- Don't believe his words, believe his actions.
Actions are a reflection
of intentions and beliefs,
and it shows, are you a priority or not?
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Hello, my name is Greta Bereisaite.
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So, without further ado, let's continue.
I like doing this. (chuckles)
Anyway, so what is a benchwarmer?
I hardly need to explain it,
but just to clarify, I will.
A benchwarmer is a woman or a man who is dating someone
who is keeping them around as an option.
They don't really like this person enough to give them
a long-standing, meaningful relationship,
but they give them just enough attention so this person
thinks they are on the verge of a relationship.
Sometimes this gets a little bit more complex
with what I like to call advanced game.
Sometimes the benchwarmer is actually given a relationship
when the person they are dating settles.
For them, however, the person who has settled
will never be 100% happy
or satisfied with their relationship.
And it is because they didn't see you
as the number one in the first place.
In both scenarios,
the common thread is that the person you are dating
thinks they can do better than you,
but they keep you around by giving you just enough
so you won't leave them high and dry with no option.
Because as we say, one in the hand
is better than two in the bushes.
Bushes. Bushes. (laughs)
So how can you tell if you are a benchwarmer?
Well, a lot of times when I coach women,
I realize that they are so infatuated or in love with a man
that they disregard whether the man
actually feels the same way about them.
They ignore major red flags,
a laziness and inconsistent behavior,
broken promises in general, not good enough treatment.
What they don't realize is that people
treat you the way they feel about you.
If a man tells you that he loves you,
but when it comes around to meeting up,
he cancels or even forgets that there even was a date,
don't believe his words, believe his actions.
Actions are a reflection
of intentions and beliefs,
and it shows, are you a priority or not?
Men know that women love words.
That's why a lot of women will value a few text messages,
phone calls, and I-love-yous
over actual, solid plans,
where he is showing up and sweeping you off your feet.
Ladies, talk is cheap.
Remember that and you will not be disappointed.
So how do you know, does he like you or not really?
Well, have an honest discussion with yourself,
and if you have to even ask this question,
then the answer is probably not so much.
Now, if you are a benchwarmer,
the next question to ask yourself,
why he sees you only as a benchwarmer
and not a relationship material.
And for this, I have an incredible video of it just called,
"Are You a Woman of High Value or Low Value?"
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and how did it feel, what did you do about it?
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