This video is about = "The Power of Walking Away from a Breakup!"
There are FOUR important things that happen when walking away from a breakup
and to find out what those four important things, are please stay tuned to this video....
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Usually when a relationship ends a person's got two choices = to sink or to swim. To wallow
in misery and self-pity and play the victim (whether they deserve to or not) or to start
grieving the relationship ending, eventually begin the healing and then gradually moving on...
I strongly believe when any type of relationship is over = it's over.
Some cases people make up and get back together, most of the time that's not really ever the case...
I myself am a ruthless realist, when something is done, it is well and truly
done! Whether I've been dumped or I have dumped that person = it is within reason...
meaning that there is logic behind the actions taken by myself, or by them...
Now on my YouTube channel here (and on my blog) I talk about the power of walking away
and how compared to anything else it's one of the greatest powers- it's almost a super power....
that somebody can have. But I've not explored the possibility yet of walking away from a breakup...
Now what do I mean by walking away from a breakup? I mean moving on eventually, letting go eventually,
healing gradually, grieving and missing your relationship - cutting ties and cutting contact...
Sure in some cases (if you're divorced and have children) you're going to have to remain contact
with your EX for obvious reasons, but suppose you don't need to = again you can sink or swim
If you sink you can spiral out of control... very quickly begging for them back
and for what? You're never going to be good enough for the wrong person anyway! Never! I've seen many
times people lose control of their lives when they sink in situations like this. I broke up
with someone years ago, I'm sad to say I sunk and that's what it's like, and I know how it feels...
So walk away physically and metaphorically from your breakup.... try your best to take it on the chin
Here are four things you need to understand when walking away from a breakup...
If you choose not to walk away from your breakup and wallow in self-pity (whilst playing the victim)
you're never gonna grow! Insanity is doing the same thing over and over & expecting different results
A guy I know got dumped by his girlfriend of over two years (for no reason) and she
immediately started seeing someone else. This guy was broken completely and understandable
but when I tell you he chose to sink... he really did so.... for two long years he cried
threw tantrums, quit his job, begged, pleaded her back... she never wanted to see him again...
Sure enough when he started dating again...he ended up in a relationship with the very first girl
he started dating. In that period of grieving and playing the victim and not walking away
mentally and physically from his breakup, what did this guy do? He put on a ton of weight, he hardly
studied and got a bad grade for college, he never got into shape, and he actually took up smoking,
and he blamed everybody else and everything else for his problems!
Ultimately this guy regressed and because he was so desperate to move on he started dating somebody
who was far worse than his original partner... He never mentally walked away from the breakup
He spent two years doing everything he could to get her back...he never took responsibility
for his situation or his actions and he never evaluated his life, and just last month
this NEW girlfriend (that he went on to date) dumped him and he's back in the same situation again....
and guess what? He's acting the same way again as well. What if instead he evaluated his life
saw = that he was quite lazy and he had no real career, goals.... realized he was really immature....
understood he needed to become a better version of himself? Nope it's easier to stay where you
are and play the victim.... Walking away from a breakup will make you evaluate your life...
when I did so in my last breakup, I started this very YouTube channel to help other people who are
going through the same thing that I went through, and it's probably the best thing I've ever done!
The most predictable thing about life = is it's unpredictable! No matter how much you think you can
predict the future, we can't. That is why I suggest people should always try to hope for the best
but always plan for the worse. But your life goals perhaps need changing, especially after a breakup...
This can really hurt because we might involve our life goals with our exes...
Let me give you a personal example = I planned to be engaged and married to one of my exes
have kids, a family the works.... it was all planned out... but I discovered that she was a narcissist and
that's not who I want to spend my life with, and after I broke up with her - my life goals
immediately changed! I was not going to rush into a new relationship with anybody (just to
get married and have kids) I had to look at my life goals... and then I lost my father tragically
to illness (a few months after my breakup) which also sent me spiraling out of control....
Everything I thought I was going to do and the life I wanted to have.... was up in the air
but it made me realize that again the most predictable thing about life is it
is actually unpredictable, and suddenly I was thinking = "why do I want to get married?
Why do I want to have kids? What's the rush?" And without walking away mentally from the breakup
there would be no way I could do this! I would still be planning a future with my EX or trying
to make a broken relationship work....trying to turn a toxic relationship into a positive one...
Cut your losses! Life has a very funny and weird way of showing us an alternative and
in my opinion a better one! Life goals are an important thing to have, we do not want to wander
through through life aimlessly... plodding along but post-breakup walk away from them completely,
and look at your life goals! Maybe you do not want to get married anymore, or maybe you
need to review your life philosophy, your dating philosophy, your relationship philosophy overall...
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There is no growth dwelling and living in the past. Breakups are brutal and harsh
valuable life lessons most of us experience... and to become the best versions of ourselves we
must heal and improve! You're never going to do that without walking away.... if you do the following
with your ex after a breakup = you continue to talk to them.... to see them... maybe you stalk them
and follow them around.... maybe you constantly check on their social media... maybe you're always begging
for them back or finding ways to get them back... maybe you still look at their pictures and sleep
with their pictures every night... maybe expect them eventually to be convinced to take you back...
or you're still planning your future with them! If you do any of what I've just said - you're never
going to grow, heal and improve, and that's not good! The best thing about me breaking up with the
narcissist was the healing! I started seeing what was going on inside of me that made me do
what I did... aka attract a narcissist! I wanted attention... I just wanted any relationship
I really never loved myself enough at all... I was very insecure, superficial and naive.
I also knew nothing about narcissists but I educated myself on that subject and I
believe I am now better equipped for the world, and I can identify the red flags moving forward...
My Father texted me this message (before he passed away) he said "you have become a better person
after you walked away from your breakup!" You have absolutely no idea what you're capable of!
You're here on this earth to do great things, to potentially leave a legacy behind!
But you're never going to do that by not facing your demons and healing...
Cry! Let it all out, but do so by walking away... turn your back on your past, your regrets
and your relationship and move forward to better things! Now speaking from personal
experience I can assure you walking away from your breakup will lead you to a better place in life!
The grass is always greener (trust me on this, I swear to you!) it's not going to happen immediately
it may take a very long time, and healing and a lot of grieving....but it's the truth
Take me for example = a week after my breakup and going no contact and walking away
I had a moment of weakness...I said to myself "I bloody hate being single! I'm gonna take them back!"
Fast forward a year or two later, and I could not be happier no longer being in
a toxic relationship! However the same goes if your relationship was not toxic... pretty soon
as time goes on things get easier! You realize that maybe you weren't so happy
when you were with them.... you figure out that the relationship may have been holding you
back... you start making new friends or improving on older relationships or rekindling things with
family.... you basically eventually start seeing the real beauty of life and you you're born all over
again! Now do not ask me how but when you're at your best again and smiling again... you start
appearing more attractive and you eventually start dating again, and then you might see the red flags
and the wrong people... and the good signs and the right ones, and you differentiate between the two!
What I'm trying to tell you here is reassure you the grass is greener ,but only if you walk away
from your breakup....wish them well... have no animosity and move on! Time is on your side and a healer and
I assure you (you might not see it now) but you're going to be absolutely fine! Thanks for watching...