What's going on? Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice dot com. Here to talk to you about the
idea of dates. This video is a little specific to maybe some of the guys out there who are in the
friend-zone or guys who have trouble with getting in the friend-zone. Because I do believe that a
lot of guys, they do understand what it takes to ask a girl out and go on a date and know if
she's interested to go on a date. It's actually very simple. I'll give you the 3 step process
in just a second here. What I feel a lot of guys do is they trick women. And this
is kinda like my PSA to those guys. They go on what I call "trick dates".
Boy, biggest pet peeve ever. I hate trick dates. You know who else hates trick dates?
Women. And I want you to hate trick dates too. A trick date is you're hanging out with the girl and
you are trying to get her interested in you so you ask her to hang out but she doesn't really know
it's a date. She thinks it's just you guys hanging out. Maybe it's something for business purposes,
maybe it's something for friendship purposes. It's just very unclear. You know what happens
on these trick dates? What ends up happening is these women don't end up liking you because
they're not thinking it's a date. I want this video to help those guys. And of course, the
rest of you as well. What are the 3 signs that she wants to go on a date with you? It's very simple.
I know it's gonna sound like common sense. I don't think a lot of guys use this common sense,
mainly because they're afraid of rejection. Number 1. In this 3 step process, the first sign is
if you are approaching her or you're talking to her and she's responsive to you. By the way,
key word in this video. The theme of this video is responsiveness. She's responsive to your approach.
This could be online dating as well. I'm talking more about in person because online dating like,
of course, if she's responsive she wants to go on a date. You should know that. But a lot of guys,
they just talk and talk talk and text and text and don't get to the point of asking her out
on an actual date. Either way, she's responsive to your approach. Meaning she's giving you eye
contact, she's talking to you, she's responding to you. This is if you meet a girl at a party or
if you're out and about and do a cold approach. She's responding to she's talking to you. This
is the first step that she's interested. If it's online, of course she matches with you,
she's responsive to you there. She's got this initial responsiveness to your approach. Next is
you're going to move it to text. 9 times out of 10 you're going to move it to text. Maybe
in those small cases like one time at a 10 maybe you guys go on an instant date. That's possible
to pick up the girl and say hey, let's go grab a bite to eat. Let's go grab some coffee, whatever
more rare. I'm not going to talk about that as much. Here this is you're going to ask her out on
a date. Normally you get her phone number and then you end up texting her whether it's from online,
whether it's in person. You have her phone number and now you're going to ask her out.
What's the sign here? She's responsive to you. Again, key word theme responsiveness.
She's responding to you. She's responding to your text message. Great, great sign. Again, I know
this sounds a common sense. It's gonna be really important as we go along with this structure here.
And of course 3, which shouldn't be too mind blowing is you ask her out on a date. You have to
ask her out. This is it. These are the signs right here. This is very familiar to a video I put out
recently called the signs that she wants to have sex with you. And it's kind of the same idea. Is
she responsive to your advances? A lot of guys will of course, try to avoid rejection by looking
for signs because they don't want to get rejected. They want these magical signs that zap them in the
head that say okay yeah, she definitely likes me so now I can ask her out without getting rejected.
Here's the thing. Sometimes you're never gonna know if she's gonna want to go on a date with you
unless you do this 3 step process. Unless you're going to try to get responses from her from the
initial approach, from the text message and then finally asking her out or we can just skip all the
steps which are just 1 and 2 and just go to number 3. How do you know she wants to go on a date with
you? You got to ask her. Which brings me back to the initial thing that I said in this video.
No "trick dates". Don't try to hang out with a girl and do this thing where you if you spend
enough time with her or if you're thinking okay, if I spend enough time with her, she'll like me.
That rarely works. Yes, I've said in past videos and my Hooked program and even in the Magnetic
book. I've said here that women take a little bit of time to become attracted. They don't know
necessarily right away. But you can't take forever she knows eventually. So if you do an approach,
let's say you talk to a girl and you're sparking up a conversation. She's gonna know in the first
10, 15, 20 minutes that you're talking to her that she is interested. If you want to seal that deal,
you got to ask her out. Here's one thing I've been talking a lot about on my podcast, by the way is
this idea of avoiding rejection and everything rejection. The thing is this, this game,
this dating game, this whole skill of being able to meet and attract women,
you're inevitably going to get rejected. There's all these cliches out there. The
cliches of Michael Jordan; he said he's missed more shots than he's ever taken.
Of course, he's still the best basketball player in the entire world. All time goat. You
have to look at this in the same way. You cannot play this game. You cannot do this without getting
rejected. Don't try to keep a perfect score. Lots of guys try to do that. They try to keep
this perfect score and not get rejected. Like yeah, avoid it at all costs. Just go through
it. If you need to change the term, change the term. Forget the term rejection. It just didn't
work out. It wasn't a match. It's not going to go anywhere, that's fine. Inevitably no matter what,
it's never going to be able to work with every woman. It's just not possible. Rejection is part
of the game. Ask for the date, go for the date, ask her out, let her know that it's a date if
you absolutely have to. Hopefully she does anyways because you'll be flirting with her.
By the way, I should say as I mention in my book, if you want to have an amazing
first date. And I said I mention in my book, I'll leave a link down below. You can get it on Amazon.
How to have a great first date is the same thing as everything you're doing when you approach a
girl. I talked about tension, entertainment and dominance in here and in my Hooked program and
that's the way of building attraction. Nothing changes. You're still going to be flirting with
her tension. Entertainment, you're gonna be entertaining yourself. And dominance leading
the interaction forward. I talk about it in in chapter seven here. Check it out. I'll leave
a link down below on Amazon you can go get that. Again, the idea here is responsiveness.
Is she responsive to you? If she is, great. She's interested, ask her out on a date. Go
for the rejection, so to speak and make it happen. Hope that helps. I'll see you on the next video.