Hey this is Kris Krohn, Limitless TV.
Today we're talking about the benefits
of smiling
I'm bringing on my friend and
guest mentor Marianne DeNovellis to talk
about the power of smiling.
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yeah that's a good one right there
Okay.
You know,
A lot of people,
their first interpretation of you, they
make decisions about you within the
first 10 seconds of seeing you. There's
some astronomical number of decisions
that we make about a person within the
first 10 seconds of seeing them. So what
impression do you want to give? What do
you want people to come away with you?
You know I have this rule in my
life that I want to leave people better
off than I found them. I want people to
feel better about themselves. I want
people to say I like me better when I'm
with you. I want to see you again. That's
something I learned from one of my
mentors Dan Clark really an orator, great
speaker. And you know what? I feel great
when I'm around him.
Here's the thing now,
sometimes some of
us have this really nasty condition of
RBF. And I'm not going to tell you
what that means. You can go look it up.
RBF looks like this.
This resting face
with a scowl on it and yet I've had so
many people come up to me in the past
after I was made aware of this medical,
air quotes, condition of my RBF. I had
people come up to me and say, Marianne I
was really afraid to approach you at
first. like you intimidated me. Guys I'm
5'3'', I weigh a buck 15. How can I
intimidate people? but this
Apparently that can be really intimidating.
So what are the benefits of smiling? Why would we
want to do that? what are the
physiological benefits? what are the
psychological benefits? and what are the
benefits with working with people. You
know in the industry that I'm in, I work
with people. An industry you're in guess
what? you work with people. Did you know
that you can detect a smile during email?
Did you know that you can detect a smile
through a text? did you know that when
you're on the phone with someone, they
can hear whether or not you're smiling
without even seeing you? There's a book
that's called, how to win friends and
influence people in the digital age. You
know that goes in this book talks a lot
about the effects of smiling and the
effects of emojis. Emojis! who would think
that emojis would be important? I'm sure
if you've ever read a text message
someone that you'd be like, "um I don't
know if you're joking or not I don't
know if you're serious, oh you try to be
sarcastic right now?". Guys, in my family,
we mastered sarcasm. Something I'm not
especially proud of but it there it was.
And so I'm constantly, I'm at last of ten
kids guys. There's so many conversations
going around my family, there's so many
ways to to talk to each other and when
sarcasm runs rampant it's hard to
know what people really mean. And you
know what sarcasm means? sarcasm means to
tear flesh.
who knew
that sarcasm can be
so destructive. So when you're thinking
about communicating with people think about,
what happens when you smile? what reason
do you have to smile? why should you
smile?
Did you know smiling burns more calories?
Smiling will actually raise your
metabolic rate. So if you're looking for
a way to lose weight put a smile on your
face. Did you know that smiling makes you
more approachable? If you're in the
business of working with people, I don't
care if you're on the phone all day, if
you have ever seen a person in your life
you're in the business of working with
people. Every time you go out, you
represent who? Yourself. You represent
what you stand for, you represent your
brand. And I don't care if people look at
you funny or not but here's generally
what will happen. If you go down the
street with a smile on your face and you
actually connect someone I to I and they
see you, and they see that smile. That
smile's a gift.
And sometimes they'll laugh and
sometimes they'll look over your
shoulder and wonder why you're so happy.
But guess what's happening on their face?
it's contagious.
The smile is contagious. In the courtroom
it's been proven that a smile is no more
or less likely to get someone convicted
or set free. But it has been proven that
if they do, their sentence is lighter
because it's a smile. Now what does that
mean? what does that mean, that the smile
affects someone in such a way? A smile is
a token of what? it's token of friendship.
It's a token of joy. It means so much.
A smile increases your face value. A smile
increases the connection that you have
with people. People want to do business
with someone they trust.
Now I remember I was down in Moab this
last week. An amazing excursion I got to
meet so many people and I was just in
awe at how people interacted out in the
middle of the wilderness. My family and I
took this Beach were off the main road
to go see the sand dunes and I don't
even know how we found this place it
must have just been because so it's so
popular in Google Maps but I got to tell
you, driving a minivan fully kids down
this road to find this place was a
little scary. Not paved, total dirt road
and there was even this thought in my
head like, "I hope we have a spare tire
because this is looking pretty much like
4-wheel drive only". So we get out to
these sand dunes and all along the way
we're watching these bikers go by.
Watching these people on ATVs go by. And
every single one of them smiled and
waved. Or smiled and gave a nod. Smile
that acknowledged us somehow. And I said,
what is it about this area? what is it
about this community that knits people
together? I have no idea who these
people are. I may or may not ever see
them again but yet they're acknowledging
me as a human being. Why? because we share
something in common. You and I, we share
something in common.
We're human beings, we're siblings on
this planet just trying to figure this
out. In the middle of wilderness, there's
an element of survival there. There's no
food. There's no water. You pack it in or
you don't got it. And there's a
camaraderie. There's an element of not
scarcity and survival, of not trying to
survive, and this element of I got your back
if you need me in there. I knew that if
we got a flat tire out of that
wilderness, I noticed my kids needed
water out in that sand dunes area the
middle of the desert, that I could ask any
one of those people and if they didn't
have an answer they could get me one.
There's an element of camaraderie there.
I don't know how many of you remember
September 11th, 2001.
And what that
moment in time did for our country.
Of what was born of that tragedy. Never before have I
experienced such unity as I did that day.
I saw flags flying on every corner.
I remember driving to work and seeing
the Stars and Stripes waving in every
home, in every business. And I remember
watching people as they passed me by on
the street
connecting. Human being to human being.
So what is the value of a smile?
Is I see you.
I acknowledge you. I may not
understand everything that you've been
through and you know what? I don't even
have to. Because your heart beats just
like mine does. Your brain thinks just
like mine does. And your fellow sibling
on this planet and so my gift today is a
smile. And sometimes it's more than
enough for another person. Smiling
increases your face value. Smiling will
bring life to everything that you're
wanting to breathe life into.
Starting with you.
It works this! It's awesome!
Smile!
Hey thanks so much for joining us. Marianne,
thank you for being here
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