Are you really free of him?
You really aren't.
You're really not because you have in a sense
still given some of your power away.
And he is able for you to feel in any way
like you're damaged goods, like you're second class.
That means you have a damaged personal truth.
And the problem with that is we generate
the results in life we think we deserve.
I see open wounds in you that aren't healed yet.
People ask me sometimes where I learn things I learn
and get counsel.
I read a book one time that's the most
powerful book I've ever read and it's
Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl.
And Viktor Frankl is a Jewish psychiatrist
that was a prisoner of war and he wrote about
those experiences and he said,
"They controlled whether I lived or died everyday.
They controlled whether I sat or stood,
whether I ate or starved.
They controlled ever aspect of my life but one.
They couldn't control the attitude I took about it.
They couldn't control my spirit,
they couldn't control my mind.
And what attitude I took about it was
I am going to survive because I must create meaning
to this suffering."
And that's why the title of the book is
Man's Search For Meaning.
Your job is to find the meaning,
why did this happen to you,
how can you use this in the world.
You're using your life right now because there are
women right now that are trapped in situations
probably not as egregious as yours but trapped
in situations that will say, I do need to reach out.
I do need to tell someone.
You are saving thousands of women's lives
as you sit there in this chair right now.
I hope so, I sure hope so Dr. Phil, I do.
(audience applause)
Thank you.
But you cannot give away what you don't have.
You have to take care of yourself first.
I wanna introduce you to somebody that's on polycom.
He's a dear, dear friend of mine.
His name is Miles Adcox, and he is the owner
and CEO of an organization called OnSite.
Now OnSite is a place that does intensive workshops
for people that have been through trauma
to help them with self worth and self esteem
and mental health issues.
And it's the most beautiful campus you've ever seen
in your life.
The only problem with it is people don't want to leave
once they get there.
And Miles is the creator and he runs this organization.
Miles, how are you doing today?
I'm doing really well.
Honored to be here Dr. Phil.
Well thank you for joining us.
You've been listening to our conversation the whole way.
Can you help us with this precious woman?
Not only can I, Tatiana, I'm honored to, honestly.
I'm fortunate, I get to represent some of the
brightest trauma practitioners in the country
at my place.
But I need to tell you, they're sophisticated clinicians
but they're humans first.
And we obsess about curating safety,
emotional safety and psychological safety here.
And I don't know that I've ever met a human
more deserving of having that feeling,
maybe for the first time to be seen, to be heard,
to be valued, to be loved, to be respected
and unpack a lot of that baggage you've been carrying
too long that's not yours.
I can't wait to welcome you here.
Thank you, thank you so much.
(audience applause)
We're offering this to you,
and I want you to take that help.
Will you take that help?
I will defintely do so, thank you so much.
(audience applause)
I also want to add my dear friend who's gonna work
with OnSite because when you get out of there,
this is Coach Mike Bayer right here.
And Coach Mike Bayer is a life coach.
He is really experienced and beloved by his clients.
He works with A list celebrities, everyday people
and he focuses on helping clients break patterns
in their lives and in a real action oriented way.
And what we wanna do is get you a life coach
that is elbow to elbow, shoulder to shoulder with you
to say, I'm gonna change my walk in this world.
We're gonna make different choices,
maybe it's different career, whatever it is,
but you're gonna have a personal life coach
that walks you every step of the way
and starts putting your life together
the way you deserve for it to be.
And Mike, tell her what we're talking about here.
As you deserve to have the biggest, best life possible.
And so what we're gonna do is we're gonna look
at all the things you were lacking,
education, parenting classes so you don't recreate
anything amongst your kids, intimacy courses,
and we'll develop and devise a plan so that you get
the life that you truly deserve.
Thank you so much.
Now Mike is, he's not a life coach,
he's the life coach.
He has a new book called Best Self, Be You Only Better.
And that book was written for you.