Hi this is Christy Whitman. Welcome to the Quantum Success Show.
Today I am going to be talking about the Law of Attraction and parenting.
Which is a new one I've had to apply since I had Alex
and Maxim. You know, I have applied law of attraction to all aspect of my life and it's something
that I don't just use here and use
there. It's really how I embody my life. I always look at
My outer reality is really a direct reflection
of what's going on within me. Energetically whatever I'm holding on,
whatever I am vibrating out, I am getting in my reflections.
whether it's my relationship with Frederic, whether it's with my kids,
my finances, my career, the people that support me, friendships,
my body, it's all about what I am
sending out. So if something is kind of funky out here,
I know something kinda funky in here. I wanted to share this story with you
because this actually happened a few days ago. I was
feeling bad about a situation that happened with some person in my life
and the situation that happened, I felt very
like not lovable. I felt like there's something inherently wrong
with me. I'm not lovable. I had that feeling kind of within me
but it wasn't until my kids were getting up from their nap
and I went over to see Maxim. Both of them ignored me
when I walked in the room. They were just literally like I wasn't even there
and Maxim walked by me and actually almost pushed me to get by me.
I was like... what the heck cuz normally when they see me they are so happy
to see me and are like oh, mommy mommy. He just completely
walked by me, went in his room grabbed something and then again brushed by me. I said hey
can you say hi to mommy and he started crying.
It was like noooo. I am like what is going on?
He didn't even want me to hug him or kiss him or anything.
I was like, I am crushed. That just hurts. So I kind
of let him to do what he needed to do. I allowed him to
be where he was at but it literally broke my heart to be
rejected like that. I am like what's wrong with me?
Why doesn't he want to be loving with me? So I kind of got over that
little incident that day. I let myself cry. It did touch my heart. It hurt
and then later that afternoon I went to go you know
see Maxim and Alex. I was letting their nanny
go and they were playing with their nanny and I was just about to come into the room
and Alex said to me, mommy could you please leave us alone? Could you please go away?
Stab to the heart....... I can't take it. In that moment
I realized I'm not an adult parent. I am not a 42-year-old woman
that has two children and a business and all that kind of stuff. I am not in
my adult right now. This really hit me as a six year old little girl.
The little six year old girl felt very rejected and I left
the room again allowing him to be where he was at and
I just cried and cried and cried and it just crushed me
because that little girl within me on that particular day
for that particular reason; what was coming up was I am
not lovable. It's amazing because that was coming up
you know.. I've hit that space in the 15 + years I've done therapy
and you know worked with law of attraction, done my depth work.
You know you think of a spiral. The spiritual path is like a spiral
it goes you know higher and higher and higher and each time we hit
like the same issue you know but each time we are hitting it from a different place.
So even though I've hit that issue before
of I've not lovable. It's like I hit it at a different higher level.
This time I was able to literally go ok
I am not in my adult right now. I am not being an adult parent.
I am my six year old little girl that does not feel loved and
I had to literally spent time with her. At parenting
her. Telling her that you
are lovable and here are the reasons why. You don't have to
you know lose weight to be lovable. You don't have to have the perfect man to be lovable. You don't have to be
mom to be lovable. You don't have to have all these accomplishments. You are just lovable
because of who you are, because you are here in this body you know
God infinite wisdom...... Universe does not make
anybody on this planet for as a mistake. You are here for a reason. You are lovable
just because you are.
Spending that time and energy speaking with her
and really allowing her to feel loved like she is lovable
I started to heal in that moment. I started to
connect with that part of me that felt that I needed a healing. It's amazing because again it always
never ceases to amaze me. The minute I shifted that
withing myself, I was able to come back to my
adult. My kids were all over me kissing and hugging me. I even had Maxim's
I was holding him before he went to bed that night and he was literally stroking my face and stroking my
my hair and mommy I love you. I was like
oh, that feels so good. If I am projecting out
that I am lovable, I can't be lovable.
So it's a perfect you know opportunity
for us whenever anything in our outer reality, including our children
our children are
reflecting their ornery. Something ornery is going on inside.
When they're being defiant, somethings going on inside.
There's a resistant there. You know when they are not showing love and they are
being cut off. There is reason. I am cutting off from myself inside
and as soon as I shift it, the outer
that outer reality shifts as well. So I just invite you
that whenever you have something funky going on in your outer reality,
to go deep within. To find
that part of you that does't feel lovable. That does't feel abundant.
That doesn't feel deserving. Whatever it is, find that part
and then you as the adult parent that
part of you. Let him know, let that little boy know
or let that little girl know that they are lovable.
They are worthy. Spend time energetically holding that
part so that you can literally feel yourself expand and
change and shift that energy so you as an adult can
stand here in this place and actually feel
that you are deserving. That you are lovable because you are.
You're here for a reason. God doesn't make any mistakes.
Universe doesn't make any mistakes. You are here for a reason at this specific time.
You got the job. They say it takes about
1000 souls want to take a body.
Think about that. Spiritual masters have said this. 1000 souls want to
take a body. Your the one that got in this body.
This time, this place on earth.
Because of that and for no other reason you are worthy of love.
Your deserving of love. Your deserving of abundance.
Your deserving of success.
All of these things are available to you.
You know that here, it will be reflected here.
Have an awesome week.