Costin is working daily on the cross but the foundations will have culture is
making money in respect to how to glorify how much of your life revolves
around well there's no it's no but it has to have to plan a must work and
that's the hospital which is kind of really pushing yourself and no need to
get from A to B to C indefinitely is it healthy for - big names big celebrities
and we only see the pride we only see the glory we don't see the hustle they
did before this I think also culture technique Ghana is struggle especially
in social media I want to start a show called hand tell me their problem and
I'm gonna say and my both my parents were crackhead and my husband's beating
me and I think the people really glorify I'm working all of these jobs I'm
working really hard and making loads of money regardless is if stuff like
killing them I listen to it while I was sleeping is admitted
I'm Alvin Lucier I'm a second year economic students at the University of
Essex I'm the founder of a social enterprise that tries to make young
people from BMI and low income communities more employable and I worked
part-time and employment agency duty as I work Monday 6 a.m. wake up to catch
stream to essence University 9:00 a.m. literature start back-to-back Tuesday
Laningham head to library to wednesday a.m. gets to office and planted discus
usually the Holyoke medians first day probably 60 and wake up nanny and get
the Essex you need Saturday 1:00 p.m. get to every Sunday 7:00 a.m. start
leave at a church band nanny and 1:00 p.m. break for lunch and travel to
second church very nice trees you're the reason you know one is really really
fast by that the person in front of you it's just fast like you're one of your
heart your whole hearts like you're running that and then the other person
is sort of kind of just struggling and you can't catch them that is lower
there's nothing you can do right now that I can allow you to be not race and
a half restrain is very not can happen to anyway it's not like picky and if
it's Jesus in that regard because I think in for tend to associate burnout
with people who are in high-flying careers
burnout is a chronic state of stress it's the case that we burn of course it
builds up over time it's the case that sometimes people feel lack of
effectiveness disenchantment I'm not feeling particularly motivated
low energy levels even strong Young Lions sometimes go hungry but those who
trust in the Lord will lack no good thing I didn't know you were afraid
listen I think this was this was during the burn ah this was me trying to pick
myself back up another thing their hostel culture is that and you sort of
only broadcast your struggles when you succeed Travis Scott bought my family
crib for Christmas used to sleep on floors now we walk on marble okay but
when you would see that's the problem innit people only show the struggle when
they've achieved so much I don't know you sort of start to hide your struggles
and what you're going for in starting only showing your success and I
generally do not believe in that like then you go out sometime then there's
like in the back of your mind like just have fun do you like not everything has
to be work-related so I hope that you saw find the motions and and I'll be
genuine yeah I hope you find the maybe I can have fun it's not unusual to see
people isolate themselves to see people withdraw if you're adopting that sort of
notion of working hard all the time without a break without a rest you are
going to find that you're disconnecting from people because why would you spend
time with the people it's a waste of time
however relationships are important because a they help us to learn about
ourselves be it's important to have a support mechanism in place that how to
speak was be held to account but also to be able to feel validated in that regard
but by idealist it's I mean it's just open up and telling them about my
experience I think letting hearts as well deal with constructs is inevitable
if I have to know this is coming that there's so much about myself that I
don't know if I can get someone else another young Batman little older Batman
to open up that's a very very big takeaway I mean hi Alvin nice to meet
you I'm Anna come on in what we're gonna be doing is a little bit of a stress
test and it's just a way of understanding how you respond to stress
all right so you'll hear a CD and it will read out a series of numbers you
have to listen to the numbers and add them together
looking at this what I would say is you're actually a low reactor people
think that just let it kind of wash over you unless unless it's really important
to people who are low responders so they might be more at risk of depression they
might be more at risk of anxiety if you never have sort of chance to get back to
normal and your body and your mind to sort of recover a bit and you just have
stress on top of stress on top of stress so for some people it can almost switch
you into depression which is which is like very low arousal levels and it
switches you into a into a way of responding where you know you can't
really function and that that's what that is one of the dangers of really
sort of pushing yourself and not taking in time outs and not giving yourself a
bit of a break even if you want to utilize the term hustle there's a
difference between good hustle and bad hustle bad hustle is exactly physicians
in the extreme way no sleep there's a lot of I should be I have to now good
hustle good hustle is also about balance so incorporating other things in your
life that allow you to take a rest or allow you to be able to feed into other
parts of who you are as a person to be able to like to connect to other people
is and good hustle is also about
celebration
maybe you could tell me a bit about past sort of like you know what led up to
being sort of falling apart it's just shifting a bit for you we were
fed look after in men's health we saw was people working around like I know
she achieved as I said then because it was so taboo to speak on that how you
felt no one even told us that they were struggling not sitting with that
narrative at all and if they were unsuccessful it was they probably didn't
work hard enough so she worked harder I saw many different systemic issues
saying that means that people do have to work hard because you have to work I
know I was told certainly you have to work twice as hard to get office law
right but on the other hand I think you're
also speaking to something that's really important that you can work hard but you
can also work smart and that does take into account your mental health it does
take into account looking at yourself but still being able to achieve the
goals you set for yourself I don't know it's just difficult I think
race racing class plays a lot into that how much I work hard because I think
people have low expectations of being young back and working laughter it
doesn't sound like you feel like you're on the back foot but you then are having
finding that you're trying to have to disprove something people in that regard
which again it's a bit of a catch-22 isn't it because then you are working
that hard we have that extra pressure in your head and then of course as that
pressure not just me the one that you put on your upper has money for other
people put on you as well because you can't be seen to be robbed a well and
failing or not succeeding in some way and I do wonder sometimes about not
sometimes a lot of times the impact it does have on our mental health as
individuals because you are holding so much in terms of how you navigate these
different contexts because everything that you told me so
far in terms of how you've managed in terms of how you've coped
complete contradicts that complete contradicts this notion that you won't
succeed because you are you're doing it and you're doing so many different
things I think it's not easy to always remember that and that's what I meant
really about being taking the time to be able to tap into your achievements and
to celebrate it and to enjoy it because it may seem like it's really small and
trivial but it goes some way hopefully towards minimizing some of those
I suppose societal narratives around you should be and where you should be and
where you should belong no I think I think that's definitely something I want
to take away from this because I don't do that much - should I slap a Dracula
yeah we did so thank you it's been an absolute pleasure
you like you have two mothers and fathers you want to breathe I know you
don't you don't need to what success that much to be successful that what I'm
speaking to dr. humanize she she spoke a lot and I just balance and I this is
very unbalanced like this makes no reference to any other aspect of a life
apart from successful this is this is really mostly to really look at my
working practices as welcome to psychologists I've spoken to like
natural back this is a waiting that this doesn't last
so that's enough main thing I'm sure we gonna have a back of my head back cuz it
I have a tendency or coolyback sincerity
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