"My husband won't let me go out with my
friends."
My name is Paul Friedman, I founded The
Marriage Foundation
and let's talk about this. This
video really
isn't for women who married absolute
control freaks and they knew this was
going to be a problem before they got
married and now
they've been married a while and they're
going, "Hey, I want to have some freedom."
You knew what you were getting into and
maybe the advice that I'm going to give
is relevant to you.
I'm not sure but this is for
women who are finding that their
husbands are becoming
more and more controlling in this area,
and you're feeling abused
you might say. Because after all your
free will
is God-given.
No one gets to impose upon your free
will.
Now it might be your free will to want
to have a dominant husband
and that's fine but that's not why
you're looking up
information about this. So
there's a direct correlation, let's begin
right with the solution you might say.
There's a direct correlation between
how secure a man feels
about how much his wife loves him.
That's on one side and the other side
is his openness
to her doing things without him.
Let me kind of repeat that. The man who
feels
totally loved catered to
accepted, supported,
loved. The man who feels totally
loved isn't worried about
his wife going out with her friends.
He's happy for her. He wants her
to be happy the way she's making
him happy. There's a direct correlation
and you don't have to do a study on this.
This
is common sense.
When a man is not feeling loved because
a man gets married
to be happier.
Are you making your husband happy?
Are you going out of your way all the
time
to make your husband happy? In today's
world, people go, "Oh my God! What are you, a
misogynist?"
No, you get married
because you want your husband to do that
for you. He got married because he wants
you to do that for him.
This isn't complex and the other
ingredient is love.
As a woman, you're much more in
touch with your heart than your husband
because you've been biologically
designed to nurture
to take care of children where your
husband has been biologically designed
to defend and protect the home.
So he needs that love,
expressions of love from you, reminders
of love. It doesn't have to be, "Honey, I love
you,"
and it just has to be real.
It has to be real. You have to really
love him.
You have the choice because of that same
free will
to withhold your love or
that's on one end of the spectrum
or to really show him how much you love
him. That's your free will.
And his expectation quite frankly is
that
you will do all you can to express
love. I apologize for the dog barking in
the background,
but let's not be distracted by that.
So that's what your husband is looking
for.
If he has that he's not going to worry
about your going out with your friends.
So you don't say to him, "Honey, where
am I
letting you down?" Don't go there. Instead
you examine your marriage.
You decide if you're really
living according to the principles of
marriage
that are innate in marriage and the two
basic principles are that you got
married to be happier
and so did he, and you got married to
experience
unconditional love and so did he. And
then the question is, what are you
consciously and intentionally,
and constantly doing to infuse
those two elements into your marriage? It
changes everything. Look,
you could subscribe to this channel.
Learn much about marriage.
You could read one of my books and
there's so much for you to gain.
Now if your marriage was on the brink of
divorce and yours is not. There's a
course for women but I don't think you
need that.
I think either one,
either just subscribe which you probably
should do anyway because you should
learn as much about marriage as you can
every single day you. You should learn more.
So learn about marriage and make your
marriage
a heaven on earth. Yeah.
All right. Blessings to you, your husband
and your family