Heya playas, I hear that there's this girl that you're madly in love with but the only
problem is that she has a boyfriend.
And I have three dogs, what's your point?
Now that we got that out of the way, lets talk about what's really stopping you from
asking her out.
I was asked this question by several different people who wanted to know what they could
do to get a girl who already has a boyfriend and depending on the situation, the answer
kind of differs.
If it's a situation where the girl you like is currently going out with one of your friends,
then I say drop the entire ordeal.
Even if the two of them are not serious, your friends come before any girl.
No matter how hot she is, that's just bro code.
But if you find out that the two of them split up and it wasn't a serious girlfriend, then
there's absolutely nothing wrong with you approaching your friend and asking him if
you can ask her out.
Being honest is the most respectful way you could go about it because that doesn't break
bro code and it doesn't make you a bad friend.
Now if your friend gives you the ok and then gets angry at you for doing it, well that's
a whole different topic for a whole different video.
So what if it's a girl in your school who you know has a boyfriend but you're just too
scared to talk to her?
At the end of the day, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having or conveying those
feelings.
The best thing to do is to walk right up to that girl and start talking to her about her
relationship.
As her if she's happy in it and judging by the conversation if she's not you now have
the inside information that you need and you increase your chances of potentially getting
with her.
If she directly tells you that she's not happy about her relationship or she speaks kind
of hesitantly about her boyfriend the chances are she's looking for something new and exciting
in her life.
Even if she has a boyfriend, you lose nothing from being another guy in her life.
Just don't be the other guy.
You know what I'm talking about, the guy that she runs and complains to every time she gets
into a fight with her boyfriend.
That guy always gets friend zoned.
Constantly make your intentions clear, let her know that you want to go out with her
and you want to date her so if her and her boyfriend ever do break up, she should give
you a call.
What about situations where the girl is happy in her relationship?
In those cases, I would recommend just leaving it alone.
It's one thing to pull a girl out of a bad situation but to pull her out of a good one
is just not being respectful.
There are tons of girls out there who want to meet guys that will make them just as happy.
So don't be so hung up on this one because she's already got what she's looking for.
And if you think you can make her happier than her boyfriend is already, get to know
who she is as a person and see what he's doing right.
And what about situations where you run into a girl just once, say, in a bar or the street
and she tells you she has a boyfriend.
In cases like these, if he's nowhere to be seen then he doesn't exist.
I know, that may seem kind of harsh but you exist in that moment with the girl.
There's no rules against having a fun conversation or an impromptu dinner but if the girl is
willing to take it to the level of cheating, then that's on her.
You're job is to respect that line, if she's willing to get food with you but won't let
you touch her, well then that's as far as you go.
This not only makes you a gentleman, but it prevents you from being that creep who forces
himself on girls regardless of what they say.
Plus if the girl is hooking up with you and she already has a boyfriend what makes you
think she won't do the exact same thing when the two of you start going out?
I want to know what you guys think, have you ever liked a girl who had a boyfriend and
because of that you were too scared to talk to her?
Leave your comments and stories below so we could talk about it.
A girl who has a boyfriend is still a girl and if she's in a happy relationship then
that's a good thing.
That means she's a healthy straight minded woman who can actually keep one.
If the girl is bouncing from boyfriend to boyfriend to boyfriend then I would think
twice about whether or not you want to be in that rotation and if that's the kind of
girl you really want to be with.
As always guys, love and peace.
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