Are you trying to approach women but you're just too scared? Or maybe you've been doing it for a
while and it's just not getting you anywhere. Here's 7 tips that are going to help you right
away. Number one for the newbies you need to be approaching fast. I want you to think of
the 3 Second Rule. This was coined by Mystery old pickup artist, one of his best pieces of advice.
When you see a woman you want to go up to her and talk to her as fast as possible. If you're
waiting too long then your brain is going to make up excuses why you shouldn't go and approach. We
want to trick our brain so we're faster than the way that it thinks by the time we go up to
a woman it's been 3 seconds we're already talking to her and we're not allowing ourselves to stop.
It's something that needs practice so you need to be practicing the 3 Second Rule. Maybe you won't
get it right away but when you're going out and talking to women you're gonna be trying to get it
down to 3 seconds. She might be further away than 3 seconds but I think the idea is you just want
to start going over there as fast as possible. Whether she's in a bar in a club on the street,
wherever you see her, you see her go over 3 seconds and you use your opening line.
Which brings me nicely to number two. Don't overthink the opener. There are really simple
openers that you can use just like this one. Hey, excuse me hi two seconds. I wanted to say hi.
You don't need anything fancier than that. I'm not saying that you only have to use that as
an opener. I'm just saying that you can really use whatever you want and if you can't think of
something to open up the conversation with then you can just use something simple as hi. Going up
to them and saying I just wanted to come and meet you. Asking them where they're from and starting
conversation. The problem is most guys have really bad approach anxiety. If they think too long and
too hard about okay what should I say, well guess what happens, now we're over 3 seconds and you're
gonna make excuses up of why you shouldn't go over there and just start a conversation. Number three,
approach often. There's a famous saying with a lot of things called if you don't use it you
lose it and this is the exact same thing with approaching. For example, you could be going
out approaching talking to women multiple times per week and then eventually you're going to find
yourself in a relationship or a situationship and then you're not going to be approaching
for a while. Let's say that situationship or relationship ends and you go back out there,
you start to feel that same anxiety that you once did when you started. You feel a little
rusty. Any skill you're going to feel rusty if you don't do it for a while. The key is not to avoid
situationships or relationships but making sure that you're doing this often to build the habit.
If you're only going out and talking to women once per week or only talking to one woman per week,
it's not going to be the same as going out and talking to 10 women a week. Or for example, doing
an approach every single day for a month. Putting that time in is going to make you better. And I
want you to avoid this idea of trying to save it. Like oh I don't want to go out to this bar
or this club or wherever because I don't want to approach girls yet because I don't know how to do
it yet and so I want to save it for the time when I'm better so I don't waste it on these women who
I'm attracted to. Don't think that way, think in abundance. There are plenty of women to talk to,
you're never going to lose a shot. Number four, one of the more important ones - calibrate after
the fact. One of the coaches Julian from RSD used to talk about this and it was huge really
a game changer for not just approaching but most things in life. Don't assume what's going on in
an interaction. Don't try to calibrate before, okay, she's with these people she's with one guy
and three girls or she looks kind of happy or sad and I gotta change my approach to go over
there before I do it so I don't get rejected and make it perfect. Don't worry about that calibrate
after. Just go over, use the 3 second rule, start talking to the girl that you're interested in. And
then you can work on whatever you need to in that moment. We can never assume exactly what's going
on, we can never assume who's her boyfriend, who's not, who she's friends with - calibrate
after. We keep getting into really great ones here. Number five, it's not about what you say,
it's how you say it. When you're talking to a woman when you're in an approach it's not so
much you have to say the most interesting things in the world. Sometimes you're going to be in
a conversation where some of the things you say are kind of boring and lame, like what do you do,
where are you from? Other things might be more interesting, you might tell a story. It's
always going to be a mixture of different types of content for example. But it's all about your vibe,
it's about your attitude, it's how comfortable you are in an approach when you're talking to a woman.
She's paying more attention to that than she is every single word that you're saying. It doesn't
need to be mind-blowingly interesting, you just have to have a cool vibe and be more comfortable
when talking to women. If you go over and you say the most interesting things in the world but
you're not giving her good eye contact and your voice is sounding really nervous like this and you
just kind of feel freaked out, it doesn't matter what you say, that attitude that vibe that body
language the energy that you're giving off will probably ruin it. Next let's talk about groups,
I get this question all the time. What if she's in a group? The best advice I have for you in most
cases is when she's in a group you go over to the one that you want to talk to. Don't necessarily
approach the whole group, you can, like I do here. Do you want me to take a photo of you girls. I'm
single because you're dating her cousin. Single single single okay so then I should grab your
number and we should hang out sometime. We have to go, I'll give you my phone number but we have to
go. But the best way to really do it is go up to the one that you're interested in. So if there's
a girl who's walking with another girl, if there's a girl and a group of girls, just go over and talk
to the one that you like and then what do we do? Tying everything together, calibrate after the
fact, bring in the other people into the group as need be in the conversation. Sometimes you might
be at a bar and a girl might be kind of hanging out she's talking to her friends but there's like
five friends there and you go up you start talking to her and they kind of ignore because they want
her to be talking to you. They actually want their friend to be succeeding so they're not talking as
much. But if one enters the conversation great you'll start talking to them a little bit. But
instead of trying to control the whole group just talk to the one that you're interested in. Next
ask her for her number even if you're not sure if she's interested in you. A lot of guys will
forget to ask for the number, they'll forget to get contact information, they'll forget to even
ask her on an insta date and keep hanging out because they're not sure they haven't had the
signs yet. Don't worry about the signs. She might give him to you, she might not give you the signs
that she's interested. Sometimes women are very shy and they can come off very cold but they
actually like you. How will you know for sure? It's when you ask her out and you actually try
to get her number. And once you get her number you want to ensure that she likes you. It can
be a delicate balance between how much do you text her, how much do you pay attention to her,
how much interest you show versus not. Well you can check out a video here on the screen where I
actually teach you how to ignore a girl properly and step by step what to do so she continues to
like you and you're not being too needy. Or if you want the secret of how I've been able to
get my coaching clients 10x more dates through approaching then go to TrippAdviceCoaching.com
watch that short video there and you can learn more about how we can get you to mastery level.