Tripp here from Tripp Advice.com.
Confidence.
I know you’ve heard about confidence before.
You’re probably even trying to figure out ways to be more confident.
You probably already know that women want you to be confident.
They want a confident guy.
Why?
Why is it so important?
And how do you actually achieve confidence?
It’s kind of tough right?
It’s like where does it even come from?
On today’s video I’m going to be sharing with you what confidence is all about and
more importantly a really powerful technique that you can use to become instantly more
confident.
I know it sounds magical.
It even sounds like bullshit.
But I promise you, I’m going to be teaching you this really cool technique that you can
use right after this video.
Check it out right here.
You must know where does confidence come from.
Confidence comes from competence.
Competence is the ability to do something.
That’s where real, raw confidence comes from.
For example, let’s just say you’ve never surfed in your life and maybe you haven’t
so this will be a good example.
You’ve never surfed in your life and I give you surfboard and say “Hey, go catch some
waves.”
How confident are you going to feel?
Probably not too confident.
Why?
Because you’ve never done it before.
You don’t feel competent in it.
It’s not something that you’re able to do because it’s your very first time.
Just like when you were a little baby you probably didn’t feel confident when you
were trying to walk for the first time.
It was probably very scary for you.
Now, you don’t even think twice about walking.
You’re confident doing it because you’ve done it for years of your life.
That’s where confidence comes from.
It comes from being comfortable and being able to do something that you’ve done before.
Of course you don’t feel comfortable right now because you’ve probably never talked
to that many women.
You might have never talked to any girl at all other than your Mom and your sister.
So at this point you’re freaked out to do it.
That makes sense.
The confidence is going to slowly come and build through all these experiences that you’re
going to be having through all these approaches you’re going to be doing.
I have some even better news.
I have an exercise for you.
That’s right.
Today’s exercise which is a cool technique that comes from “The Charisma Myth”.
Specifically chapter 5.
It talks about using visualization techniques to help you become more comfortable and more
confident for something that you were scared or anxious to do.
She gives examples on how to become more comfortable with public speaking.
A lot of people who use visualization techniques are actors, are people who are athletes.
This is going to be really cool for you to use and I’m going to teach you how to do
it right now.
It’s very simple.
What I want you to do is find a couch just like this or a bed or a chair.
Somewhere very comfortable.
And just relax.
And breath.
A few big deep breaths.
And then close your eyes.
What you’re going to be doing is a visualization.
What you’re going to visualize is you going up to a beautiful girl or maybe one that you
already know.
And going up and talking to her and you’re going to visualize each step of the way being
successful.
Comfortably going up there.
Opening up conversation.
Having her laugh at some of the things that you’re saying.
Having her touch you because she’s enjoying the conversation.
You going for her number and her giving it to you.
You taking her on a date later that night or maybe in that instant going and getting
some coffee.
You can either visualize that.
You can visualize going up to a few girls at a bar and starting conversation and having
a great conversation and smiling at you.
And them being attracted to you and then you taking one of them home that night or meeting
them the next day.
The important of this visualization technique is that you’re visualizing you being successful.
And it’s not just important for you to see it in your head.
I want you to take yourself through it as detailed as possible.
I want you to smell the smells.
I want you to hear the sounds.
I want you to be able to feel what it feels like to be walking up to a girl and talking
to her and then everything you’re seeing in front of you.
That’s what you need to do for this visualization technique.
You need to bring in all of your sense.
Get as detailed as possible.
Do it with your eyes closed and visualize everything going right.
This has been a proven technique.
Like I said, actors, athletes, the greatest speakers in the world have used to become
more confident doing whatever it is they want to succeed at.
That’s going to help you tremendously before you do some of your approaches.
You can use it anytime you want.
You can use it even beyond meeting girls.
Use visualization techniques for anything you want to feel confident in and comfortable
doing.
Here’s another way to reduce anxiety.
If you have anxiety going up to a girl and approaching her and saying hello, well one
thing you can do is visualize, we talked about visualization here, visualize before you do
that, you hugging somebody.
That’s right.
Hugging somebody.
You’re going to close your eyes and visualize a hug.
Whether it’s going to be hugging a sibling, a parent, maybe hugging that girl, hugging
a girl that you love.
Hugging anyone and you really putting your fall into, again feeling and hearing and smelling
everything that’s going on with that hug.
Making it as real as possible.
What this is going to do is release oxytocin in your brain.
Oxytocin will fight the fight or flight response.
The reason why you have anxiety before you go up to a girl is because your body is starting
that fight or flight response.
It’s going to tell you that you shouldn’t be doing this.
Should you go, should you not go?
Oxytocin is going to reduce that.
This is another cool technique that you can use to feel more comfortable before you do
an approach.
I hope that helps you and I hope you learned something here.
What I want you to do right now is press pause on this video.
In just a second.
And do the technique.
Do it right now.
It’ll take you about 3 minutes.
5 at the most.
If you have 5 minutes right now, go ahead and do the technique.
Then I want you to comment below and report how it worked for you.
How did it feel?
What was it like?
What were something that you were visualizing and what did you feel afterwards?
I want to hear from you.
Go ahead comment below.
And I promise you that if you comment below, it is going to help not only you, but the
other people who are watching this video.
Let’s share this with each other.
Go ahead comment below.
Like the video if it is something that helped you and I’ll see you on the next video.