in this video we're gonna be talking about perspective so make sure that you
stay tuned what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we
talk about the problem but focus on the solution and today's topic is
perspective so in this video we're going to be talking about some super important
stuff and it's all about perspective so please make sure that you share this on
social media because I guarantee some people you know have the glass is
half-empty type mentality and they need to see this too perspective is one of
the most fascinating things to me it blows my mind like it's really
intriguing to me how you can have two people and I in an identical situation
and both people are having two completely separate experiences right
what really drew me towards this topic is I'm somebody who has switched from
one perspective to the other like it's very hard to realize this but over five
years ago before I was working on my mental health when my brain was just a
hot mess I was I was the epitome of classes half
empty I was a type of guy who can literally look at any situation and talk
about how bad it is or how bad it's going to become all that stuff like it
ended up hurting a lot of the relationships I had like people don't
want to hang out with me because I was such a bummer to be around you know what
I mean and now like something that really blew my mind was my girlfriend
and I we've been dating for over a year and I'll never forget when we first
started dating she was like man you are a really optimistic person and I'm like
what like that is literally a sentence I thought that nobody would ever say to me
you know what I mean and there's some things that I've done to kind of switch
that perspective that's helped my mood helped my mental health and all sorts of
stuff and I'm gonna share some of that with you so first let's get started and
let's talk about perspective and give some examples of how they different what
might be going on alright so the first thing I want to do I want to talk about
this story that I heard in the book the happiness advantage by shawn Achor
amazing book check out my reading list it'll be in the description below but
anyways there's a story in there and it's about two shoe salesmen two
shoe salesmen okay they are sent over to for cut by their boss like yo you two
need to go over to Africa I need you to go sell some shoes right so they both go
there and they land in this village right and the salesmen were number one
he gets back to the boss and he's like yo this is terrible this is the worst
thing I don't know why you sent me here nobody wears shoes nobody is going to
buy shoes okay the second salesman gets back to his boss and says boss we have
hit a goldmine here people need shoes so bad right like isn't that crazy
isn't that crazy to see that there's two different people in the same situation
but they're completely different perspectives right so this is something
that's just so interesting so I work at a drug and alcohol treatment center for
those of you who don't know and I often bring up this topic of perspective to my
clients like if any of you out there are in recovery from addiction or in
addiction or know people in addiction like you'll know what I'm talking about
when I say this but I bring up to my client tonight isn't it amazing or isn't
it interesting how there's a whole group of you right here and there was a select
amount of you in this room right now who thinks that this is the worst just most
terrible rehab on the planet these people don't care about you they're just
trying to take your money they're just the worse right but then there is
another group of you in this exact same room going through the exact same
program who are thinking man this place has saved my life
isn't that interesting isn't that really interesting right so one of the reasons
I actually made this video is because a lot of you new subscribers here saw the
video I made about Nicole Arbour and the reason I want to do this topic is
because I get comments like this all the time to and I'm like this is really
interesting stuff all right so let's take a look at comment number one this
is from Lexie she says you genuinely couldn't have said it better and
definitely earned a subscriber Thank You Lexie the world needs more level-headed
dig deeper and find the solution kind of people like you and I like that you did
just straight up say how horrible she is or anything you gave credit for what she
was trying to say but understood the way she was presenting it was futile to say
the least anyway well said now here is comment number 2 on the exact same video
clearly you didn't watch the video if you think she was shaming people with
depression or you lack the capacity to understand what you actually said but
you're all full of insults to her let her aren't you says more about you than
her so isn't that fascinating isn't that fascinating that the first
person Lexie she can look at that and say like wow you really presented this
well and you didn't go after her he didn't attack her right and it's
something that I often try to do like this isn't a drama channel this isn't to
start crap with anybody like I do my best to put myself in those shoes and
try to see the the actual message that the person's giving us right but then
you have the second person who found my video insulting right and I didn't put
the whole chain of comments cuz me and him kind of discussed it a little bit
but he said that I was insulting her I was shaming her and all these other
things I'm like man that really is interesting what's that about you know
what I mean so as we do here all the time at the
rewired soul we talked about the problem but focus on the solution so yeah I get
it people have different perspective what's
the deal well the first thing I will say if you haven't yet make sure you
subscribe because I'm gonna do a detailed video on the neuroscience
behind complaining and how it actually creates a negative bias okay but it's
obvious by going over these examples that people have different mental
filters okay when when different kind of stimuli are coming in they're processed
differently that's obvious it's like there's these different lenses on the
same pair of glasses you know what I mean where some people sees the good at
some people see the bad right so what are the fans that you can do something
that you can do to day right now to start changing your own mental filter is
to start keeping a gratitude list okay this is literally the easiest the
easiest thing that you can do I get a lot of people who are like oh my god
this is gonna give me instructions on how to improve my mental health I am one
of the laziest people that you'll ever meet
so I try to give you the laziest solution that you can all of us have one
of these things there are different notes there are different apps there are
so many different things you could do write down five things every single day
that you are grateful for there have been numerous studies that show people
who keep gratitude list even if it's five to ten things a day greatly see
improvement in their outlook on life so what do you have to lose what do you
have to lose by simply writing down five things a day as you begin to do this you
will start to see that your mental filter begins to change because what
happens is is that you are setting up a habit in your mind so for example when
you get stuck in traffic and you're like oh my god everybody's right you begin to
start thinking like man I'm stuck in traffic but at least I got some good
music to listen to or man I'm stuck in traffic but man at least I got a car to
be stuck in traffic in you know what I mean
you will start to see these changes just happening automatically but you have to
set up the habit first okay alright so do me a favor do me a favor down in the
comments below let me know if you think that you're more glasses half full or
glasses half empty type mentality okay and as I mentioned please do me a favor
share this video share this with other people so they can start getting out of
that glass is half-empty type mentality okay but anyways if you like this video
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thanks so much for watching stay grateful today and I'll see you next on