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- (paper flapping) What would make you leave me? (laughs)
- Oh, shit.
I think we joke about that a lot
- Yeah (laughs)
- Like (laughs) just things like
having a joint Facebook account, or, like,
if you wanted to get a live, laugh, love sign
in our room I think the first thing I'd do
is check if you're okay and...
Oh my God, call your family.
- Yeah, I won't
- Okay
- Don't worry
- When do you feel closest to me?
- On the train
- Mm. You've said that before, or something around that
- Yeah, I feel like on the train can be
really stressful for me sometimes,
but it's also,
something I really love to do is travel, and...
really mastering being around
so many energies and people
and all these things that are happening, and still
being in my own space
and maintaining a sense of...
Peace, regardless.
And I think it was just like, one day,
I was just talking with you on the train
and then I just realized that other people were there
and it just made me feel like
the way I feel when I'm alone.
So.
I felt really close to you.
Do you wanna answer? (laughs)
- Yeah I can, when we manage to bake together.
A lot of times we do our baking kind of separately
but when we do, it's really nice, we tag-team something.
- Yeah.
- Oh, I wanna right now, I mean just make a huge cake.
- Brownies.
- Okay. - Anything.
- Anything.
- What are your three favorite memories we share
or even just like, you know, it doesn't have to be three.
- Yeah.
- You'll be like "oh fuck, I can't think of a third one".
- Yeah, I could think of a million but I guess, yeah.
I don't know why, it just really meant a lot to me
when you introduced me as your partner
for the first time...
It was just the first time someone didn't assume
I was just gonna be their stupid girlfriend
and I was like so "Ah".
I don't know, that was really nice.
I liked when we...
When we didn't go skiing (laughs)
- Yeah.
- And when we were talking in the middle of the night
we were trying really hard to be quiet
- (whispering noises)
(both laugh)
- And I always like when it gets like that.
And...
Recently. When you were playing with my brother,
I was telling you - just the way that you were
with my family's...
Really different than what I've experienced
and I just feel like
you really...
fit and...
Complement me.
I think people in my family think I'm happy
and if there's anything that gives them reassurance
that I'm in a good place,
I think being with you is one of them.
Ooh, this went from (exhales)
When was the moment you realized I was in love with you
- That's a really good question.
Being depressed really does fuck up my memory and shit,
so I feel like sometimes I lose things like that
and that's hard, but...
I would say...
I think...
I really recognized the love when we got --
the first time we got brunch at the deli
and by brunch we just like, split
a bacon-egg-and-cheese and got some pancakes and --
- A 40 and some orange juice?
- Yeah, a 40 and some orange juice.
And it's also hard to pinpoint these things
because it's just very organic
and because of that...
Yeah, because of that, you know,
hours melt into days, into weeks
and it's just like all of a sudden,
I've spent, like, three weeks with you,
and it's like "what the fuck",
like I don't even see my friends like that
- I know (laughs)
- What's the pain in me you wish you could heal?
- I think...
For me it's...
hardest to...
watch you...
struggle with...
believing, not necessarily in yourself, but that like...
holding on to hope,
and I wish that wasn't so hard for you.
I try really hard to, like...
create hope in our space as much as possible,
I know you do too, and mop it.
But I just, like, always want to just (kissing noise)
kiss your little forehead and send you off
with buckets full of hope,
(laughs) so you never run out.
I think that always really...
Hurts to see, 'cause I look at you and I'm just like,
"Oh, it's such a no-brainer,
you're gonna be fine",
beyond not worried about you.
And I wish you could feel
not worried about you as much.
- Me too.
It's getting better, but yeah.
- Yeah.
- And I couldn't have done that without you.
- Thank you.
- (laughs nervously) Get ready! Cool.
If this were to be our last conversation,
what's something you'd never want me to forget?
- What you have around you and what we've done
and just the amount of people
who not only love you but have been, like,
directly impacted by you or not,
and just that you have so much to offer
and that...
Even if I wasn't around to see that
I think that you could, you would still offer all that.
There's just so much space in your heart
that you hold and allow for people.
- Fuck.
- You know...
If I made an impact in your life,
which I think I might have (laughs),
that you could really remember
everything that you've become because of it,
and everything that you were
and what's better from that and what's different.
- Boy.
I love you.
- Love you.
Why do you love me?
- Ooh.
(laughs) I didn't expect this to make me cry.
(both laugh)
I think...
There's a lot of...
Reasons that I feel like I don't fit, like...
being queer or being Palestinian, being Venezuelan,
being mixed, being like all these things,
there's just so many reasons that
I have to be really aware that like,
be careful who you say this to,
be careful if you go here
and be careful of all these things and...
I just have never felt that like...
This before.
It's beyond that I feel comfortable with you,
like you make me feel comfortable,
you go out of your way to make me feel comfortable
and make me feel like I belong
and make me feel like I fit
and sometimes it's hard to go outside
and realize that not everyone wants
to give me a cute little smooch or a little hug!
Trust me, I'm surprised every time! (laughs)
But yeah, you know, I get to like...
People can find that in a concert they go to,
or their favorite song or their favorite place
to go look out on the water, or whatever,
but like I get to love you
and then I know there's somewhere that I belong,
there's somewhere that, like... that's untouchable.
- Yeah.
It is.
- And other reasons.
- I do make good cookies.
- Your turn. (laughs) Well why do you love me?
- Just, I can wake up and like, remember
why it's worth going outside,
because if I didn't go outside,
I wouldn't have met you, you know?
If I didn't leave the house randomly
that wouldn't have happened, so,
the fact that I get a reminder that
things don't...
You know, suck so bad and that...
I don't know, just a lot of ways
I, like, live in love with you
that make me want to live and love people better.
I want to be a better friend because...
I see you be a better friend
and be a good friend, you know?
I want to be like...
You really taught me
that community can mean a lot of things
and it's not just people you're next to all the time.
- (exhales sharply) (laughs)
- (jokingly) Get out!
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