Hi everyone, Agnes here. Now I wanted to talk about the honeymoon phase because I
am corresponding with quite a few of you that have been getting to the end of your honeymoon
phase in a particular relationship and it seems to be more of a struggle. Now when you first
meet someone - wonderful chemistry, wonderful connection, you think oh my goodness this is the
best relationship I've ever had. And you get into this amazing place - and thank goodness because
that makes it really great and it makes you really feel that you are in the right thing for you. Now
what tends to happen is once you get past the 3 month mark, it might be the 6 month mark, it
might even last a year - honeymoon phases can last I've seen all the way from 2 weeks up to a year,
in my experience. Now why does it end? Because your stuff comes up. What do I mean by your
stuff? Your emotional stuff, your childhood stuff, your teenagers stuff, the stuff that's unresolved.
So that person seems to be a perfect fit to your stuff, it's almost like the greater the
connection and the chemistry the more the dovetailing is where they know how to hit
you right in those raw pink nerves okay. So it is though a wonderful opportunity
for you to really work on these things and to release them and let them go okay. It's like
I hear the expression oh this is my twin flame or this is my soulmate, now I think the twin
flame and the soulmate is a little bit different to what we think - it's not this beautiful clouds
and rainbows and you're staring into each other's eyes and it's all amazing. It's the soul mate as
in it's where your soul can evolve, your soul can mature, your soul can cleanse itself of all that
stuff you collected from zero to say 18 years old. So if you find your your person that you are with
was a wonderful honeymoon experience and now after x amount of time - let me know down below how long
your honeymoon phase lasted for and then what happened. Did the wheels start falling off? Did
it end up in a breakup? Or did it end up where you started to correct and say okay hang on,
if this is in front of me what have I got going on within me that I need to work on? Because I
think that's a really good question. It's a great way for you to clear some old baggage,
it's a way of spiritually maturing, it's a way of maturing more into an adult instead of being
like a child-parent dynamic with the person you're with. Often what happens is one person
takes the parent role and one person takes the child role. So ask yourself am I in one of those
roles child or parent and am I doing anything about it? It's not that your person isn't going
to hit your stuff - and someone to check out with this is Gary Zukav, put Gary Zukav - I'll put his
couple of links down below if you want to check him out, but he talks about this in
relationships and some of you may already know who he is. Oprah did a lot of stuff with him,
his conversations were excellent with her and he would bring his partner in as well. So check
him out and remember just because the honeymoon phases over doesn't mean you can't have a more
quiet love and it can be still passionate, it can be still fun, it can be still wonderful, but it
changes shape, it changes shape okay. Because you know each other, because you can have a shower in
front of each other, because you can go to the bathroom and leave the door open - whatever it
is. You start to see each other as two people, not just you're showing them your perfect side
you see. So the relationship becomes more real and it becomes deeper, and it can become in a way
more connected than the honeymoon phase, because the honeymoon phase is often a lot of chemistry
and connection and oh my goodness this is amazing and I want to find out everything about
you. Whereas once you know a lot about somebody you can really love and appreciate who they are
but you can also really use the relationship to clean up a lot of your stuff and also let go of
any, let's say childlike expectations you might have about what a relationship should be okay.
As in, how often should someone call you, how often should someone see you,
how often should you get x-y-z a birthday present, flowers, um a tool kit from your girlfriend,
whatever it is that you think you deserve. Looking at how are my expectations here and do I tip into
um let's say not expecting anything at one end and being grateful for what's given or expecting a lot
and being maybe tipping over a little bit into entitlement, because they're both extremes so the
sweet spot I think is in the middle. Especially in my relationship, it's seeing what the other person
needs, what they want and then meeting some of their needs when you can and they do the same for
you. But it's not this ah you owe me or you know you haven't done this for ages or whatever, people
are human and they can only give what they can give and they have other responsibilities - jobs,
elderly parents, animals, looking after their own self-care and self-love through exercise,
being with friends, going to hobbies and keeping those sorts of things going. So then that is fresh
energy that goes into the relationship, so if you want to have still a good relationship that
changes out of the honeymoon phase but can still be amazingly good, connected,
meaningful on physical, mental, emotional, spiritual levels - keep your stuff going.
Your self-love stuff - what you did for you when you were single okay. Yes you do stuff together
but you need to have you, you're not just part of a relationship you're a person that was a
person before you had a relationship, so look at him I still maintaining my own self. Okay,
so thank you to the person that I had an email coaching with today that brought this up and I
said I was going to do a YouTube on this which I was going to do it today anyway. I'm not going to
say your name because our email coaching is private but you will know that it's for you
and if you want to share your name down below and you want to write who you are and that you asked
about this, feel free but it won't come from me because I have your confidentiality um in the
forefront of my mind. So lots of love everyone and as always I'll see you in the next YouTube.