- Hey, what's up?
It's me, Jessica J.
I was just wondering if you've ever sat
and thought to yourself
"Jessica, what are those dirty things
"women won't admit to?"
Well if so I'm glad you asked
'cause today that's what I'm gonna go over
considering that the new trend
of the videos that y'all like
are the really dirty, nasty things,
which is fine, I'm into it,
I'll tell you.
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Okay, so there's seven of these,
I'm gonna get right to it once again,
but no more me being too corny to film this time.
The first one is you're not fucking her right,
or the way that she wants.
I can't tell you how many women
are extremely unsatisfied in bed,
and just won't fucking tell their men.
In fact, I have more women coming to me
about how do I get him to get me to stop faking it
instead of how do I better express
how to get my needs met?
Women, you know what, I had this conversation with a dude.
Women are so much more manipulative that way,
and it does come from this place
of women feeling like we can't speak up.
And all of these, not for nothing,
they're pretty fucking bad,
but it's because we women,
we just really don't wanna hurt your feelings.
I was just watching a murder documentary
about a women who hurt a man's ego
'cause she rejected him sexually,
and then he chopped her fucking head off.
There's something that happens with us women
where at a primal level we're very aware
that heightened testosterone,
while usually accompanied with arousal,
can also turn into increased violence.
So yeah we kind of just know
not to tell you that you're not fucking us right.
Which then brings me to number two,
which I already alluded to,
which is that she's faking it.
She's been fucking faking it.
Now I never understood this,
'cause I've never faked it,
but if it weren't for all my friends who do it
and all the movies and TV shows
about women faking orgasms
I wouldn't know that it happened.
But apparently only 60% of women
can actually have orgasms with a partner,
which I totally understand,
going back to number one,
women just aren't speaking up
when they're not getting it right.
And, again, we don't wanna upset you
when you're super high testosterone.
Everybody knows the term roid rage,
I think it is,
where that increase in testosterone
will lead to violence and aggression
so women would rather fake it
than hurt your feelings.
Number three is she wished she was fucking somebody else.
I remember I was seeing this dude one time,
and he had, bless him, the littlest penis ever.
And mind you I'm Asian and small,
and he used to say "Oh my God, you made me feel so big."
And I was like "Oh my God, you make my pussy feel so big."
I just could not,
I remember the last time he and I ever had sex,
and I had to think about my ex boyfriend before him
in order to get off.
And I just, it wasn't happening for me,
and he kept asking "Are you gonna cum?
"Are you gonna cum?
"Are you gonna?"
And I was like "Not with this tampon of a titi in me."
Titi means penis in Tagalog.
I'm Filipino.
But, yeah, I'm telling you
every woman has that one guy in her life
that has made her body ignite
and explode in ways that she just can't forget.
And if you aren't having that effect on her,
she still wishes she was fucking the guy that does
have that effect on her.
Which then brings me to number four,
which is sometimes she'll need
to think of something else in order to get her off
because you're not doing it.
I did this a lot in college.
If I was sleeping with dudes
who just didn't know what they were doing
I got naked.
I'm gonna have an orgasm.
I don't care if you're gonna give it to me,
or if I'm gonna give it to myself with my thoughts.
So, yeah, I would have to think of other dudes,
or other things.
I'd think of sexy porno scenarios.
Or back in my day Jenna Jameson had some
pretty saucy scenes that I was very like
ooh shit, yeah.
So, again, this goes back to
you not meeting her needs,
and her not feeling comfortable enough
to speak up about them.
The fifth one is a little interesting,
and that's she's using you for it too.
One of my favorite Chris Stepleton songs is,
I think it's called "Nobody's Lonely Tonight,"
"Nobody's Lonesome Tonight."
It's about this guy who is just in anguish
over this girl he's going through a breakup with,
with whom he's going through a breakup,
and he meets another girl at a bar,
who's also going through a breakup,
and the mutual using of each other
in order to get their needs met
despite wanting their needs met by other people.
And I'll tell you right now,
we women, we want to feel desired.
We want to feel wanted.
And if we're not getting that
from the person we want it from,
but you're here,
fine, fuck it, we'll do it
'cause maybe you're her only option,
and she can't afford therapy,
and just really is losing the game
on learning how to love herself.
So, yeah, here you are, we use you too.
Number six, I alluded to this already,
which is she wishes you were bigger,
or smaller.
For anybody who tells you size doesn't matter,
it matters in the way that you guys don't think about.
For men it's like bigger is better,
I want my dick to be the size of my cat.
But really we women want the size
that fits us most,
whatever size that may be.
And sometimes your D isn't doing it
in the way we need it to.
Again, it's like what was her name, Goldilocks?
This one's just right.
We want one that's just right,
and sometimes yours is just wrong.
Number seven is your performance
or lack thereof is a problem.
You've probably heard women say this to you
if you couldn't get it up,
if you came too fast,
you didn't make her cum.
Her saying something like it's okay, no seriously.
It's okay, my God, don't be embarrassed.
I get it, it happens.
Fucking lying ass bitch.
I'll tell you right now we get really butt hurt
over that shit.
You bet your ass she's going into the fucking bathroom
group texting all her friends
about this whack ass with his whack wanker,
won't fuck me right.
Yeah, we really take that shit to heart, dude, I'm sorry.
But here's the thing, when you get a woman
so fucking turned on,
and so into you none of this shit matters.
Not even that, the passion
and the chemistry alone will be enough
to propel that woman to cum her fucking brains out.
Some of the most intense sexual experiences
have been with guys that I had
such strong emotional connections with,
such intense chemistry with.
And I'm pretty sure all we ever did was missionary,
but that was like the hottest fucking missionary
of all time.
In fact, one of the dudes
that I was most passionate with in my life,
I'm pretty sure he was no bigger than four inches,
and he was really overweight,
and he was so broke, God help me.
On paper I'm fucking embarrassed.
But at that time we had so,
my God, we had so much emotions invested
into our very short courtship.
However, it was a great time.
I didn't complain, came every time
with that teeny, tiny pecker of his.
So, again, when you get a woman so aroused,
and that's what speak to spark arousal is all about,
that's what the override effect,
which I go over in this video here,
or my former assistant Clayton goes over
in this video right here,
is how to get her emotions so overwhelmingly heightened
that it trumps every single other thing
like performance, the size of your dick,
knowing what to do with her body,
it just comes naturally because us women,
our biggest erogenous zone is our fucking brain.
And I'm telling you if you can do it for her in here first,
that's more than half the battle.
So find exactly how to utilize
the override effect right here
which is the tenant
and main principle to my Speak to Spark Arousal program.
Don't even bother confronting these chicks
about these seven things.
What can you do?
Really nothing you could do about it
but get her so fucking hot
and into you that she makes herself cum in here
from the passion in here.
You don't have to change anything about yourself
or your size.
Thanks for watching, as always,
and I'll see you guys next time.
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