There's nobody better to take on this particular job. You get 10 ways today to
take control over your life.
In 3 sets of 3 and then one finale. The
first set of 3: Get up, get out of bed. Do something. A lot of times when people
don't feel in control of their life, they don't even get up. That's an important
step for you to take control of your life. Get up. As you get up, you're going
to notice that there are some things in your life that need to be cleaned up. So,
clean up. And I mean clean up your face. Clean up your clothes, clean up your room,
your area, your home. Spend a little time doing that. And I don't want this to be
an overwhelming thing. So, start small if you have to. I got to interview Marla
Cilley a few years ago on my podcast Live On Purpose Radio. She's most
commonly known as the FlyLady. And her recommendation is "Shine your sink." If
your house is all cluttered and messy, at least go to your sink. Clear the dishes
out of it, shine it up. Even if you have to move the dishes to the side for now.
Clean up. It's going to make a big difference in how you feel. The third
item in our first set of 3 is to step up. And that means get a purpose.
Find something that gives you a reason to get up and clean up. Step up and it
means service. Find a way to serve, to create value, to promote something that's
important to your heart or to your community or your family. And your voice
matters. I might even say speak up as you step up. So, so far we've got get up, clean
up, step up. Now, let's go to our next set of 3. This next set of 3 has to
do with making choices. And I want you to first consider choosing positivity.
Positivity is a choice. And without getting into all of the psychological
reasons why that's true here today, realize that it's going to come down to
a choice between negativity and positivity. Positivity is not ignoring
the pain or the difficulty or the challenges that are real in your life. It
has to do with taking a position that allows you to do something productive
with whatever it is that you've got going on. Position, attitude. Those are the
same word in a lot of ways. My son is a pilot. He took me flying last week for
the first time in a little two-seater airplane with him at the controls. What a
thrill that was. Obviously we returned safely because he's a good pilot. As I
was sitting in the cockpit of that small airplane and looking at the instrument
panel, there were two prominent instruments. One on my side one on his.
Both of them were attitude indicators. And this is one of the most important
instruments in the cockpit. Attitude is not how you feel.
Attitude is your position. In an airplane, it's the position of the plane relative
to the ground or the horizon. And can you see that a nose-down attitude? Had you
right into the hard stuff. And nose-up attitude can give you altitude. And
that's important to remember in aviation. It's also important to remember and
taking control over your life. Choose positivity. While we're choosing
positivity, how about next we choose love? Some people don't even see it as a
choice. They think love is a feeling, it's not. It's a choice. It's about how you
show up in all of your interactions. And I don't think there's a neutral option. I
don't think you can just be neutral here. It's either going to be a love choice or a
hate choice. Either a little or a lot. Our interactions with other people are going
to be characterized on one side or the other. Let's make sure that it's a love
choice. Choose love. In this second set of 3,
there's one more choice that we're going to talk about. This one is all about
choosing freedom. Again, it doesn't always feel like a choice because sometimes the
circumstances in our world or our environment make us feel like we're not
free. Victor Frankl, arguably one of the most inspiring authors I've ever read
was incarcerated during World War II. He spent time in Auschwitz. And in that
environment, he said this. He said "Of everything that can be taken from a
human being, there's one thing that cannot be taken from a human being." And
he called it the last of human freedoms. To choose your attitude. In any given set
of circumstances, to choose your own way. That's what it means to choose freedom.
And if he can do it in a concentration camp, well that's pretty good news for us.
Most of whom are not in a concentration camp right now. Choose freedom. When your
mind starts to say "I can't". Can the can't. Will you? Just kick it out
the back door. Ask and said, "How can I?" And find the freedom. Choose freedom. Our
second set 3 is to choose positivity, choose love and choose
freedom. Let's go to our third triplet. To really take control over our life, we're
going to have to make some things happen. And I think the first thing that we make
is time. Make time. You're not going to find the time anywhere. Your time is
already fully consumed, right? When I say make time,
I mean allocate a portion of your precious time toward taking control of
your life. When people say, "I don't have the time", they're lying.
It's always a lie, why? Because everyone has the same amount of time --24 hours,
7 days a week. It's not different
for you than it is for me or for the Queen of England. We all have the same
amount of time. So, when I say make time, I mean allocate a portion of your
precious time toward what's really important to you. When what you do is
consistent with what your core values are, you have a right to inner peace.
That's what creates it. Make time. Some people say, "Not only do I not have
the time. I don't have the money." Really? Well then make some money. "Wait, is it
that simple, Dr. Paul? Yeah. Simple and easy aren't the same thing.
How do you make money? I'm not saying set up a printing press
in your basement. Last time I checked that was illegal. When I say make money,
think about where money comes from. If you need a certain amount of money to
solve one of your problems, my first question is, "Does that many exist?" You
might say, "No. Not really." Yes, it does. It exists. It's real. It's in
the world somewhere, right? And that's the next question: Where is it? Well, let's
narrow that down. It's either in your pocket or it's in the pockets of other
people. Where is your money right now? Well, if it's in the pockets of other
people, why would they give it to you? They would give it to you for one reason
only? One ethical reason. And that is that you provide them with something they
value more than their money. That's how you make money. You create value for
other people. The money already exists. It comes back
to you as a receipt for the value that you've created for them. Make some money.
Make time, make money, make friends. That's the last of this third triplet. You're
not in this alone. Every problem can be solved with a conversation. A
conversation with other people. Who knows more? You or other people? I mean as a
whole? Like, if we lump them all together. Other
people always know more than you do. Other people always have more resources
than you do when we lump them all together. The answers to your problems
are a conversational way. Make some friends. Part of how you do that is by
what I just told you. Make some money, create value for them. The kind of friend
you can have is dictated by the kind of friend you're willing to be. Start
associating with some people and make some friends. You've got 3 sets of
3 now that will help you to take control of your life. Here's the grand
finale. Be yourself. One of my associates Alex Boye, wrote a song about how we
all bleed the same. You might want to look that up here on YouTube. It's
amazing. And in that, there's a theme. Just be yourself
because everybody else is taken. That is true. Why would you want to be anybody else?
There's already somebody doing that. We need you to be you. And the best way I
know to take control of your life is to be yourself. With all of your strengths
and all of your weaknesses, they're all important for a lot of good reasons.
Don't be ashamed about who you are or how you operate. It's all uniquely you
and we need you in this world. In doing that, you can take control of your life
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