Hello.
Let's talk about happiness for a second.
I don't know why I decided to dress like Mr. Rogers for this video
but there you go.
I think that everyone deserves to be happy
and because of that I am going to tell you some of the secrets
to finding and harnessing at that happiness.
By the way, these secrets,
they didn't come to me from, you know, like hiking to Mount Everest
or sleeping in the forest for four months.
This is something that has come from my own everyday life experience.
And if you want to know what really makes me happy,
it's you giving this video a thumbs up.
No. I am totally kidding it,
that is not the secret to my happiness
although it can't hurt, so.
Now, just to set things up,
I don't believe that happiness is something that you can just
go and find and then have forever
like as if it's some kind of sweater that you find at a thrift shop
or anything like that.
I feel that happiness is a continuous state of mind
regardless of specific instances
that might make you feel frustrated or upset at any given moment in your life.
So, just as an example,
even if something isn't going my way some day,
like for example, now, when I decided to film this video,
it started raining and thundering and there was lightning
and that is very inconvenient for me as a filmmaker
but overall I'm still happy,
I still have happiness
even though that made me really frustrated
and I just wanted to cry and throw something out the window.
But really, overall I consider myself to be a happy person
regardless of the things that have happened in my life
that are less than convenient.
So, the first thing that I would say, right off the bat is,
don't expect gratitude from anyone.
When you're doing someone a favor or if you're helping somebody out,
don't expect anything from them.
It's when you expect something and they don't do anything in return,
that you become bitter and resentful towards other people.
Sometimes people hold a grudge
or they become self-entitled
because they feel like they should have gotten something in return
for doing something nice for somebody else.
Although I do think that if somebody does something nice for you
then it's the obvious thing that you should do is do something nice to them
or at least be grateful and thankful
that that person has done something nice for you.
But the reality is that we're all on our own paths
and we have our own journeys to fulfill.
Sometimes, you know, you might forget to say thank you,
maybe you didn't even think about it being such a huge deal
because they were your brother or your cousin
and you thought, Well, whatever they're family,
that's like their job, right? To be nice to me.
So, why do I need to thank them every time?
When you don't receive gratitude
or you don't receive that expected response from someone,
you start to build up this resentment.
And to be honest, the only person
who becomes upset about that stuff is you.
So, the next time
that you do something for someone else,
really try your best to expect nothing, nothing, at all, from that other person.
So that if you do receive something,
you just feel gratefulness and you feel happiness
because of the fact that they actually did something
when you weren't expecting anything at all.
Next, and this is one that I follow to the T.
And that is to create broad goals
and specific goals for your life.
Not somebody else's, yours.
Think about what your everyday life looks like
and what your purpose is,
what is your mission in life,
and that's something that I can go into in a whole other video
if you guys want me to.
I have a very clearly defined mission and purpose for my own life
and all of my goals come from that.
Having goals will make it
so that you focus on accomplishing those goals in your life
and you're not worried about what other people are doing in their life.
And really focusing on yourself,
this kind of attitude will manifest happiness
regardless of what other people are accomplishing or not accomplishing
because you won't be as affected by those things,
it doesn't matter to you because you have your own goals
and you're focusing on your goals,
and that person has obviously set up their own goals
and are succeeding at them
because they are focused on their goals.
So, you have to be like that and just focus on your own goals.
This way you don't become unhappy
when you aren't accomplishing the same things
that other people are accomplishing.
And that rolls us in to the next thing which is,
if something isn't working out for you,
don't let that make you bitter.
Relationships or work or anything else in everyday life.
Now, don't be confused with frustration.
Frustration is human and it is expected,
we are not robots yet.
Because of this we get frustrated,
for example, earlier I was getting frustrated
because of the rain.
Guess what? It rains, it shines, it hells, it snows,
things happen when weather is involved
that you might not expect
and that is completely inconvenient
when you're trying to film a video.
I am not going to let that turn me into a bitter person
and affect me for the rest of my life.
Obviously this is not something that is really a big deal,
I mean, it's just rain but it is a tangible example,
and one that hopefully you guys can relate to
now that you're watching this video.
Bitter is negative.
Being bitter will send you down the wrong path.
Instead of thinking, why does this always happen to me?
It's more of a what am I gonna do to fix this problem?
Learn to be in the present,
maybe practicing meditation is something that will help you in this journey.
Another thing is breathing.
Yeah, guess what? I sometimes forget to breathe.
And taking in a really deep breath,
you can really focus on being here,
being in the moment and being present.
After you take a deep breath think about how you are feeling,
think about the breath going in and out of your body.
Focus on your feet, on the bottoms of your feet
and how they feel on the ground right now.
Focus on your eyebrows
and the fact that they are present on your face,
what does that feel like?
Think about how you are reacting
to things that are happening to you in the present moment.
If you're in a car and you are angry about
the person who just ran a red light,
think about how your body is reacting to that,
how your breath has changed,
how your eyebrows feel different now.
When you are in the present and you learn to be in the present,
you're able to recognize
how much your body really changes
depending on the emotions that you are feeling.
When you learn to live in the present moment
then the anxieties of the past and the present,
they won't cloud your inner peace
bringing you unhappiness.
Did you see how deep I just got?
Like it just got real heavy guys.
By the way, talking about the past,
do you guys remember earlier in the video
when I was talking about giving this video a thumbs up.
Well, if you're still here and you're still watching
and enjoying this video, then please give it a thumbs up
and subscribe to get more videos from me
so that you can see this face.
But don't stop watching the video just yet
because I have one more thing that I want to say about happiness.
Social media can be a really great thing
when it's used the right way.
But social media can also make us extremely unhappy.
If you find yourself scrolling through your feed
and feeling sadness, jealousy, hopelessness,
I suggest that you go through your list of people that you follow
and start looking for the accounts
that are making you feel this way
and unfollow them.
I've followed accounts that were meant to inspire and motivate me
and keep me going, keep me hustling and grinding
and they were doing that at the start
but eventually as I kept following these accounts
and seeing more of their posts in my feed,
I progressively saw myself feeling more hopeless
and seeing that I wasn't in the place where I wanted to be,
because of this I unfollowed those accounts.
So, if this change happens to you too,
then please unfollow those accounts.
Competing with others and wishing that you were living someone else's life
is not going to help you in your search for happiness.
To bring this back to the beginning of the video,
it's really important to focus on what's going on in here
and in here.
I am curious to know what do you do to find happiness.
If you can leave me a comment down below,
letting me know what makes you happy
and what brings you happiness,
what do you think about some of the things
that I mentioned in this video,
which I hope that you genuinely enjoyed and got something out of it.
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then again don't forget to subscribe.
But for now I'm gonna go.
So, I will see you when I see you, bye!
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