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Today, we’re going to go over the 7 Behaviours That Are Keeping You Single
Make sure to watch each one of them so you will know why you are still single!
Whether we like to admit it or not, we've all had our good share of dating disasters.
We can push on too strongly or behave too frigid at times. We could want different things or hold
opposing viewpoints, making it difficult to stay together. The argument is that some relationships
are destined to fail — whether due to change, poor timing, or incompatibility. But what about
other occasions? Other times, it may be our fault and we are completely unaware of it. Relationships
are a well-studied issue in psychology, yet there's still so much we don't know about love
after decades of research. Relationships may be difficult to navigate, and we're all guilty
of adding to the confusion with our drama and overthinking. Have you experienced a long string
of failed relationships and you cannot figure out what went wrong? Well, you are not alone in this
and the reason you fail it’s not about your looks or your money status. It is probably about your
certain behaviours that your loved ones did not like at all. Find out if you’ve ever done any of
these actions in your past relationships. Here are 7 Behaviours That Are Keeping You Single
Number 1 – Being connected to past relationships The question of whether you can ever truly be
friends with an ex is still debatable, but that's not the case. Some relationships will
always have more importance than others, and it might be tough to truly move on if you were the
one who was harmed. Seeing visual evidence of the person who broke your heart completely can
keep you returning to that place. Stop stalking your ex on social media if you truly want closure
and the kind of healing that will allow a new relationship to develop. Move on by pressing
the unfollow or hide button. Accept that there's a reason you and ex broke up, and don't start dating
anyone else until you've done so. Nothing will ever work out for you if every person you meet
is compared to this fanciful version of your ex that you've built in your head. Talking about
your exes and recalling them all the time is a common Behaviour That is Keeping You Single.
Number 2 – Unrealistically high standards Many women begin to believe that "there
are no nice men out there" or that "all the decent ones have already been taken."
"You can't trust a woman," men may think, or "Women are all looking to take advantage of you."
We may have excessive expectations for a spouse or identify flaws as soon as we meet them.
When we look at the world through critical or suspicious glasses, we are prone to dismissing
a wide spectrum of possible partners even before giving them a chance. We consider dating certain
people to be "satisfying," yet we never consider how that individual could make
us happy in the long term. When we think we're "settling" for someone, it's possible we're not.
We can end up in a relationship that is far more satisfying than the ones we've had previously.
Ironically, we often do not trust those who truly care about us at first, but after giving
them a chance, we discover that we've selected someone who respects us for who we truly are,
someone who can truly make us happy. So, you never want to throw away a special
connection you had with someone just because it wasn’t everything you hoped it would be.
Number 3 - Low confidence People firmly feel that they
desire a fulfilling relationship above all else, but they also often assume that no one worthy
enough would be interested in them. We all have "critical inner voices" telling us that we're too
overweight, unattractive, old, or different. We engage in activities that push people away when
we listen to these "voices." When people have low self-esteem, they find it difficult to leave
the comfort zone and pursue circumstances where they might meet possible partners.
Some people find it difficult to initiate eye contact with a stranger or openly express their
feelings to someone. We are naturally afraid of rejection. Due to a lack of confidence,
people may fail to follow their strongest inclinations when they are drawn to someone
and the possibility of love is never going to happen.
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Number 4 - Worries of competition
Fear of competition is typically caused by a lack of confidence. It's all too tempting to compare
ourselves to others, particularly when it comes to romances. It's all too simple to doubt ourselves
and to think that our partner could do better. This is very common for people to put someone we
like on pedestal. We may be quick to back away if we notice that someone else is interested in the
person we like. We may feel hesitant to compete, especially as we become older, and we may begin
to criticize ourselves, because we think that our time has passed, and we are too mature for this.
Dating is sometimes quite competitive. And we may resist putting ourselves out there due to our fear
of competition. We can be terrified of making a fool of ourselves or of not getting chosen. We may
even be afraid of winning the competition because we believe that the other person would be hurt.
It's often hard to take a chance and compete for what we want, but once we do, we usually realize
that facing our concerns was well worth it. As a result, we develop a stronger sense of ourselves
and boost our chances of finding the partner we truly seek. However not fighting for a person
that we truly care about is the common Behaviour That is Keeping people Single.
Number 5 - Too much mystery Having a sense of mystery about you is appealing,
but only to a certain level. Nobody is attracted to the individual who discloses nothing about
themselves anymore. You'll have to make yourself vulnerable and expose uncomfortable pieces of your
personality and life that make you who you are, especially if you want to connect with people on a
deeper level. “You cannot be an attractive and life-changing presence without being a joke or
an embarrassment to others. You simply can’t. You have to be controversial.” says Mark Manson,
a popular author of self-development books. Displaying vulnerability is
required in order to attract someone who will choose to be with you and only you.
Number 6 – Over dating When you're single these days,
it's very acceptable to be seeing multiple people at the same time. However, if you've been dating
numerous people at the same time for a long time, you may have become callous. Some people reach a
point when they don't expect much from their relationships, so they just go through the
routines and stop allowing themselves to be open to the prospect of making a genuine connection.
If that's the case, you might want to try slowing things down a bit.
Only date one person at a time, and when you're with them, make sure you're
there and give them a chance, rather than subconsciously scrolling on Tinder and Badoo.
Number 7 – Not going out Big apologizes for throwing
this bomb on every introvert, but if you want to improve your chances of escaping the single life,
you'll have to get out and meet a bunch of people. In this way, establishing a relationship
is similar to obtaining a job in that you must go out, connect, plant seeds, and follow it up.
Unfortunately, possible partners aren't going to appear out of nowhere when you're watching Netflix
in your room. Instead, you should take action and get out into the world, smile, make eye contact,
and let our friends know that you are looking for someone. You should try various activities and
date a variety of people and not sit in isolation submerged into your world, not stepping out
of your comfort zone. This is one of the most common Behaviours That is Keeping You Single.
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