have you ever met someone just instantly connected with them and found them likable
we interact with people on a daily basis so think about how beneficial would be if you were able to
learn this skill this video will go over six ways to be more likeable so you can form more
relationships with others 1. be a better listener it's no secret that everyone wants to be heard
almost everyone loves talking about themselves and they have something to share everyone also
likes it when people listen to what they say asking someone a question about themselves
is a great way to get them to start opening up about themselves you can also ask questions
about what the other party is passionate about to get them to open up when someone starts talking
you should attentively listen to them instead of thinking about other things
you also have to convey that you're paying attention some head nods and reactions are enough
to show that you're listening you also don't want to appear distracted when you're listening
put your phone away when you're listening to someone if you're at a table at least
turn it over whatever you were doing on your phone can probably wait till later
using your phone or doing anything that makes your appear distracted when someone is speaking
makes you seem disinterested and it won't make you apparent likeable
two don't dominate the conversation this is like a part two of the previous tip you might
have something to share but the other party also wants to talk even if you are a master storyteller
it can be suffocating for another party when they can't get a single word in pay attention
to how long you are speaking and make sure to provide some chances for the other party to speak
also when the other party is speaking even if you have things to say wait till they finish
their sentence no one likes being interrupted and cutting people off is a quick way to be unlikable
three follow up this is something you can do if you meet that person again after you spoke with
them before if someone tells you that they have an upcoming interview or vacation and you see
them again after that event ask them how it went when you follow up with someone it shows them that
you're listening to them and you care about them enough to ask them about how things went
since the shows that you care they will also be more open to sharing more about their experiences
and upcoming ventures as mentioned before people love it when you listen to them so this will make
you more likable following up with someone is also a great way to begin a conversation with someone
starting conversations can be hard but following up is a nice and easy method you can use
to start a conversation four try not to bring too much negativity to the conversation
when you're meeting people you don't know for the first time the last thing they want
is to listen to your problems while complaining about something can help you find common ground
such as if both of you are unhappy that public transportation is running late
it still brings down the mood people don't want to walk away from a conversation with a worse mood
people will like you more if their mood improved after talking to you if you're feeling down and
need someone to talk to talk to your close friends family or therapist don't bring that negative
energy to someone you're meeting for the first time since that is what they will remember you by
5. don't appear desperate for social encounters where you want a certain outcome to happen
like an interview or a date don't show desperation desperation makes you look unattractive and you
won't get the outcome you want when you show that you're desperate it shows that you're
insecure which paints you in a negative light when people see that you're insecure you won't get what
you want and you won't appear likable just relax yourself and be open to what the outcome will be
maybe things will go well and you will land the job or the second date
maybe things won't go well and you will get rejected from the job or don't land on
a second date be open to what happens and you'll appear more natural and confident
you won't try to be someone you're not in order to try to get the outcome you want you will have
a better chance of getting what you want when you are yourself and accept whatever outcome occurs
6. remember someone's name people love hearing the sound of their name
a quick way to appear unlikable is to forget someone's name in the middle of a conversation
or the next time you meet them forgetting someone's name in the middle of a conversation
makes you appear disrespectful while forgetting someone's name the next time you meet them
makes the other person feel insignificant remembering someone's name makes that person
feel important it shows them that you care about them people will be more comfortable around you
when you remember their name and address them by their name if you remember that person's name
and address them by it the next time you see them their mood will improve
when someone's moving improves after conversing with you they will like you a lot more
being likable pretty much boils down to one thing if you can make the other person feel important
and boost their mood after they talk with you you will appear more likeable
one thing to note is that not everyone will like you the way you look or the way you talk might
make them not like you that's not something you can control and the only thing you can control
is how you interact with them there's no need to please everyone
follow the tips in this video be yourself and you should be able to be more likable
which tip was your favorite leave a comment below and check out the video shown on the end screen
about how to stop seeking validation from others so you can appear more confident and likable