a drink if I want a drink
But I'll just be like [monotone] Hannah, can you please get me a drink?
Like I'll just do that a little bit annoyed Both: (laugh)
But my care does not prohibit us from fighting, thank god
H: Yeah, but it does help us make up, yeah, I think that's the overarching thing
That we fight but caregiving definitely helps us make up quicker
But I do like to put a little bit of sass into putting Shane's drink down
A little more sassily if I'm angry S: And then I'll look at her
To let her know that I know that she was doing it angrily
I'll glare at her while she hands it to me, and then say [forcefully] Thank you.
Say thank you angrily H: And I'll just say nothing
I'll just walk away S: You'll just go hm
S: So now you know everything about the fights that we have
Thankfully this is not a big deal, we don't fight very often
H: True
S: And the fights we do have are pretty minimal, like when someone forgets
To buy a battery for the microphone that requires batteries, and then you spend all
Morning trying to make it work without the battery
Alright, that's the end H: Bye everyone
Don't forget to let us know if you think it was Shane's fault for the Amazon purchase
S: Don't forget to subscribe H: We never say that, what are you doing?
S: I don't know, hit that like, like our video
H: No, ew, I hate that, okay, bye everyone
S: Bye