So this is a really good question
and we get these questions at The
Marriage Foundation.
Go to themarriagefoundation.org. You
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So if your wife is starting to ignore
you,
you have to ask why, of course,
and you have to be objective about it.
It's very important
for you to have objectivity and
good information, both are important. So
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so you can learn more about marriage. But,
why would you ignore somebody?
Could be you're ignoring them because
you don't want to blow up at them?
Could be because you're bored by them?
There's a
ton of reasons and so, what
do you think is happening for her
and I'm going to give you a simple
answer called simplistic, if you want.
It's because you're not providing her
what she is looking for in her husband.
If you're amazing as a husband and you
should be.
Why shouldn't you be an amazing husband?
Please don't say,
"She should then be an amazing wife. She
should be."
But if she's not it doesn't give you an
excuse to not be an amazing husband. We
don't play that game of tit for tat in
marriage.
You're not being an amazing husband
so she's ignoring you that could be just
one of
many of her responses towards you
because you're not fulfilling her.
Now, some go, "Well, yeah, because..." Forget
those.
When I used to meet with people
I would call those "the yeah buts"
and I said imagine the yeah buts as birds.
They come and they start landing on the
branches. Yeah, but, yeah, but, yeah, but. It's
doesn't help you to make excuses.
It doesn't help you to justify.
What helps you is being able to do
something that you can do
that will have an effect.
So, you could play the process of
elimination.
What won't work? What won't work is
trying to change your wife.
You can't change another person. What
happens if someone tries to change you?
Walls go up, that's not going to work.
Leaving her, what good is that going to
do?
That's ridiculous then you're not really
dealing with reality.
You're like a little kid running away
from something because
it's not suiting you.
You can change yourself.
You need to remember I talk about
objectivity, you need to step
back and ask yourself,
am I being an amazing husband? I can't do
that for you.
We get people who write into
The Marriage Foundation
all the time. It's a free service
and they ask, they give this long story
sometimes
page is long and then they go, "What
should I do?"
I don't care how much information you
give anybody.
No one can tell you what you should do
because, and this is very interesting,
one of the main things you should be
doing
is you should be tapping into your own
wisdom.
So you can consciously try
things and scratch them off the list if
they don't work
and add them to your quiver
if they do work.
We have courses for women and
we have courses for men.
The very first thing we talk about in
these courses for both genders
is learning how to gain mastery over
your mind
step by step so it's not just discussion
and philosophy
so that you're able to literally gain
control
over your thoughts, your habits,
your inner reactions. You change your
thinking
that's what's being called for now.
You need to change your thinking. Make it
more in line with the reasons why
both of you got married which are
to be happier every single day of your
lives
and to experience unconditional love.
So go to our website, there's lots of
resources there.
Take advantage of it. Learn, you can do
something about this. She's not going to
ignore you anymore
if you're an amazing guy. Why would she?
And you don't have to dress up in a
clown suit to get her attention.
You just have to be who she thought she
was marrying
the most amazing man she ever met
so you can do this. Like the video,
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God bless and take care!