there we go I was curious what kind of
success you had long-distance tapping
for somebody like surrogate have you
done that or could you talk about you
mean like somebody who's way far away
whatever it might be distance wise but
you tapping for them like you think
about them and as you think about them
you tap on them that or maybe they're on
the following well now I do most of my
work I want to say currently about
twenty to thirty percent of my work now
currently is on the phone right I know
they could tap themselves yeah I have
them tap but what if they're not tapping
themself and you tap for them well
that's a good question let me let me
help explain part of it okay it even
goes with what we talked about last
night - yeah okay basically you know we
talked about that you attract in your
life what you believe you are okay so so
every person that you interact with in
your world has the same basic energetic
belief system all right so let's say we
have Chad or anybody else Chad and Bill
whoever bill is okay all right now these
two individuals have the same basic
energetic system because they're in the
relationship together and so what will
happen is as Chad interacts with bill
all of a sudden they push each other's
buttons they dance together now even if
say Chad starts to work on bill but bill
doesn't know that Chad's working on him
so how does Chad do this
first of all he thinks about meal and
notices what he feels about Bill and
then Chad starts tapping on himself
now what's interesting is as you start
releasing your emotional charge inside
you this this loop that they dance you
know we have this dancing loop that we
interact with each other that because we
know how to interact we have this
relationship and we have the same basic
emotional issues now as you start
tapping on yourself
for them and their behalf not only do
you release what you have within you but
you'll also change the energetic
relationship and you will no longer
dance the old dance now the interesting
thing is let's say for example Bill
loves his problems and as you start
working on bill when you interact with
bill it's not working for him that means
he's trying to push the buttons and the
buttons aren't working bill has an
opportunity one to shift because he
honors this relationship or two he says
screw you I'm out of here but even if he
does that there is an energetic exchange
and release does that make sense
emotionally because he look I mean the
more you interact with somebody the more
the energy is being released and
rehearsed
now as you release yours what will
happen is as you interact with them your
energy level or your emotional belief
system is a little higher which means it
will enlighten them they will see that
there's something wrong or they will
shift just enough but then I guess when
the shift starts to occur there's also
the ability which you and I all have
done is to put on our tennis shoes and
take off running does that make sense
all right that what if you can still
remain friends with that person and you
said yes but the energy patterns change
between you right and relationship goes
to a higher level a better level better
level okay as you see see every
relationship is based on the weakest
link so it's only as healthy as the
weakest link now see the interesting
thing is if you start healing and
releasing your stuff you'll have a
tendency to put a little mud look let's
make sense okay issue but there was a
lady called and she said hey I'm you
know we're gonna go through divorce
our relationship is horrible
we need to make some changes is it full
okay good all right so we need to make
some changes and and I said that we need
something we need some we need some
counselling and I said well this is how
I do counseling with individual a ship's
first of all I want you to write a list
of all his problems every problem he has
every issue every experience every bad
thing that has ever done whatever it is
all his problems I'll see you for two
hours and then we'll I'll see your
husband for two hours I want him to
write a list of all your problems
everything is wrong with you everything
you did wrong all the emotional issues
you have and so she came to see me and
we worked for two hours and at the end
of the two hours she goes well I just
don't know if we did a whole lot because
all we did was talk about his problems I
said I understand we'll just see you
next week and just tell me you know what
happened so I wait around for thirty
minutes or so he never showed up he just
didn't even show up at all
all right the next week she shows up and
she goes oh my god
he's totally and completely changed now
why did that happen because right here
inside of her we're gonna give her
address little feet inside her she had
all these little buttons and what I did
is I went inside and I started to
release these buttons and remove them
all of a sudden he can't push them the
energetic level has completely changed
and the relationship heals
does that make sense now you have to
understand to also whenever you are
dealing with whoever the problem is
remember last week well I hear we this
over here remember last week we're
talked about we talked about my father
and myself and the tree experience right
what's really important I want you
understand everything inside you
whatever the memory is whatever the the
attitude that you have about whoever the
memory and the internal creation
everything in you
is you like if chad has an issue with a
preacher guess who the problem is that's
Chad chad is the preacher as a matter of
fact he doesn't need the preacher to
feel bad Chad can do it anywhere he says
that true Chad yep so whose problem is
it is it the preacher or Chad its Chad
does that make sense so as we start to
change what you do inside then all of a
sudden your whole world starts to shift
and change guys if George Bush keeps you
up at night
move or tap away your emotional issues
you have a George because I'm telling
you George is doing the best job he
knows how to do based on his belief
system based on whatever this is the
system that's working for him what we
want to do is own what you do inside you
if you own what you do inside you and
you start releasing this negative energy
guess who heals George may not ever
change but what matters is what you do
inside you and as you start to heal you
your life is going to truly transform if
you have an issue with anybody
just remember all abundance of the heart
your mouth speaks and we talk about
heart it's not the pump in organ it's
everything you record inside your mind
that makes sense
so when somebody comes to see me yeah
you know of course when anybody comes to
see me and they begin to share what's
going on in their life I write every
emotional word every incident everything
because who's model of the world are we
looking at
there's do you see it
so we're where's the keys where are the
keys to heal you who are they inside you
aren't they you know you could you could
have your problems in a padded room all
by yourself
you can do it in the bathroom you're
doing
crowded room you can do it anywhere
because you have perfected this art of
being mean but then again you're gonna
say they're doing it to me I mean I
think we had Landy up here and we're
talking about the doctor and then she
said well he's doing it to me I said no
he isn't you told me he was gone and I
said you're doing it so no he goes I
said he's not here you see it projection
they gonna take ownership of what we
feel and what we do well okay like when
I like when I first got here and I was
all kind of kind of messed up in my own
world and tapping through you I've
changed a lot of stuff and so you were
talking about your example of the two
people when the two people and in the
fact that they go around in the loop
mm-hmm well is it possible that if they
don't work on themselves so that's the
actual frequency you can change between
the two people so you're saying if they
don't change will it but you change
we have the biggest beat people are
based on frequency list as far as to my
knowledge and if one changes and the
other one doesn't change and the
relationship no matter what the
relationship is it it was it'll start to
dissipate but it will still change
well it'll change yeah because you're
invoking cocked cognitive awareness in
it right so you're changing yourself but
in the process you're also deleting
elements which are negative elements
what yeah yeah past elements that you
you were but you're now not now say
let's say you're in a relationship and
your relationship like like I was
married for 22 years and I want to say
the first 18 years of our relationship
all we did is push each other's buttons
we danced the dance that was unhealthy
for us and we've I felt that she felt
exactly what we knew how to feel and it
was unhealthy and so you know at one
point you know I said you know you know
our issues starts with us and our stuff
that we hold within us the only way
we're going to heal is we start
addressing our issues and we could have
divorced then but we'd made a decision
to heal ourselves we had children that
were young and so we started working
ourselves of course you know we love
each other we're not married now but at
the point that we got to said hey you
know you deserve someone who will
actually meet your needs because the my
program was to be rejected and so I
found someone who rejected me and
actually you know she liked me but I
wasn't what you call her cup of tea
well can I fix her can I fix that no but
can I love and honor her absolutely so
so this is the deal so we sat down we
started working on ourselves and I kept
trying to get my value right here this
is Anna and I kept trying to get her to
fix me to make me feel better and I kept
going to this dry well because the
problem was I was already hurt on the
inside how in the world can she fix me
she can't but one person can fix me
guess who I started healing me then my
value started coming from where from
within now here's the problem with
relationships we marry so they'll fix us
don't solve our problems and it never
ever works has it ever worked guys no
never will so all healing starts with
you and so the only way you're gonna
heal is you go inside and you start
releasing this so here it is at at 22
years we sat down we started talking and
said you know you know cuz you know you
can love somebody and not want to live
with them or you can love somebody said
hey you know you deserve someone who
will meet your emotional physical
spiritual needs because you know some
people you know when you're 22 years old
you know and you know I said I'll say
this in tongue-in-cheek but you know it
was at the bowling alley and those tight
pants is what caught my attention you
know we marry for weird reasons and the
interesting thing was she was perfect
for me at the time perfect for me at the
time because it matched my belief system
out myself and so I began to release and
start healing myself now the interesting
thing is is as I heal the style of
people who are attracted to me or a
little bit hell a lot healthier
why because I'm healthier that's the
only way you're going to get any better
in any way now let's say for example I'm
in this relationship with Anna that was
her name
I'm in this relationship with Anna and I
have the fear of being abandoned our
fear of being rejected and I don't want
to let go of this and I keep hold of it
you know I'll stay in that relationship
we will keep dancing the dance we knew
how to dance to the song that we always
danced to and always felt bad and we
kept repeating the cycle over and over
again is it healthy you know always say
all relationships will do one or two
that do one or two things for and you
get to choose all relationships are one
that will heal you they'll create
healing inside you two they can kill you
seriously they can kill you now what do
I mean by that let's say for example I
have this this issue of being rejected
and it started at me even before birth
you know my mom was 14 she got pregnant
she she gave birth to a 15 years old she
didn't know how to be a mother and she
didn't want this baby and she would dump
us off at Grandma's house and anyone
else's house they'd take us right so
here it is I have this rejection issue
and I only pick the ones who will fit my
way of thinking which they will reject
me so here it is
my rejection issues I'll show you all
right so here it is all relationship
will do one of two things one it will
kill you how does it kill you if I have
this great ability I have a bicycle I
never rode a bike before and I get on
this bicycle now I have this many skills
of riding a bike right guess what
happens we don't get on this bike I
start developing skills I may fall off
and if I fall off and I never get back
on and I keep rehearsing bikes and I
hate bikes and people who ride bikes
that will get really big inside of us we
have this great ability to learn into
grow so here it is I get on the bike and
then the next time I get on the bike
I'll take this experience and add more
and then the next time I get on the bike
I add this experience and add more and
then I get on the bike again and I start
adding to my great ability to produce
bike riding but let's say for example I
came in this world and I have rejection
issues and I learn from great people who
also had rejection issues then I start
to add more to this rejection and you
know what rejection does it hurts
doesn't it and then if you get so good
at rejection you can feel rejected if or
no reason you know you could be just
feeling rejected right here and then
what happens if it hurts it starts to
destroy your internal stuff it starts
destroying your life and this problem
gets so big it's gonna kill you you know
how do you realize this that
november/december are one of them has
the highest rates of death suicide I
mean it's really big and you know why
because we have this emotional hurt
within us and during that time period we
start rehearsing what we know how to do
unfortunately
feel bad and it kills us we die because
of something you know and how many you
have you been around people where we're
all of a sudden this emotional event
happens all of a sudden they say oh I
got this I feel nauseous I feel sick I
have headaches just because some event
happened heart attacks is another one
you gotta be careful around mom you
don't want to say too much you're gonna
have a heart attack because you don't
get any emotionally upset it's gonna
kill her and you know what a lot of
people die because of the emotions
period and not true
so what happens is we begin to perfect
our skills guys the skill of releasing
and letting go is what you truly truly
want because one you're gonna start
looking younger now I've had I've had
somebody say you know Robert you know
I've been single for years I have been
single for a long time and since I've
started ten in your class I'm not trying
to pick up anybody I'm not trying to
anything but men are hitting on me or
women are hitting on me they're finding
me attractive and I'm not doing anything
nothing but letting go of the pain
letting go of the hurt you look better
you feel better than you act better
that make sense so where's the problem
again it goes right back inside you
you're the creator of it and so we're
back to this question can you tap on
someone distantly yes you can and the
interesting thing as you tap on them
you're tapping on you and you're
releasing that emotional bond between
the two of you and if you release that
emotional bond that the negative one you
can create healthier ones or just make a
good decision honor each other is that
pretty clear is that powerful is that
good stuff Kathleen