God speaks through his word, through his Spirit, and through the circumstances in your life.
Here are some ways you can apply these three means of hearing God so you can know if he
is sending you a red, yellow, or green light about someone.
1. How to Know If God Is Sending You a Red Light About Someone
Red lights are often the easiest to overlook or misinterpret because God’s “no” is
often the answer we don’t want to hear. So before you can properly see God’s flashing
red lights telling you not to proceed further with someone, one important step is to prepare
your heart to receive whatever God is going to tell you.
Besides, if you know deep down in your heart you are not willing to receive a no from God,
this will also contaminate your ability to receive a yes from God. If you don’t first
prepare yourself to fully submit to whatever God says to you, you will always wonder if
you are truly hearing God or if you are just hearing what you want to hear.
When you are in a submissive attitude towards God, here are some ways he will send you a
red light that means he does not want you with this person.
He will show you biblical issues in the relationship. You will see this person disobeying God’s
clear commands. You will know you are unequally yoked because of your differing beliefs and
life choices (2 Corinthians 6:14). This person’s life will not match the instructions on the
pages of Scripture. The Spirit will give you a clear conviction
in your heart that this is not his will for you (Hebrews 5:14). You will have an uneasiness
that is difficult to put to words but it will be undeniable. When you pray, you will feel
further from this person. When you are with this person, you will feel further from God.
The circumstances will be difficult. Doors will get closed. If they do open, it will
only be because you or this person are forcing them open. It will feel unnatural and unenjoyable
when you two are actually together. The reality of the relationship will not match the hopes
for the relationship. There are many other ways God will give you
a red light about someone, but ultimately it comes down to you be willing to accept
his no. If you are unwilling, he will often let you blow through this red light and reap
the consequences. In love, he is trying to warn you and spare you of unnecessary pain.
2. How to Know If God Is Sending You a Yellow Light About Someone
When you are driving, the yellow lights are transitional warnings. Between the red lights
and the green lights, we are shown yellow lights so we know what’s coming.
The same is true when it comes to relationships. Yellow lights won’t last long if you are
paying attention. Yellow lights are signs from God that you need more time to see what
is coming. But if you are paying attention, you will gather enough information quite quickly
to know whether or not this yellow light is going to switch to a red light or a green
light. Here’s some examples of yellow lights from God about someone:
The relationship will not be unbiblical but there will still be questions. This person
may claim to be a Christian, but you will not have had enough time to observe the fruits
of the Spirit that are always present with true Christians (Galatians 5:16-24). This
person will say they believe the Bible, but you will be unsure of how closely your interpretations
of the Bible really are. Many people read the Bible and walk away with very different
conclusions. When God is giving you a yellow light, you will need more time to see if you
and this person are interpreting the Bible in similar ways.
When you pray about this relationship, you won’t have a strong conviction one way or
the other from the Spirit. You will not hear a strong no, telling you to avoid this person.
But you will also not have a strong sense that you should be with this person. The lack
of clarity will be a sign to you that you should proceed forward cautiously because
you need more time with the Spirt leading you to see what you need to see (Galatians
5:25). When you two are together, you will get mixed
signals. Sometimes it will feel like you are totally not going to be together, but then
you will have a positive experience where it seems like things could work. Or you will
just not have had enough actual interactions with this person to really know one way or
the other how this person feels about you. In summary, when God gives you a yellow light,
it means you need more information. He wants you to proceed forward cautiously so you can
gather more evidence for what he wants you to do or not do.
3. How to Know If God Is Sending You a Green Light About Someone
The red lights are often hard to see because you don’t want to see them. The yellow lights
are hard because you want to know more right now but God is saying to be patient so you
can gather more information. The green lights are difficult to see because we often question
ourselves and doubt God’s goodness. But when God is giving you a green light, he will
make it clear. He’s some examples of how: The relationship will be biblical. This doesn’t
just mean that the relationship is simply not unbiblical. In other words, this relationship
won’t just be biblically acceptable. This relationship will be a positive force in your
life that is helping you and this person actively obey the Bible. You will know you are equally
yoked and being together will be you obeying verses like 2 Timothy 2:22, “So flee youthful
passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call
on the Lord from a pure heart.” When you pray about this person, you will
not only feel peace with God but you will actually feel closer to this person too (Philippians
2:1-5). The Spirit will be the source of your connection and not the source of your contention
(1 John 4:4-6). When you are with this person, it will not make you feel distant from God.
The Spirit will give you a peace that surpasses understanding. You will know it’s right
even if you can’t fully articulate why. When you two are together, you will enjoy
the relationship more than your previous imaginations about the relationship (Ephesians 3:20-21).
The reality will actually exceed the hopes you had. Communication won’t be a huge struggle.
Conflicts will still happen but not all the time. And when they do occur, you two will
resolve them in a mature way that strengthens your bond rather than damaging it through
selfishness and stubbornness (Ephesians 4:29-32). In summary, when God is giving you a green
light, the word, the Spirit, and the circumstances in your life will be pointing you forward.
You both will want to be together and you both will feel God wants you together too.
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